How many times do you give people another chance ?
March 6, 2008 5:31am CST
Just wandering, and I don't even mean partners, I just mean freinds.How often do you try again ? Like the people who let you down.Do you go back again, Now before anyone gets the wrong idea I'm talking about people that make promises and never keep themAnd when I say promises, they just vounteer, I didn"t ask.I uasualy just ignore this next time I talk them, makes it easier.But how long before you stop beleiving in these people ?And how long would you hang round ?
2 people like this
11 Mar 08
it depends who the person and what they have done and how much that afected me. If its a close friend they can strech my nerves more than other people. I have had a good friends that are no longer in the picture because of the things they did to me and it was too much to ignore.
• Anderson, Indiana
11 Mar 08
When it comes to promises to do things made with the best of intentions that the person finds that he/she can't keep after all for one reason or another, I'm pretty easygoing. For instance, I have a friend who will tell me for sure that he'll be able to do something for me on a certain day at a certain time. However, he deals with a lot of different things such as his health problems (among them, diabetes and congestive heart failure) and unexpectedly finding himself called upon to help somebody else. These days, I find it wise in my own case to say, "I promise to try." I don't like to let people down, either, but poop happens. It would depend, I think, on whether your friend just tends to outrun her headlights and can't take care of all of her good intentions or whether she's playing some kind of game with you. I would guess the former instead of the latter, so cut her some slack.
6 Mar 08
first i will try to see why they fail to keep their promises. if the reason can be accepted, perhaps i will forget it and still believe them and give them another chance. if they fail to do as they promise for no reason, i won't believe them any more.
• United States
6 Mar 08
I have known people like this, and I understand what you are saying. People you think you can and should be able to count on go and let you down. I think it depends on the person and my history with them how many chances I would give. If it is a person I have known for a long time, who has always been reliable, I would forgive more easily and give more chances. But a person I haven't known that long, or one that has proven himself unreliable, I would probably only give a couple of chances. But not forgiving the mistake doesn't mean not having the person in your life anymore. It just means being gaurded when it comes to that person. Don't put all your hopes on what they say or do since you'll likely be let down.