Is an emotional affair an affair?

When a person in a Marriage allows themself to become even emotionally attatched to someone, it can definately effect a marriage, as they start only having feelings for the New person, and forget about the marriage issues in the home. Yes, I would definately consider this an affair, and I do not blame the wife for being a little upset with it. This could become a huge issue if he did not break it off completely, and even break up a marriage. So hopefully, they can get things back in order for their marriage as well.

Dawn with good reason she is feeling hurt. even an emotional affair is still taking from your spouse something that belonged to him or her. If you are with someone even in your mind and heart, you are taking away from the marriage. I am sure he distanced himself from his wife, it is inevitable that this occurs. It happens sometimes that we do get closer to someone than we should we are all human after all. But I still consider it an affair. Just because it did not get physical the want to was there. This would hurt, no doubt. She will heal I hope and allow him to set things straight. He has to give her the opportunity to do so, and let her talk, rant rave until it is gone.

Marriage / relationships are always very fragile. One rude shock and it will be broken into pieces. I would consider this kind of a thing as cheating , coz getting emotionally attached is a sign that you no longer have that emotional bonding with your wife. But then i see it happening everywhere. I don't know what goes wrong with relationships. I can only sat that in order to have a successful married life , it is very imp to communicate and open up. Even the smallest thing can become a major issue and hurt the other person. ~pinks~

Yes an emotional affair is still an affair. My exwife was spending a lot of time with this one fellow to the point of canceling plans with me. I pointed out that this behavior had a negative effect on our marriage yet the behavior continued. Eventually the emotional affair did become a physical one, yet in my mind she was cheating long before she slept with him.

Personally, I think that emotional affairs are more painful than a purely physical, one-time fling. To think that your partner could actually fall for someone else, and not just give into feelings of lust would be harder to forgive, harder to recover from and heal the relationship, I think... A both emotional and physical affair would definitely be too much - to know that not only had they been dating someone behind my back, but they also took it to that extra level. But then again, an "emotional" affair is harder to define - a lot of us love our friends outside of our marriage/relationship, but that is usually platonic. But is that still cheating if you enjoy that friendship more than your relationship. Oh philosophy =P

Yes, if it causes you to lie to your loved one then its an affair its cheating on your relationship. When you love someone you should give them your all if you are emotionally involved with someone else then you wont be giving everything to your loved one if thats the case then you are causing what might be unrepairable damage to your relationship. She has every right to be hurt and upset because he wasnt 100% with her but I also believe it is something that can be forgiven if they wish and to move on and be happy again

As far as I am concerned, it's much more a big deal than just as physical affair. A physical affair is bad enough...but if I am sure it was just that...I might be able to forgive my husband (after a long time...and after he proves to me that he won't do it again). But it will be hard for me to get past an emotional affair. I would feel betrayed too.

Yes, it is definitely an affair. You don't have to sleep with the other in order for it to be an affair. He became attached to her and thats enough to call it an affair whether its physical or emotional.

I don't know if I would call it an affair but it was definitely a betrayal. I can understand why she is so upset. A physical affair usually begins this way so it may well have escalated.

i think still it can be called an affair accordinf=g to me atleast. actually in this case the person got emotinally attached to the co worker. i think any relationship starts wth emotional thing.

Yes, it's still an affair. And it doesn't help he even went as far to tell the woman how he felt and I'm sure if he wasn't married he probably would have taken things further. Sometimes men actually care about the ring on the finger, but it doesn't completely stop them from doing things they shouldn't. I don't blame her for being as upset as she is and I think he should realize what he's done and realize that things may never be made right between them because he screwed up.

yes, definitely. Cheating, I think in a relationship can only be defined by those two people in it. Each relationship has its own boundaries and everyone is different. So, going outside of the boundaries in your relationship in any way is cheating.

Emotional affair is some thing which is kind of asking too much from a person. Emotional relationships take a toll of you and will result in hurting deep. It is an affair and all that is going on between them is the emotions that they are taking over them. The kind of feelings they undergo when they are emotional is hard to explain.

I would consider an emotional attachment an affair and a betrayal. But there are two sides to every story. I would be relieved that it didn't get physical, but I would definitely take a look at myself to determine what role I played in my husband's attachment to someone else. Is there something that he feels is lacking in our relationship? Am I not listening? Am I unavailable? If we couldn't figure it out on our own, I would try outside counseling. I think, however, that if your not going to be honest about your feelings then counseling is a waste of time and money. I do think that relationships can be repaired after physical or emotional affairs. I hope they can work things out.

That's a tough one! Personally, I think that, yes, I would call it an affair. To me an affair is a betrayal, be it physical, or emotional. That's what makes your relationship with your spouse special, not only the physical side but the emotional as well.

well even though there wasnt anything physical id say it was some type of cheating like how could he be married to his wife and express his feelings of love to another woman , its as if his wife is a joke all this time..umm idk what to say for him to comeback like that and act like everything is going to be better once him and his wife ever reconcile ...