Dealing with people...

That's a tough call...maybe you should just fess up and say that you are so busy that much as you would like to entertain that you have all this work to do....or ask them if they would like to pitch in....that would surely make someone scatter!

I am in this situation most of the time. I dont have tell them that I have work to do, but instead make thim sit comfortably and keep doing my work. I talk to them though. I have lost a few visitors though, I dont mind loosing them.

If I were in this situation....I would tell that person at the door that we are busy and ask them if they could come back later.

Your father is just an easygoing person, and perhaps that's why so many people come over and pay a visit. For me, I just like people around me, without them , I can be lonely.But when it happens that I have to set aside some personal time for myself, I just speak it out directly to those people.And I believe they will understand that . As for errands or housework I think i will just do them after they have gone. People are the most important thing in my life. Good day!

That is a tough one. It would be difficult for me to ask them to leave, however, if it repeatedly happened I might say "It was so nice of you stop by but I have some errands to run now so we will have to cut this visit short" I would then go get their coats or start walking toward the door... Good Luck. I am glad I don't have that problem! It would be frustrating and awkward.

Oh,I will tell my father the things I need to do on the next day and how muche time I need to finish these things,and tell him that he must assure that we can not take too many time to host people.

I was that person that wouldn't go away today. We had bought our best friends a new grill, and delivered it to them. at 10 this morning. We stayed until 9PM. My husband and her husband went and bought things that were needed for a good Bar-b-Q. My girlfriend does all her chores around me whether or not we are there. I am used to it, she's been that way for 10 years. I used to think it was rude, but I got over it quickly as I got to know her and that she wasn't going to change for me. I would make myself at home and watch her, or I would pitch in and help when I can. Sometimes she's picky about the way things are done, so sometimes its best to just stay out of her way!! Maybe you can greet your friends at the door and say... heyyyyyyyyyyy you are just in time! We were about to rake the yard and hand them a rake. If they were true frineds, they wouldn't mind . I do understand your father is old-fashioned and that is probably not an option.

A bit like you, we're out in the country so we know that someone has made a special effort to come & visit. To be honest, sometimes we're just so grateful that someone has made the effort to come out that we don't care that they haven't called. However, I do know what you mean. There's things that need doing around the place whatever guests you have, and if you don't do them then you'll need to do them later. My solution is to ask the guests to accompany out to whatever part of the place I'm working on. Grab a couple of cups of tea and some cake & they can watch me work (or chip in, I hope!). Our friends know what we do, so they don't get offended. If your father is too polite to say you have things to be getting on with perhaps you could drop very heavy hints about the state of your clothes - sorry I'm such a state i was just ..... , you just caught me .... If it doesn't work then just relax, go with the flow and relish a bit of sit down socialising!

I tell my friends and family to give me call before comming. I have told them that I don't like people who do not inform before hand. Next time those people come, tell them that it will be better if they could inform before hand, since its hard for you to change your plans every now and then. If they are considerable, they will understand. If not ...dont care..:)