abuse?

United States
April 4, 2008 11:23am CST
what do you think of parents that push their children to perform who really don't want to? or the parents whos child particapates in beauty contest before they can walk? fake teeth, hair extensions, make-up galore, ect.......
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@eden32 (3976)
• United States
4 Apr 08
I think the word "abuse" is misused and to an extent over used. To say that parents who push kids to be competitive are abusers is not accurate or fair, parents who hurt their children are abusers. Parents who push their kids are making poor choices in my opinion. Perhaps they're not an example of good parents, but their also not abusers for it.
• United States
4 Apr 08
i can see where it is not a form of physical abuse but why wouldn't it be a form of emotional abuse? i am not saying that children don't like to perform i am asking more for the child who is still to young to make the choice. like the pagents for infant and toddlers like how do they even know they exist? why is it not emotional abuse if a parent is instilling this vision of beauty in a young child they when they are teenagers they have an eating disorder who is at fault then? is abuse then? or if they pick on others cuz they are not as pretty are they the abusers then???
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@eden32 (3976)
• United States
5 Apr 08
In the extreme examples, than I will agree with you that it's abuse. But I think those extremes are just that, not representative of the average pageant or soccer mom.
@deebomb (15323)
• United States
4 Apr 08
I think it is a form of abuse to force a child into any performances. i hate to see those beauty pageants. It is like telling the contestants and the audience what beauty is. That is very harm for every one. It is so false. I would never encourage a child to do those pageants.
• United States
4 Apr 08
i totally agree
@deebomb (15323)
• United States
8 Apr 08
ericksmerick I may be a dushbag for not wanting to see kids dressed up with make up for an adult and wearing clothe that are way too adult for them Kids should act and look like kids not imitation of adults.
@jesbellaine (4157)
• Philippines
4 Apr 08
Few years ago, I have watch "The jenny shows", the show was about kids ranging from 3 to 12 years old girls who are into a beauty contest of fashion shows. They are very pretty and with their face posted on the magazine, you will not say that they are kids, you would tell that they're in legal age. When they interviewed the kids, it seems that they were raised to participate in different contest etc.., they don't even know how to play with other kids and most of them don't go to school, instead, they were taught at home. Their parents say that they are building a good career for their kids. They have pretty kids that have talents so why not use them? (accdg to one of the parents) so to make the story short, a lot of viewers disagreed with the parents and so I am. It is okay if kids joined those contest but it should be for FUN for kids not to have them worked for their living... their parents don't work anymore.. that is the saddest part.. they let the kids work.. and the 4 years old angel there said these "I WISH I COULD PLAY WITH THE KID AND GO TO SCHOOL LIKE MY COUSIN".. see.... it breaks my heart.,.
@kezabelle (2985)
4 Apr 08
Personally I think its disgusting adding false hair and eyelashes to a small tot and make up simply to try and prove to the world your child is beautiful. My children are beautiful to me and that is enough in my opinion, they do not need make up or false hair to look beautiful they allready are not just in looks but personality too I wouldnt change anything about them just to make others think they are beautiful or to win a stupid prize. Any parent who forces their child into doing something needs some sort of help as in my opinion its just showing up hidden issues that the parent has, as parents we should support our children in what THEY want to do not push them into doing something WE want them to do, it will only lead to misery and heartbreak.