How Do You Deal With Hedgehog People?

@luneliza (197)
April 9, 2008 2:41am CST
Hedgehog, prickly, jumpy... Does it ring a bell? In most of the cases they are lovely people, with a heart of gold, but they usually have something, a big frustration in their lives that makes them over-sensitive to certain words or situations. And when those situations - sometimes inevitably - occur, they become defensive, roll into a prickly ball like a hedgehog and God help you. Then after the storm passes and things come back to normal, they become as sweet as honey again. Have you had this sort of experiences? What is the best way to deal with these people?
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@Hatley (164654)
• Garden Grove, California
12 Apr 08
first I am really one of those people for just say something about fat people and I am all prickles and thorns for I hate being judged and we americans seem to do a good job of judging total strangers and mostly its derogatory too. so yes i bedome defensive. I bend over basckwards trying to be fair to people and not judge them and then bang someone comes up with all fat people do suchj and such and I am off or all old people just sit and drool and are sick allthe time.urgh that makes me want to throw something at them. what is the best way to handle me? be kind and do not judge. say some fat people do such and such and some old people are sickly.the operative word is some. no blanket statements please.
@luneliza (197)
18 Apr 08
Thank you for sharing your thoughts. I can understand exactly what you're saying, I used to have the same problem in high school and it was indeed like a burning wound that made me jump every time somebody touched it. There is one consolation though. People who judge other people show their own narrow-mindedness and it's not worth even bothering with them.
@busta1 (1029)
• United States
9 Apr 08
hmmm im kinda sort of like that if someone was to say something wrong to me i would make it a big thing and i become defensive and yeah yeah i get like that and after im cool den im all happy again lol 2 funny but im not like that anymore i just ignore people now works much better..
@luneliza (197)
18 Apr 08
Thank you for your answer. I can relate to what you're saying. I am like that, too, sometimes and I have tried both alternatives: becoming defensive and ignoring people. I agree that the second one works much better.
@rup011 (726)
• Germany
12 Apr 08
Yes I have such a person in my life and I can understand clearly what you mean to say. Its indeed very difficult to handle such people. But with time and experience its becomes easy. Such kind of people are very moody. When they are in their worst moods, its best not to mess with them. When the strom passes, they cool down themselves. They cannot help themselves, since they have this disorder, but we definitely can handle the situation better because we know how predictable they are. Its best to ignore them when they are in their hedgehog mood and once they are normal, we can be normal in our interaction with them.