i am never good enough
By spoiled311
@spoiled311 (5500)
Philippines
April 11, 2008 8:53am CST
no matter what i do, no matter what i give, i am never good enough as a wife. i have sacrificed a lot, but still, there is something missing. i dunno, right now, i am tempted to not care at all, just so it can be proven that i am never good enough. if i get blamed, it is okay, because i intended not to be good enough. but when you think you are already trying hard enough, and learn that you are not appreciated, then it is frustrating.
4 responses
@jeaniezheng (229)
• China
15 Apr 08
In my point,I think you love your lover more.This feelings are created in your mind not other's fault.so please adjust your condition and mood.
Good communication is helpful for you to relieve.If you not see high of somebody or something the condition will be better.
Hope you can relax.
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@rsa101 (37933)
• Philippines
15 Apr 08
Yeah I think you are right in there. Many times in our lives we are the ones that label ourselves we are not good enough. But in reality maybe try asking your husband if you really are not good enough and most probably he would not say so.
TRy to be positive about yourself and don't blame yourself and be caught in the middle of everything. Feeling less would make you feel down further.
@kezabelle (2974)
•
11 Apr 08
Im sorry you feel that way, you shouldnt need to sacrifice anything if you love someone and they love you there is always a compromise to keep everyone happy or if you love them it wont ever feel a sacrifice. Cant you talk to him make him see how unhappy you are or write it all down in a letter he can not ignore that.
@spoiled311 (5500)
• Philippines
11 Apr 08
he is not a bad person and he honestly truly cares...but like tonight, we fought, because he felt that i should ask my brother to pay for my parent's debt to me. he thinks that i love my brother more than him and i defend him more.
@whiteheron (4222)
• United States
15 Apr 08
So you are feeling trapped in the middle between your husband whom you love and your husband whom you love...
And he is jealous of your brother... wants your attention and appreciation, wants you to choose him before your brother...
Sounds like he is a bit insecure and needy now. Often times people get like this and say and do things they later regret.
It sounds like the two of you have gotten sloppy about expressing love and appreciation to each other... couples sometimes just take each other for granted and treat each other worse than dogs. A dog at least gets some atta boys and gets petted.
Sometimes you can change this by beginning to praise and thank him for things that he does... It is like this... You need to give sometimes in order to get.
And know that you and he are both deserving of praise, gratitude and appreciation. Spend time remembering what drew you to him in the first place and treat him as you did when he was the best.
Treat yourself well too... You can turn this around and make it better.
@gr8life (6251)
• Malaysia
15 Apr 08
Hello spoiled311,
Nobody is perfect. You don't have to worry and think too much whether you are good enough or not. As long as you do your part, you should always appreciate yourself. I understand how frustrated it could be when you think that you did and gave everything but still others think that you are not good enough. Enjoy your day and stop thinking about this.
