Does your family get into your personal business????

@muse02 (213)
United States
March 17, 2008 5:26pm CST
My mother seems to think that she has to be in my personal business 24/7. She even went as far as to call Child Services because she didn't think my house was clean enough. She constantly tells me, in front of my three children, that I am a bad mother. Nothing I do for her is ever good enough. Does anyone else have this problem with family?
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@gemini_rose (16194)
17 Mar 08
Gosh that does not sound like she is just getting into your personal business that sounds like she is doing more than that hun. What a terrible thing for her to do to you, when I had my eldest child I split from the father, and his mother would do things like that to me, she would hold my baby and say things like your mummy is a silly cow isnt she, you are going to love grandma the best, he was only a few weeks old. She would also constantly phone social services on me telling them that I was an unfit mum, or when she had him overnight once she told them that I had dumped him on her saying I did not want him and that they had to come and take him because she could not cope with him. Now she was evil! My mum would never do that to me, I mean we are not really close but she is not like that. I am really sorry you have such a hard time with your mum, she should be loving and supporting you, has it always been like that for you?
@muse02 (213)
• United States
17 Mar 08
Sometimes I don't even think that she realizes what she does to me! One day she will call me yelling at me because I don't give my children five baths a day, and then the next day she wants me to come over and do stuff with her. She is a very confusing woman!!!!
@gemini_rose (16194)
18 Mar 08
Have you tried to talk to her about it, or is she one of those that you just cannot talk to about how she is? My mum always goes on about what a witch my grandma is with her just lately and how she speaks to her on the phone, just lately I realised that my mum is doing exactly the same thing and I do not think she realises, and I know I dare not say anything!
@dragon54u (31638)
• United States
17 Mar 08
Fortunately, no. But if your mother is criticizing you in front of your kids, it's time to take her to a neutral location and (no, not whack her!) have a heart to heart, honest talk with her. Perhaps she feels she wasn't a good mother and is trying to keep you from making the same mistakes? Think about this before you talk with her. She'll deny it, of course, but if this is the case, it'll give you a base of understanding. I have a friend who had the same situation. She laid down the law to her mother and told her she couldn't do that or she wouldn't be able to see the grandchildren. The abuse stopped and within a year they had solved their problems with a lot of talking, tears and yelling. It was the best thing she could've done! I hope you find a way to keep your mom in your life and raise your children as you see fit.
@muse02 (213)
• United States
17 Mar 08
I have tried talking to her about the way she treats me. We have had several heart to heart talks. It will stop for a few months and then it starts all over again.
@rovian (1927)
• United States
17 Mar 08
My mother treats me like I am a small child. She tries to tell me when to go to bed, when to eat dinner, and when to get a haircut. It is very annoying.
@muse02 (213)
• United States
17 Mar 08
How old are you? Do you still live with her? If so, That is probably why.
@rovian (1927)
• United States
17 Mar 08
I am turning 24 in August and I do still live with her.
@tessah (6621)
• United States
20 Mar 08
i used to. with my father and grandmother. not anymore. i finally told them if they couldnt respect my home and family, that they had no part in it anymore. drastic measure sure, but constantly having someone screaming at you that youre doing everything wrong in front of your children and belittling you, is not good for the kids, and they are more important than trying to keep a relationship with people who dont really care about you anyway or they wouldnt take pleasure in hurting you.
@ruby222 (4848)
19 Mar 08
Hi ...a Mum to 3 grown up kids here...3 grandchildren.. Im here if they need me ,but I hope whatever I do is never seen as interfering. I try to keep my opinions to myself,i know I wouldnt have thanked my Mum for interfering. Goodluck and I hope you can resolve this issue.
@barehugs (8986)
• Canada
18 Mar 08
Even if this person is your Mother, You don't have to put up with this from her.You have the right to live the way you want, and she has no right to interfere. I would face up to her, and Tell It like It Is! Either she minds her own business, or gets out of your House, Never to come back! You have to be Very Firm with her. She will not back down unless she knows you are Very Serious about this matter. Do this at your first opportunity and get her out of your Hair!