Massaging the male ego.
By ruby222
@ruby222 (4847)
April 23, 2008 5:11am CST
Tell me girls..do you have to massage your mans ego?????
Im afraid that I do !!!
6 responses
@gemini_rose (16264)
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23 Apr 08
Yes I think that the male ego has to be massaged once in a while to keep them believing that the world cannot turn without them!! I do it every so often when I see his spirits are flagging, does not do to do it too much though or else he gets too big headed!!
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@ruby222 (4847)
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23 Apr 08
Im glad to hear that you do it though!!!...sometimes i think that im the only softy on this planet!!...but the male does have a tendancy to look a bit crestfallen if things dont go according to plan...so the motto is Rose...if it flags...massage it!!..sorry i couldnt resist that one!!!
I walked right into that one didn't I??!!
@p1kef1sh (45681)
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23 Apr 08
Ruby let me put it from the male perspective. We are fragile little creatures that are always seeking approbation from our partners and women in general I suspect. Deep down we are a mass of insecurities brought on by the fact that all our lives we have been told that we must succeed in everything. Women are raised differently I think. There is an assumption that a woman can cope, although many cannot in fact. It is all part of that nurturing caring stuff. We hunter gatherers need to know that our women are pleased with our efforts on our mutual behalf. So we look to you to encourage us in what we do. The fact that you do so, just makes us more confident that we are clever boys, but we also know that we will have to please again, if we want to repeat the warm glow that your massage gives to us. Spaniels are much the same.
@p1kef1sh (45681)
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23 Apr 08
No not all females are totally confident and some suffer from similar anxieties. But in men's eyes women are copers until proven otherwise. I used to have a "team" of 49 women. All were competent, but some were more so than the others. I was the boss, they all acknowledged that, yet they knew that if they put their minds to it they could twist me round their little fingers, and often did. We came up with all sorts of good stuff because they were able to seed what they wanted in me and massage my ego until they got what they wanted - usually. I have to say it was effective. Some might call that manipulation. But the point is, they recognised that a little massaging and they could have things working right for both the organisation and themselves. I haven't put that very well. But I hope that you get the gist.
@ruby222 (4847)
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23 Apr 08
AHHHH...I get where you are coming from Piky dear...so you males are a mass of writhing insecurity..but lol what about the females???...are we all so totally confident ??....I take on board that it is naturally assumed that the male should be the provider...but thats not by all means possible..as Mr Ruby could tell you...every one does their best...and he has done his...but now he cant be the hunter ..provider..at least for the meantime..and he has had to accept the fact..as you have had too.....But I do very much agree that the `to be needed` syndrome is very very important....we all thrive on that...just the knowledge that we are helping someone in even the smallest way..casn be a good feeling....but im not sure if I can relate to a spaniel in the same way¬!!!!!
@checapricorn (16061)
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23 Apr 08
I guess we need to since they need it!Like appreciation of his thoughts and care for us, his patience and love and his hardwork and undying support!
@palonghorn (5479)
• United States
23 Apr 08
Been there done that, luckily I am with a wonderful man that I don't have to do that. He knows his strengthes and weaknesses, and he does not focus on his weaknesses, so I don't have to constantly 'babysit' his ego. And on the other hand he is not one of those egomaniacs either.
@GreenMoo (11834)
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23 Apr 08
I'm sorry I can't answer that question because I don't live with a man. I've got an 11 year old in the body of a bloke in his late 30s I could comment on though if you were interested?
:-):-) :-)
