Knock! Knock!

@juliefaye (1214)
Philippines
April 19, 2008 1:58am CST
I am reluctant to come back here in Mylot. I have some bad experience here before just like a kid being bullied in school with no apparent reason, I decided to quit and enroll in another school where my classmates are friendly, thoughful and loving. One of my friend there told me that the bully was kicked out of school and maybe I should try to visit, so here I am. After peeking and browsing on my former classmates profile, I decided to give it a try. Maybe taste the water first and be careful on choices of topics is what I put into mind. I hope that mylot is not the same mylot as I've experienced before and that my friends here are still warm. Did i made the right decision?
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@livewyre (2455)
19 Apr 08
I did the same for a while, took the $10 and cleared out. I now have a different approach, I do not accept 'friends' that I have not engaged in a discussion with... I do not participate in discussions that are going 'too far', and there are certain people I will not engage with at all. You just need to be careful about what you write the same way as you are careful what you say to someone in the street. Here's what I do... when I have written something I say to myself 'would I be happy with my mother, wife and daughter seeing what I had written?' if not, I try again...
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@juliefaye (1214)
• Philippines
19 Apr 08
all of us here have different cultures and upbringing, what we say true to us is wrong to others. It's just that we should justify what we are saying and first and foremost to be polite. But, no matter how you do it, there are people who tried to twist your arms and throw filthy words just to get even. In short, I leave for a while because i don't want to stoop to her level and be a monster too.
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@GardenGerty (100325)
• United States
19 Apr 08
That would seem to be an adult choice, when dealing with a childish bullying person,
@livewyre (2455)
20 Apr 08
I have witnessed some truly shocking behaviour from some individuals and also some really plain rude comments from people who just seem to have a huge chip on their shoulder and decide to take it out on mylot - I am sure that these people don't behave like that in the 'real' world, otherwise they would be completely isolated.. I personally like to try and inject some humour, but it can come out wrong, after all no-one can see you smiling on Mylot (unless you use emoticons)
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• United States
19 Apr 08
I'm still around myself. Happy 2008, a few months late. I'm also at a couple of other sites besides MyLot & the other one we met again at, as well as doing other things. A bunch of my friends here & I also managed to get another bad guy off of MyLot, but I don't know for how long.
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@juliefaye (1214)
• Philippines
19 Apr 08
Joe? is that you? what I remember is your avatar here before and in Yuwie as well as your name there. Woooh! kudos to you for getting rid of bad eggs here... maybe we should make an association or organization to kick out those trolls in every social site. what do you think?
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• United States
19 Apr 08
Yeah - one of those who also help with getting rid of the bad trolls here got banned from here for no reason. So Several of us have one of her avatars. At times, I think the bad eggs on Mylot is either a one of the moderators / admins ... Long story on that one.
@raijin (10373)
• Philippines
20 Apr 08
Hi there Julie, I am glad that you came back and hope to stay for a long time too. You are always welcome here, more so, missed as well. I do miss your presence here, because I find that most of your discussions are good and contributive that I enjoy to exchange views with you. You don't have to back down from a bully, me and almost all of your friends will be right beside you in-case a bully comes again right at you. (You could count me at these times, I'm just a PM away!) The only thing that bugs me is the star that is missing beside your name, I still don't know why you don't have any..
@juliefaye (1214)
• Philippines
20 Apr 08
Oh Mark! long time no hear, i think the last time was your birthday. I have earned a lot of good friends at the other site after here.. Though i missed interacting with some of you here and the warm friendship, i hope to feel some good air in this site. About that star, it happened a long time ago during the monster days. Anyway, it doesn't affect my earnings here, right? that's fine with me.. I'm so excited to see my long time friends here!
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@GardenGerty (100325)
• United States
19 Apr 08
I do not know who the bully was, but faces change around here constantly. You may enjoy it more now. Welcome back.
@juliefaye (1214)
• Philippines
19 Apr 08
This is what i missed in mylot, the interactive discussion.. i know though there are bad eggs roaming around, it cannot topple the good ones. I wish i can find more good friends here..
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@theprogamer (10539)
• United States
24 Apr 08
Well it seems like other trolls (or maybe higher orders) are going after various member's stars instead of just those that are most outspoken... {-I'll spare everyone the "I told you so" ;)-} Anyways, its still good being here. The star is just an annoyance... a lot of the other members are what can bring a person back and keep a person here... at least that's how I approach it. Plenty of people are warm even though there are disagreements here and there. Don't know if you'll find them, but there are a few prayer, thoughts, health, wellwish discussions that bring out a lot and show others that even behind the loudest voices rest some pretty kind hearts. You'll just have to experience it as it comes though Julie. For now, why not take it easy and slip in on your own pace. I bet it was a right or at least a good decision to come back. Oh and worry not about your 2/100 (thanks to Opera it loads the number up real fast before it "disappears"). You're part of a select group of two members I've seen that were able to do that... (maybe three). Plus it doesn't change who you are at all.
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@juliefaye (1214)
• Philippines
25 Apr 08
wow! you said it well... very true it doesn't change me at all.
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@ozzeth (942)
• Philippines
20 Apr 08
whos there? :) hey! welcome back dear..You made a right decision julie! just enjoy and stay happy here in mylot!
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@juliefaye (1214)
• Philippines
20 Apr 08
Thanks ozzeth! stay happy too...
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• United States
20 Apr 08
Hi Juliefaye, I'm glad you asked me to be your friend. I recognized you right away! I think you're also on the other site that I sometimes use. Things seem to come in waves on this site. I just started back here about a couple of months ago after taking a break and only visiting once in a while. I still posted now and then, but not as much. Everyone's been really nice here, so far compared to a year or two ago. But, recently, I've noticed a few bullies here and there. I haven't seen as much as the downright nastiness as I used to see a long time ago. I have had to deal with a few people who are just ignorant, socially inept, or just plain rude. Other people are dealing with someone who keeps marking people negative, but that doesn't bother me at all. I just move on and keep posting. If it gets worse, I will take another break and come back.
@juliefaye (1214)
• Philippines
20 Apr 08
hello Darlene.. yeah i did saw you on another post here and i'm looking for my friends from Yuwie because i'm pretty sure we have something in common...
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@gabs8513 (48715)
• United Kingdom
21 Apr 08
Sweetie you will be fine I am here to and so are your other Friends and we will not accept it ok you know that I for one will be here to back you Love and Hugs
@juliefaye (1214)
• Philippines
21 Apr 08
Hi Gabs, my angel...
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@gabs8513 (48715)
• United Kingdom
22 Apr 08
Hi its good to have you here back with me Love you
• Singapore
20 Apr 08
Hihi, Sorry to hear about your previous bad experience. I think something we must all accept is that there is black sheep in every community. So as long as the place is not dominated by people you prefer not to associate with, just sit around and have fun. I hope your new comeback experience will be a more positive one. Cheers!
@juliefaye (1214)
• Philippines
20 Apr 08
Thank you lordwarwizard! yeah i do believe too that there's a snake in every jungle.
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• United States
21 Apr 08
Well - at our other place, you at least have the power to get rid of those bad ones. Just don't knock on my door un-announced or you'll probably either end up having a heart attack, or you'll be laughing so hard that you'll forget where you are & why - ESPECIALLY around Halloween. The third place, I haven't seen you around there much.
@34momma (13896)
• United States
20 Apr 08
Hey Juliefaye, welcome back. mylot is great girl. I have never had a problem with people here. i've been here over a year and never had a problem. i am glad to see a friend. have fun and welcome back
@juliefaye (1214)
• Philippines
21 Apr 08
hello queen! good for you, you never had a bad experience here... cheers!
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@34momma (13896)
• United States
21 Apr 08
i really have been lucky that way i guess. i have not had any arguements with people here. i had a few post deleted by my own fault. other then that all is good with me and mylot
@jcj_111776 (3221)
• Philippines
22 Apr 08
Hi julie and welcome back...I tried visiting the other site from time to time and say hi to you. But been busy myself and just try my best to squeeze in some time for MyLot. I'm afraid there are still some who may be causing headaches to some members, based from the discussions that I've come across with. Especially with their star ratings that are regularly dropping. Welcome back!Just continue what you've been doing before here. I think whoever are making problems for others will eventually stop. Just like the bully you've mentioned. Sooner or later, their actions will come back to hound them.
@juliefaye (1214)
• Philippines
22 Apr 08
you're right my friend! I know i can count on you all here... have a happy day and be a blessing to others!
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@rsa101 (13806)
• Quezon City, Philippines
21 Apr 08
Yeah I guess we all experience at some point that we are bullied or have bad experiences. But what I did was just try to cool down and come back again to post ans share my thoughts. No one can really harm you in any way if you would not allow them to. So welcome back and I am pretty sure that they will not harm you back if you want to.
@juliefaye (1214)
• Philippines
21 Apr 08
you're right! we have choices but sometimes it makes my blood boil if they personally hit me to get even because they know I'm right and can't simply accept it. and the worst of it, she open an account name bearing my name with a "dung" on it. even if you have a built-in saints in you, you'll surely burst into anger.
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@inked4life (4227)
• United States
20 Apr 08
Julie, if it's any consolation, I went through a similar type of experience here at Mylot. Not the bullying thing, but it just seemed that people were getting rude, discussions were disappearing and a lot of the fun went out of the site. I recently returned and everything seems very cool, and the payments seem to have taken an upswing which is good....welcome back.
@juliefaye (1214)
• Philippines
21 Apr 08
hello my dear friend inked! been a long time ago since our exchange of response in one of your post. How are you my friend? That's the sad thing here in mylot, some discussions were gone in the wind and some people take it seriously by reporting you to admin. Then the admin, took it off without even reading the discussion. I remember one discussion about music which disappeared, very childish isn't it?
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• India
19 Apr 08
Friend, I am new here. However I welcome you back to Mylot. Explaining the bad experience which you faced in Mylot may help others to be vigilant for not experiencing that bad experience in their stay here.
@juliefaye (1214)
• Philippines
19 Apr 08
Thanks a lot! I'll add you up.
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@rhane7315 (5673)
• Philippines
20 Apr 08
hello and welcome back to mylot. i think you have the right decision because i've meet lots of nice people here. hope you'll enjoy your stay here for good
@Emma_Wang (210)
• China
19 Apr 08
yes, you should make your own business ans make the right decision.
@sharay (2776)
• India
19 Apr 08
Iam new here..amyways, welcome back? u have defntly made the right decision of coming back to Mylot..i wish you have a smooth and plesant relation with Mylot henceforth