What would you do? If you felt that you were falling in love with someone,

Love - How do you express your love
@crackhead (1826)
India
April 22, 2008 2:45pm CST
If you think you are matured enough then would you tell the person that you are falling in love with them. Express your feelings towards them, Saying how much you care and how much u love. How do you like to express your love like the one in the picture or do you have some other ways to express your love? Or do you hold back your feelings worried if what happens once he/she rejects. Hope you dont want to break your heart if the person rejects your love. What would you do? I just want to share my response to this discussion along with you friends so i will wait for commenting on the discussions.
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23 responses
@Margajoe (4718)
• Germany
23 Apr 08
Hi, I would hold back until he makes the first move. I am not much for expressing my feelings. Most of the time Love goes by it self. It is important to talk, be good friends befor getting to serious. What accually is love? When you think about it, it is rather wierd. Take care.
@crackhead (1826)
• India
23 Apr 08
Well i exactly cant explain what love is, all i can say is Friendship is precious than love. Good Luck.
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@Margajoe (4718)
• Germany
24 Apr 08
Hi, Thank you, I believe you are right. Friendship is very persious. That is why I think that is the beginning of falling in love. Friends first, patients and then everything goes bij itself. Take care.
@crackhead (1826)
• India
24 Apr 08
Yeah to me family Family first then friends and every thing comes next. Have a great time on mylot and take care.
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@laydee (12813)
• Philippines
23 Apr 08
I actually had this type of dilemma way way back when I was younger. I started falling in love with a close friend and he's a guy who has a lot of girls falling for him. We were close and we talked a lot and I simply couldn't stop myself from falling for the guy. Not because he was handsome and all. But most importantly, I see something in him that I only see when we are together. He doesn't 'act' this way with our friends or in public. In fact, I noticed he's only like that in private. To make the long story short. I hid my feelings. I figured it would be 'usual' for him to get a proposal from girls so why should I do what he 'expects' right? I hid my feelings but slowly showed him after a few months (actually 2years). The hiding went on for about 6years all-in-all. And eventually, we went our separate ways not talking about the possibilities. Then after a while we met online. He has a wife and kids, I have a boyfriend. And we simply talked. It was then we agreed to spill out everything so that our chapter would come to a close. He admitted he fell inlove, the same time I did for him. We simply laughed. It was because of our cowardice and fear or rejection that made us lose and waste 6years. And now it's too late. Nothing will ever give those years back nor can we ever find ourselves in the same path. So my answer would be, It depends. It wouldn't be proper for a person to immediately profess their feelings, neither would a long silence do any good. I say be sensitive. Be sensitive enough to see and admit the signs that show the other's feelings as well as yours. Plus, trust your heart. And if you must say it, always remember that there will always be possibility of rejection but it's better to get rejection than not knowing at all if what you felt was true or not. I lost my best friend out of 'assumptions' and 'fears' but I did learn a lot from the experience. I'm really thankful we had our closure. It is always better to resolve issues before going on with another relationship. Thanks for the topic.
@crackhead (1826)
• India
23 Apr 08
You made me think a lot and i am just thinking how could you both hold on for 6 years, your friendship prevailed. I say friendship is stronger than love and you prooved it. But yes its good to admit it. If you had admitted it earlier i donno what might have been the consequences but that would have been a fair ralationship of yours. Thanks for your big big response and for sharing your expereience. After going through your discussion for a while i felt i cannot hold on for long and did give u the best response mark. But still u deserver some thing more than that.
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@laydee (12813)
• Philippines
27 Apr 08
Hehehe.. thank you. I wasn't really aiming for best response. :) I just could relate to the topic you posted. It brought me back to the memories. And it's really a great feeling to be able to express oneself regardless how late it is. It's truly better to say it when you feel in your gut that it's the right moment (and when you yourself could accept rejection) or the moment passes you by. Again, thank you for the 'best response' truly appreciate it. :)
@ozzeth (942)
• Philippines
23 Apr 08
I tell the person and express what i fell for him. Once i express it... i am sure with it. But sometimes, i am afraid to be rejected. Thats why i hold it and better to keep it by myself. Especially if you observed that person whom you love doesn't have any feeling for you. Some changes, aloof and no interactions. So, i will stop and just go on with my life. Its hurt but thats the truth. Important is he knows how i feel.
@crackhead (1826)
• India
23 Apr 08
But rather than holding the feeling to yourself might hurt you more right, Instead you can let the person know throught some other means like your friends, love letter or email .. etc.
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@ozzeth (942)
• Philippines
23 Apr 08
yeah your right dear...
@jesbellaine (4157)
• Philippines
22 Apr 08
I am girl so it is somewhat hard to tell the guy that I love him so I think I would express my love in simple way like being caring, thoughtful etc.., then hopefully he notice me or feel the same way too. Cheers!
@crackhead (1826)
• India
22 Apr 08
Wel as a girl you may not be able to express it to your guy in words, but being caring thoughtfull etc will let them feel that they are special to you. Thats really a nice way of expressing that you love some one. Cheers
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• Philippines
22 Apr 08
Yup! Thanks!
• Hong Kong
23 Apr 08
No I won't tell because I am a girl! I don't want to sound totally tradition but it's not in my blood to do anything or express anything. I might even ignore the person so he might think I am strange and provoke his interest in me (hopefully). I would rather wait for him to tell me how he feels.
@crackhead (1826)
• India
23 Apr 08
Wish you good luck and thanks for responding.
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@sphinx06 (29)
• Philippines
23 Apr 08
sphinx06 If I am inlove to a person (man) I would really tell him honestly that I'm in love with him, though its hard and there are two consequences that might happen if I am going to tell him, its whether he will stay or in the other way around. However, in my own idea i should let that person know how i feel before considering the result.Anyway, its up to him on how he will responds that feelings. If he will gone then i must accept it as long as he knows that there is somebody out there who is willing to give her love and care to him. If he will stay, well thats the price i've got for the confession that i did towards him. Second, I have to voice it out so that no matter what happen at least i got a chance to tell somebody how much i love him before he will totally gone in my life,or maybe through this way he will stay.. who knows we feel the same way..:)
@crackhead (1826)
• India
23 Apr 08
Yeah the way we express out feelings will also have an impact on the person whom we confess to. Its obvious that there are only two options either an approval or a rejection, no matter what ever be the result. Express it and try to make it possible thats what i feel.
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@subha12 (18453)
• India
23 Apr 08
i think if you are truly feeling that you are falling in live, you should express.now this can be done in different ways. if you think that the person can reject you, there is always 50-50 chance. if you are feeling something , it may be most probably that the person has got the signal and also can feel so. moreover if you say nothing, hen also it will be untold, is not it? its no better than telling and then got rejected at first place. also the chance is there that the person rejects initially but later submits?
@crackhead (1826)
• India
23 Apr 08
Yes there are chances for a person to get back to you, even if they initially rejects. Expressing is our duty and responding is the other ones. So i think its good express rather than struggling with in oneself.
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@Gesusdid (1681)
• United States
23 Apr 08
yeah i have to , i mean time is very short on this earth and you gotta express how you feel sometimes , well to me all the time , cause that person yuo love can be love by someone else who isnt you ..and then you would feel like a sucker kicking your self in the butt forever cause you didnt say what you wanted to at the moment ..
@crackhead (1826)
• India
23 Apr 08
Yes as you said life is short and you got to express your feelings. I understand what u meant will happen if u dont express. Thanks for responding.
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@rexiemay (402)
• Philippines
23 Apr 08
i am this person who doensnt tell someone that i love her if he is not showing ineterst in me. i want to be courted first. and if i think that he feels the same way, thats the only time i would express my feelings for him. i guess our culture is conservative thats why i am not used to express my feelings to a guy.
@crackhead (1826)
• India
23 Apr 08
Conservative culture, Being an Indian i know what and how it would be. Most of the girls here hesitate to express their love and feelings towards some one. Thanks for responding.
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@Hatley (164450)
• Garden Grove, California
23 Apr 08
This is what I did do when I knew I was falling in love, I said Garland I love you so now what do we do" and the answer was surprisingly as we had only known each other for five months, will you marry me?. It was all that simple and I had been so nervous I almost passed out. Of course we wereolder but romance doesnt know an age really. I was thirty and he was thirty seven so we did know our own minds.He was a person I felt comfortable with as he took me just as I was faults and all . He was my best friend and mylover.what more could anyone want?
@crackhead (1826)
• India
23 Apr 08
Well what more can i say ? you are gifted for that. Its great to get such kind of positive response.
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@qiusha (8)
• Canada
23 Apr 08
it is a secret i ll never tell if someone i had loved. i loved the one who was always hurt me. i cant bear the same thing came to me. so, just belie. it`s fine. except he would tell me that he loves me . ha...
@crackhead (1826)
• India
23 Apr 08
Well as you say its a secret , how long can you hold on to that. How will you know if the opposite person is also of your kind? Anyways thanks for responding.
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• China
23 Apr 08
Your words get me back into the period of my university. I was allured by one of my classmates exactly when I came in my university. He is a handsome boy and has very good achievement. In my mind, he is perfect! After following him stealthily for two years, I decided to tell him my "love". At least, I think it was love. The result was funny. He said he was falling in love with his younger sister, a girl who was really pretty. I was striken! I thought he treat the girl only as his family sister! I became finding new persons and new things to offset my pain. And I find that a boy is paying great attention on me. He is a warmhearted boy. I was inspired by his hard work and fall in love with him. He is now my husband.
@crackhead (1826)
• India
23 Apr 08
Thanks for sharing such a wonderful love story with all of us. Hope you both are having a great time. I am happy that i did remember you of the old university days. Thanks for sharing and responding.
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@Jezebella (1446)
• United States
23 Apr 08
it depends. It took me three months to tell my ex that I loved him, but a week for my current boyfriend. Its hard to know when you'll fall in love, but I believe you shouldn't hold back telling someone you love them for any reason.
@crackhead (1826)
• India
23 Apr 08
Well may be u gained some confidence from the earlier relationship. Yeah its nice to reveal your feeling to the one you love.
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@magrylouyu (1632)
• United States
23 Apr 08
I know the truth hurts when someone says sorry not interested. I've had it happen one too many times. But it's good that you get it out in the open about how you really feel about that person. I would tell them. Hopefully they feel the same way too.
@crackhead (1826)
• India
23 Apr 08
Sorry to know that u were hurt. But thats nice to learn things from the past. Its always good to stay open to people. Thanks
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@mnflower (1301)
• United States
22 Apr 08
If it was me and you are mature enough I would tell them, better to know how they feel, then to keep feeling that way and finding out later that they not interested you would just be wasting you time..I think it is important to let the person know you already know your either going to get a good response or not a good one and either way then you can really just move forward and being young you can move forward and not waste your time and energy on it...
@crackhead (1826)
• India
22 Apr 08
"it is important to let the person know" i absolutely agree with this statment of your irrespective of the response from the one , we have that responsibility and we can express it. Well time and tide wait for none and it shouldnt be too late weather that is good or bad. Thanks for responding.
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@itsmepinky (1301)
• India
22 Apr 08
well i would wait for that person to confess his love to me. Somehow i feel i shoudn't take the initiative coz it might spoil my image on his mind. ~pinks~
@crackhead (1826)
• India
22 Apr 08
Untill and unless he doesnt have the same feelings you have and cannot understand your feelings he might not get into that bad opinion on you. So i guess you can dare express your feelings in some way or the other rather than in words. I being a guy i can express it , take her to places which she likes, arrange her dinner with her favourite dishes and show how much i care when she needs some help. I dont even if my love is turned down, cause it was me who liked that person and its not necessary that they like me. But i know we just get hurt and broke our heart, obviusly we should be ready for that.
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@Bizziebod (3526)
6 May 08
It would very much depend on the situation, I think unrequited love is a dangerous thing and can turn people into stalkers and worse! I think the answer is just to be straight with that person or you could just see how things go if you think you are strong enough to tame your feelings. Personally I wouldn't just blurt it out as that would get anyone running in the wrong direction, just be subtle maybe send them a card or ask them out for a drink. If this is a situation you've found yourself in, then good luck with it.
@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
25 Apr 08
Hello there friend, If I were to love someone, I would shower her with everything that I could possibly could and willing to. Material things are just the "side" perks but if I really love her, I would be willing to come and wait on her even though it's midnight if she asks me to come and see her. But of course, the reasons must be valid and not just because she's plain bored, LOL. Other than that, mini sacrifices that I'm willing to make like waiting for her to complete her studies, waiting for her to be ready to commit fully and taking care when she's sick etc. I think different people would be expressing love differently but when it does come and smack you in the heart, you just can't run but face it. . Happy mylotting to you and take care.
@ruthinian (2311)
• United States
23 Apr 08
As a woman, and a matured one, I don't have any problem expressing my feelings with someone I love. Well, of course, I have to make sure that he also feels the same way, otherwise, I would rather keep it to myself. Rejection on the other hand, is not that bad for me too. But I have my way of evading it that's why I am not really scared of it.
• Philippines
23 Apr 08
i think its best to let the person know how i feel then accept whatever consequence i'd get. i would be more relieved if i do something about it rather than do nothing at all.