what if you were in love wih the most insensitive person?

I know how your feeling. I am with my partner who is 4 years younger than me. We met about 4 years ago, but I went back to my ex and he said I hurt him relly bad. I never forgot him and last June I got in touch with him and we got back together. He isnt a cudly type and I am. He hates it when I hug into him and it makes me feel rejected all the time. He always txts sending kisses and txts saying he loves me, but as far as the physical side goes I get nothing. I used to argue with him about it. Now I just leave it and ignore it. I love him to bits and I guess the hugs, kisses isnt important. Hes with me everyday and comes home to me, so I guess that must mean something. Hes 21 and im 25, I guess hes still growing up, and I hope that one day things will change and he can open up a bit more.

I'm in the same boat as you. This july it'll have been 7 years for us. Some days I just want to throw up my hands and walk away from it all. It's so frustrating you love them with all your heart, and they just don't even seem to care. I have llearned though that deep down, he does care, he can't seem to express it, but there's been lil things that he's done or said that have shown me. Sometimes I suppose you just have to really pay attention for those "little whispers"

Some people have difficulty with showing their feelings, even expressing them with words. It can be very off putting, but whether you give up on them or not, is really up to you. Do you feel he loves you, but just has difficulty with the "touching and hugging" thing? If you moved on, do you think you might get a lot more response from the next person? Do you want to give up on the time you've spent, coming to know him? It's really your decision, my friend. Brightest Blessings.

I love a sweet and thoughtful partner. And this aspects of guys that mostly woman wanting of. But, commonly guys are not sensitive as woman. If that is your mate personality or attitude eversince the first time you meet him...then there's no need to worried about. I understand what you feel so i guess one thing that you should do right now is to talk with him. Im sure he will listen. Sometimes an insensitive person is not aware that they are..Talk to him and express what you feel inside so that he will know about it.

If it really bothers you, then I suggest doing something about it. Maybe talking to him about how you feel he does give you any affection. If he says it's difficult for him to do, maybe you could try marriage counseling. My husband is very unemotional when it comes to most things that most people would be very excited, sad, angry about, but I have learned to tell when he really feels strongly about something without him getting excited, yelling, crying, etc. He is affectionate though.

Wow. First of all, what does this say about you? My intention is not to be mean, but if you are giving giving and giving of yourself to somebody who never gives back, sadly it seems it will always be that way. You cannot change another, only yourself or your view towards them, and what you do in response to their attitude and actions. Is this what you deserve? You don't seem to be happy or fulfilled in this relationship despite being 'madly in love' with him. Unless he changes and is no longer insensitive, how could this improve? A relationship takes two people, and give and take of two people. If things go right, it is due to connections and value and commitment from both people. If things go wrong, again it is due to a break in connections, goals, understanding from both people. One person alone cannot save a relationship, make a relationship, or ruin a relationship. I have loved and lost, and I have an ex-husband that I divorced. I have a spouse and family now that I love, and they love me back. I am nothing if not happy, at the end of the day. Don't cheat yourself, don't settle for less, and make sure that those you are willing to give your time and love to appreciate that and give that time and love back to you.

People are very different from each other. Some people really hide well what is going inside them. They fail to express their emotions by emabracing or hugging another person. It does not mean that they are not capable of loving or that they are insensitive. It means that they have a problem exresspisng their feelings. (c) ronaldinu 2009 - the more people I meet-the more I love my dog

i think its a sad thing that the person you love do not reciprocate the same feelings. these are sometimes very bad and you feel bad. why should you ask or beg for it? he should show them himself. may be also he is not one who likes to show?

And I thought I was the only one! I don't expect him to hug me or kiss me anything like that. What really hurt me is that he can be sensitive to others feeling but not me. I think what you can do is try a romantic dinner or outing where only the two of you. Go for a vacation or maybe a second honeymoon.

My partner is also not the showy but nevertheless, he is a sensible person and I love conversing with him. I would love to be cuddled, hugged and kissed too but I would never ask that from him, he must have the initiative to do it. As much as I wanna change, I don't wanna be the one to say it because in order for change to be effective, it must come from him. Maybe we could tell them indirectly that we'd loved to be kissed or hugged sometimes because some men would find it more difficult to do things being commanded on them. Most of them are mentally immature on these issues. Their awareness maybe high but their EQ is definitely low.

Hi, I can relate to that..i used to admire an insensitive guy when I was in my 1st year in college. I even sent him lots of love letters, not just a simple letters, but a personalized letters. But still, he doesnt seem interested in me. He is a male chorale member thats why he's so famous in our campus. A lot of girls are fantasizing over him. I dont think Ive heard any girl that he went out on a date. My guy friend said that my crush is a gay. But i didnt believe him.. Now im in my 3rd year in college, i saw him again. Naaaaaaaah, my guy friend was right... My advice for you is dont put your self into a shell. Move on, there are lot of better guys out there who can reciprocate your feelings.

hiii i was ther in same situation.I waited for some time...to get response.but didnt get any.So i walk away...Whenever i look bak i feel it was very much right desion of my life. let me explain u there are two types of poeple...few find it difficult to express themselve...but these poeple try to learn ..they try to improve themselves.. other category is - they dont givde response because its their way to dominate u...its their way to show u dat u need them they dont need u ...its controlling behaviour..what happen with other person is they get depress...they try more hard to get attention.. to get desirable response ...then these dominating poeple call them "needy","desparate", "senti"...n blah blah... My guy wan unfortunetly second type..so when i walk away...