Am i stupid for trusting him again?
By chechuva
@chechuva (1275)
Philippines
April 8, 2008 1:21pm CST
i have a boyfriend, he's now in Dubai. he's been my boyfriend twice already, i mean we broke up last year and i accept him again just early this year.
we got close because we shared lots of review materials. i helped him with lots of things. until we get along and like each other.
He lied to me before. he's a two timer. he didn't told me that he had a girlfriend. i ask him already about it but he denied it. until one day the other girl confronted me that she's the true girlfriend. and so he left me after getting all what he needs.
i accepted him again coz he said that he really doesn't love the girl.
and he had lots of explanations which i accepted. he had lots of plans for himself. so helped him again to process his paper to go to Dubai.
now he's there. we talked ones, 3 days after he got there. he didn't gave me any contact numbers or even assurance that we'll talk through YM. its almost 2 weeks that we didn't have any communication. at times i caught him online but he immediately log off. then theres's this time that he went online and he even talked with my friend and when i send a message to him, he didn't replied. there's a lot of means to contact me, if he really like to contact me.
am i stupid, believeing that he really love me?
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22 responses
@jobenmakapangyarihan (546)
• Philippines
9 Apr 08
wow. that guy was really lucky to have a girlfriend like you. because you're so understanding ,kind ,and helpful.
maybe your boyfriend is trying something sweet for you, maybe he is just try to ignore you so that you will miss him so much and when he comes back from Dubai, he will give you lots of gift etc.
hehehe.. "ate ang sarap mo po magmahal" 
@Gesusdid (1676)
• United States
8 Apr 08
to me looks like this guy just straight played you like a fool , he baisically used your money and your mind to get him to Dubai , ( which is a nice place for a vacation ) but to the point i think he used you and wants you to get the hint that he's not interested in you anymore...how can he talk to your friend and not you his girlfriend supposedly ? something seems not right , he's probaly cheating on you most likely , maybe with your friend , did you talk with your friend about what did your boyfriend talked with her about ? id say dont even bother with him cut off all contacts with him and move on since he's giving you the cold shoulder
@chechuva (1275)
• Philippines
9 Apr 08
i put him on invisible on my YM last night. i ask my friend to try talk to him and if ever he'll reply back to her. and he did talked to her, so i said he really have time to talk to me now. i tried to talk to him but he didn't replied even ones. thanks for the advice..
@Gesusdid (1676)
• United States
9 Apr 08
yeah since he has all the time in the world to talk to your friend, and not to you his girlfriend , something is seriously wrong , if this continues than its over , he sees no desire in you anymore ,..leave him and find someone else ,or sue him for shovling out money for on that plane in Dubai
@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
25 Jul 08
I don't think you are stupid at all. You are just someone who got used by this person you cared alot for. It sounds to me like he just wanted you to help him get what he wanted and then he left you by yourself. I have been done that way many times. It hurts and people can be so rude and mean. I do not have friends because of these kinds of things. I am happily married now, but I don't think this guy is right for you at all. You deserve alot better.
@Syrentie (17)
• Latvia
9 Apr 08
Oh dear, this doesn't sound good. Seems he just used you for his purposes. People in love never do such a thing. I think you should just forget him continue to live like he never existed. And never allow him to treat you like this anymore. He should be getting the idea that he may not always get what he wants from people.
@chechuva (1275)
• Philippines
10 Apr 08
i really don't want to think that he used me, though i know he does. it just really hurts me thinking about it. i don't want to put hate in me that will build bitterness in me. but i think i have to coz i'll never get through my grieving process. thanks for the advice. surely i will forget about him. though it takes time, but im willing to move on for myself.. have a nice day and thanks again.
@dhangski (3194)
• Philippines
9 Apr 08
You really love this guy do you? I think you're stupid. As for what you have said in here, I sensed that He didn't really love you...He had you as shock absorber. Girl go on with your life, He's not the right one for you. You deserve someone better than Him. And please, if you fall in love again, don't trust too much!!! Goodluck!!!
@chechuva (1275)
• Philippines
10 Apr 08
yes im stupid, but i won't let him do it again to me. i won't take the risk of trusting him again. im starting to get over him now. i decided to stop sending him messages and i already accepted that he really doesn't love me. its just so hard to accept that at the moment i open my heart again, he broke it and never considered what will i feel..
i hate him so much...
@qingyesun (1)
• China
9 Apr 08
leave that guy alone,he has no desir in you anymore, i saw similar case with my classmate,maybe he will connect you for the third time,learn your last lesson and give him your cold shoulder!!!
@cheenlly (3477)
• Philippines
13 Apr 08
hi i don't intend to hurt your feelings by saying this opinion of mine because i think he was just using you all the time and he didn't really love you truly. Well anyways don't worry because it's really normal to feel stupid when it comes to loving and it's not your fault to feel stupid. It's just happen you love him and that is not stupid at all. It is stupid when you continue to loved him and the relationship when you know the fact he is a great pretender, a liar and a cheater. As for an advice it's time to move on and forget about that stupid guy. You deserve to find a man that is worth of your love. He is just somewhere out there and soon he will reach you and your path will cross and that is a very wonderful feeling, just don't lose hope and don't close your heart. Continue to love and learn from your experience. Goodluck and wish you happiness.
@cherriemae (3370)
• Philippines
12 Apr 08
girl, i believe that when a person already lied to you, theres a possibilities that he will do that again and again..i dont say that you dont have to trust a person like that, but you have to have limitations to trust someone..see, you become hurt and become stupid again.. i hate those kinds of guys....
@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
10 Apr 08
I'm sorry to be honest with you about how I perceive this but for me, I guess he is not serious about you! talking to others and not to you is an indication that he doesn't like to have a contact with you, maybe he is the type of guy who just come or approach you for a help or just using you. Just wake up girl, you're young, smart and pretty and Im pretty sure, you will find better that this man who has no word! If he will still not make an effort to contact you with all those means, live him alone and move one! Its painful, hard but its the right thing to do or else you will always end up to a situation like this! I hope things will get better but if not..MOVE on...he dont deserve your love!
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
13 Apr 08
I would never ever say you were stupid. I will say that you are maybe too trusting. Don't get down on yourself for it. We've all been there and that is how we learn. I would not spend even another minute thinking of this guy. You sound like a sweet, kind lady. He took advantage of that to get what he wanted. If a guy has a girlfriend and wants to be with you because he doesn't love her .....run!!! He is a cheater. If he is staying with her, he is a user too. You deserve much better. Even if he didn't leave her, you have to wonder why she didn't leave him if he was not being anything to her. He is playing you both. Is that what you want? Please learn from this and move on.
@2btrueinu (700)
• Philippines
14 Apr 08
Well I think that he is not serious with you. I think you should forget him you can find your true love just wait. As I can see he just use you in helping him to process his paper sometimes we must open our eyes to see everything and accept the truth. You can feel it if he really loves you but when you said the he is ignoring you well better stop believing that he loves you sorry to say but the truth will set you free he is no worth your love. There is someone out there waiting for you. Go girl!!!!!
@mefadon3 (296)
• United States
10 Apr 08
First of all you are not stupid. You just have really deep feelings for this God and sometimes we do not use good judgment when we think we love somebody. He is definitely using you, and the sad part about that is he will be repaid for what he did to you. You do not need to put up with him treating you that way and I would suggest that you move on. He will continue to tell you what you want to hear if you keep taking him back. Let him go girl, let him go!!
@Darkopia1 (2)
•
9 Apr 08
Wow, thats harsh. Seems he was jsut using you, and trying to go out with 2 people at once. He doesnt love you if he ont even talk to you. Dunp him and move on. There are plenty of better poeple out there, dont hand all your hopes on one man
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
9 Apr 08
i dont want to sound rude.. but i think this guys really fooled you out of helping him again. That he does not really love you and now that he is in a place he wanted... you are left.. or dumped straight away.
You are better off without this man. you have many means to help him, i guess and when the next time he comes to you with a good explanation again, you might just accept this guy again.
I hope you have learned your lesson now, and please please even if he does talk to you, just tell him you have already decided to call it quits with him. Move on and dont let people like him take the better of you. please... spare your self such a heartache. he is not worth it.
@subha12 (18441)
• India
9 Apr 08
I fear that i think you did wrong by trusting his again. Believe me I saw similar case with my roomie. she actually loved a guy who was a two timer. still the guy confronted her in saying he will love her. she believed and he still had contact with that girl. he took all his pleasures and things that was needed from my friend and left her.
@ratyz5 (7808)
• Philippines
9 Apr 08
I wouldn't like to rub salt on an already open wound. As how you have described the situation, he basically fooled those close to him. Being a two-timer is already something to be wary about his uncertainties towards on dealing with people.
You're better off forgetting about that guy.
@angepange (123)
• Australia
9 Apr 08
honey you are not stupid. you are young and nieve, we are all like that to start off with until we get burned. i think this is the last time you will let a man take advantage of you. it sounds like you are very smart and he is obviously a dumb donkey :-) be strong and move on, he is not worth it.
@ayessa (1583)
• Philippines
9 Apr 08
Oh dear your story is really sad. im sorry to say but you are right. YOu have said it already you really are stupid dear. (Sorry for saying that)
Why haven't you learned your lesson for the first time he had fooled you and you let it happen again. Dear, I don't know if you bf is just a good jerk or you're really a good person to be played with?
Just a piece of advice. Forget about him. He seems forgotten you. Don't communicate with him anymore he's not worth having you. Move on! There's a lot of good men around just open your doors to them.
If you are wondering if he love you, I might say he doens't feel anything from you. 'cause if he do, he will never do all those stuff to you.
