civil or church wedding.

@ciades (1624)
Philippines
March 19, 2008 3:08am CST
Which is the best civil or church wedding? Mostly of ladies like to be married at church. They said its more than bless than just to get marry at the civil. I agree with that and that is my dream. But as practicality and if your budget is less. Civil is the last option to make. So for you, which is the best? civil or church wedding?
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11 responses
• Norway
19 Mar 08
Every girls dream is to walk in the aisle, wearing her dream gown, and watching her prince waiting for him in the altar. So if we have the budget and the time to plan, I would definitely go for a church wedding. And I think, I deserve to have one. And everybody deserves to have a wedding of their dream, right? But for practicality reason, couples now would go for a civil wedding.
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@Galena (9124)
19 Mar 08
that's not my dream. my dream is a handfasting on the moors, before the old Gods, with my feet touching Earth and the sky above my head.
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@sid556 (31018)
• United States
20 Mar 08
getting married should never be about the money and where do you get your figures? I am a woman and most of mu friends really don't care much abut marriage. I certainly don't. to be honest, I don't even know the difference between a church and civil wedding. Does a church wedding expect you to subscribe to a certain religion...like theirs? ...that'd be a no for me. i guess if i ever were to considr marriage again , I'd go with the civil option. I surely would not want to get into someones religion. this is all hypothetical for me anyway...I really don't care....marriage is not an important aspect of a relationship for me.
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• Philippines
20 Mar 08
For me, I prefer church wedding. Some people would say that church weddings are costly that is why they settle for civil wedding. I don't have anything against that. But it would really depend on the couple. If you really want a grand church wedding , it would cost you. But church weddings need not to be expensive. Just the same, it would really depend on the couple. How they plan things out.
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• United States
19 Mar 08
My husband and I were married at the Courthouse. The first reason being that I do not do well in crowds as they tend to bring on panic attacks...and that's the last thing I wanted happening on one of the happiest, most memorable days of my life. The second and final reason was because of the financial aspect. It was waaay cheaper to get married without the cost of the church and such. All in all, it was a very beautiful ceremony. Lots of my family came to our ceremony and I wouldn't have wanted anything else. Our little girl was even the flower girl...she was absolutely beautiful in her lacey white dress and she loved being part of our wedding.
@quatelmon (957)
• United States
19 Mar 08
Since I am not a religious person, I will most likely be having a civil ceremony. That is, if anyone ever wants to date me. :P I would love to just take two weeks off of work, get married in Vegas, and spend all the money I'd spend on a big celebration just having fun with my new husband and whatever friends and family wish to join us. I think that getting married is really more of a contract now a days, anyways, to most people. I personally only see the need to get married is if you're sharing finances, etc.
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@Modestah (11195)
• United States
19 Mar 08
absolutely Church wedding all the way... what is a civil union? a legal piece of paper, but I do not even understand by what authority the civil offices claim one to be married or unmarried - how is it even binding, it is a contract sure but to what? what is marriage to the civil offices? what makes it a marriage? the civil union I think is just secular and as so many say "it is just a piece of paper"
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• United States
19 Mar 08
I want neither. I'm not Christian, but I hate plain civil ceremonies. I'm writing my own ceremony and it;s being held in a non-religious wedding chapel.
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@mamasan34 (6522)
• United States
19 Mar 08
I have been married three times. My first wedding was in a chapel. My second wedding was at the courthouse and my third wedding was at the courthouse. I re-married my first husband. I honestly don't think it matters where you get married just as long as it is special. I guess it makes a difference when it comes to what you want in your wedding. Some people want the whole shebang with the big wedding and the big banquet afterwards, some just want something simple and quiet. I like the simple and quiet. I would love to have a garden wedding in the spring or fall.
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@Galena (9124)
19 Mar 08
I would never ever ever have a church wedding, as I am not a Christian, and it would make a mockery of my wedding vows to make them to an entity I have no beleif in. sadly it's not possible to have a legally binding Pagan wedding, so I have to have two weddings. my true wedding, where I swear before my Gods, and a legal ceremony, where we sign the paperwork. so for me a Civil wedding is the ONLY option. a Church wedding would be meaningless and innapropriate to me a Civil ceremony is a legal document best of all is my true marriage of the soul beore my Gods, and the Earth beneath me and Sun above. it's disgusting that if I include my religion in my marriage, the government will not accept it as a legal ceremony.
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@williamjisir (22909)
• China
19 Mar 08
Hello dear ciades. To begin with, I am married and I had civil wedding as it was not popular to have church wedding in my city. But I think that church wedding is more interesting and significant and romantic. What is the most important of all, we could get bless from the priest. Given another chance, I would choose church wedding.
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• Philippines
19 Mar 08
Personally, I'd prefer a church wedding over a civil one. I believe that when you get married in church, you get God's and the Churchs' blessing wherein in a civil one, it's just a piece of paper signed by the judge (although it is considered legal as well). Church weddings can be expensive compared to civil rites, but there are many ways of making a church wedding less expensive than it usually is. Just think "less extravagant". Come to think of it, whether you choose to get married in a church or in a civil rite, it doesn't really matter. It's the love that you have for each other that matters more than anything else. :)