What were you like as a child?

United States
May 2, 2008 12:49am CST
When I was a little girl I was very quiet and shy. I loved books and there wasn't a time when you wouldn't catch me with one in my hand. I also could be a bit of a troublemaker. I was the oldest of five girls and if I did something wrong, I often blamed my sisters and got away with it. As a teenager I continued to be for the most part pretty quiet, dated only a few boys and dated the same boy all through high school and then married him in later years. It wasn't until I had my first child that I found my tongue and became outgoing. My children taught me to be fun loving and easy going and in learning to stand up for them I learned to stand up for myself. I am not nearly as shy and introverted as I was as a young girl. What were you like when you were growing up? Do you think you are much the same today or have you changed from the child that you were?
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@jamie08 (430)
• United States
5 May 08
ha ha i was a bad bad kid! in daycare i used to beat up all the little boys then in kindergarten i danced on the tables (tap danicing) then all the grades after that i was like a big bulley. I made guys do stuff for me especially in highschool. I had this one guy scared of me (dont know why lol) but he would do whatever i said. All the other ones just thought i was pretty and did it for me. I had that sweet/but mean attitude to me! still do! lol i can get whatever i want!!!
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• United States
5 May 08
Shame on you, but if it works than who am I to say. LOL.
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@jamie08 (430)
• United States
5 May 08
lol no but the guy i am with now we have been together a little over a year now and he is straightening me out. I dont get everything i want anymore so i guess that is for the good, idk lol
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@julyteen (13252)
• Davao, Philippines
8 May 08
i am very quite when i was a child, i really love reading books. there is one time that we have visitors who offered my mother a very nice book, i love it's color of the cover and the photos inside, my mom didn't got the book, i am very upset with my mom until i reached 16 years old i got the book. i read it and finished with in 2 days a 256 pages book. the title of the book You can live forever in paradise on earth. my mom and my dad always caught me every night i am reading and studying my lessons in school. i am very smart when i was a child. when i become teenager still i am quite and prefer to be alone reading any materials, i studied teaching of different religions, i love writing letters to anybody specially from other countries. but now it's quite different, a very talkative man and reading is not my habit now instead i am addicted with the internet.
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• United States
8 May 08
I remember some of the illustrations the books contained that I read as a child. I think I remember many of the illustrations better than the words it contained.
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@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
2 May 08
I was always backward and quiet as a child. I was always teased and taunted and felt that no one liked me. I had no friends to call a true friend either. I was all alone. I am still like that to this day other than having my husband and my daughter in my life. I have no friends because they all use me and leave and I still stay to myself because of it.
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@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
2 May 08
Thank you. Yes. I sure do appreciate every one of my friends here at Mylot. I am so glad to have all of you to talk to. It makes me very happy also when my friends respond to me here and show me they care also. It really means alot to me.
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• United States
2 May 08
Well, I apologize. I used to be so on top of answering back to the comments left on my discussions, but working full time really has put me so far behind in every discussion that I post. Just so happens I'm off today and trying to catch up a little bit. Never think for an instant though that I don't appreciate every single comment that you leave.
• United States
2 May 08
I'm sorry to hear that. It makes me very sad for you. I hope that you at least feel you have some friends you can count on for support here on this site, if no where else.
• United States
4 May 08
I am the youngest of one sister and four brothers, You might think I'd been boisterous to compete for attention but actually I was rather shy. I started reading young and almost always worked crossword puzzles as I would sit at houses that my Mother worked in. She did light housekeeper and cooking for the elderly. I was expected to behave myself while she did her job. I didn't always go to work with her though. Often one of my older siblings watched me. I also was a real big tomboy. I used to climb trees to the top and I loved listening to baseball games on my transistor radio. Hmm Dating? For some reason the fellas always followed me around. And have I changed? Yes and No. I am a mix of all I have experienced in my life as we all are. I have matured you might say but at times I just can't resist doing something totally childish that embarrasses my kids. I expect to embarass my grand kids some day too. lol!
• United States
4 May 08
How funny, I am the oldest of four sisters and one brother. Just the opposite. LOL. Even though it may seem that you embarass your children, no doubt, they really love it.
• United States
4 May 08
Oh wow, I didn't know that was you until I got your friends request. How the heck are you?
• United States
4 May 08
Don't ask if you don't want to know lol Ive had such a horrid time this year so far I could write a book about it however I don't think my family would appreciate that in public. :) Thanks for asking anyway!
@Rosekitty (19368)
• San Marcos, Texas
4 May 08
I was the 4th daughter and had to be the tough one since my oldest sisters weren't able to toughen themselves up..I had to and got them into wearing makeup and pantyhose. I'm still the one they come to when they need help and advise. I wasn't shy and no means the most popular, but i was well liked. My children and grandchildren still say i'm an old toughie and will stick up for anyone
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• United States
4 May 08
Being tough and having the guts to stick up for others are all good qualities to have.
@danielsm (50)
• United States
3 May 08
Iwas very shy too and soon after I got a girlfriend I was more outgoing, but then when we broke up I just was left loosened. So I lost benig shy and from then onn just loved to go out ot eat and go to the movies. I was a big spender and still are.
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• United States
4 May 08
So where were you when I was dating? Just kidding. LOL.
@patgalca (18304)
• Orangeville, Ontario
3 May 08
I was very shy as a child. Since my siblings are so much older than me I pretty much grew up alone. I would spend my time in the basement rec room watching my favourite shows (Brady Bunch, Partridge Family) and playing with my Barbies or my dolls. In the summer the two friends on my street would go to their farms and stay there all summer so I really had no one to play with, except for one girl who was a couple of years younger than me. We would ride our bikes. Because 3 of my 4 siblings had moved out by the time I was 9, I was very quiet at family gatherings. I had nothing in common with my adult siblings so I was pretty much wallpaper. Even when I grew older I still couldn't catch up to them because then they were parents and I still didn't have anything in common with them. It's only been since I had children that I have come out of my shell. I have just as good of a sense of humour as the rest of my family members, which we all inherited from my father. I love it when I can make my siblings laugh. It makes me feel so good. Even better when I can make my husband and children laugh. My 15 year old thinks I am so cool. I really make an effort to make her friends feel comfortable when they are so shy. I am still shy in the company of others, especially groups of people. I am good one-on-one but when someone else enters the fold I pull back. So I have changed around my family but not around others. There is a quiz going around the emails where you are asked to answer questions about the person that sent the email (as opposed to telling everyone about yourself). One of the questions is "Am I shy or outgoing?" and another is "Am I a rebel or do I follow the rules?" Pretty much everyone pegged me as a rule follower (though one said both and I asked her why), and everyone said that I am shy in most situations but outgoing in others. My family ignored me when I was growing up so you can see why I am so shy and not very sociable.
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@patgalca (18304)
• Orangeville, Ontario
3 May 08
Oh yes, I did spend a lot of time in my room playing music and acting out musicals (The Sound of Music). So much so that my mother called me a Loner and said she didn't think it was healthy even though she was the same way growing up. I had a pretend friend who was actually a twin sister I called Pam. See how left out I felt in my family?
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• United States
4 May 08
Isn't it nice when your kids think you are cool. My son just said the very same thing about me the other day. It really made me feel good about myself. Obviously, he feels like he can relate to me and it makes me feel good as a parent.
@Shaun72 (15959)
• Palatka, Florida
2 May 08
I was really shy myself growing up. Once I got about 17 or 18 then I would talk a lot more. I have a younger sister. We had are times of fighting when we were younger of course I am almost 7 years older then she is so that is a big age difference. Of course when our parents were working. I was in charge of house cleaning and having dinner ready. Yeah a lot changed my parents got divorced. Sometimes I think it is because of them working together and also living together.
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@Shaun72 (15959)
• Palatka, Florida
2 May 08
That is true. besides that they did have there arugments.
• United States
2 May 08
Personally, I think in terms of your parents, that spending that much time together can be detrimental. I believe in the old addage "Absence makes the heart grow fonder". Sometimes time away from each other only helps a relationship as long as its not too often.
@dmillman (2273)
• United States
3 May 08
I was a pretty happy child, until all the bad crap in my life starting happening and let me see way too early how cold people can be and how horrible life can be. I'm still in therapy this day for my childhood issues and issues that have hapened since then. I miss my childhood before all of this crap happened - when I was innocent and naive (sp?).
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@dmillman (2273)
• United States
3 May 08
Thank you kbourgerie. I do hope to find inner peace as well.
• United States
3 May 08
Its so sad, that things can happen in our childhood that will change the entire complexion of our lives. I'm not sure what it is you may have gone through, but I hope that one day you will find the inner peace you seek.
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@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
2 May 08
I was a shy child and my twin sister was more forward and outgoing. She got along with anyone and everyone and I pretty much stayed to myself or hung out with a few friends in the neighborhood. I loved playing sports though and was always out running around doing some kind of sport being it netball, basketball and sorts. I didn't like school very much and preferred studying as adult and enjoyed it a lot more. I have changed a lot and am not the same ole shy person. I am very outgoing and have a bubbly personality and I think its because of the friends and family I grew up with that brought me out a bit more.
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• United States
2 May 08
I didn't know you had a twin sister. That must have been interesting when you were growing up. Were you fraternal or identical twins? Is your twin as outgoing as she was or did she change also?
@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
2 May 08
Fraternal twins. She was born 45 minutes after me (would of been born breach but had to wait until she turned herself around LOL) I was the sickly one (weighing 5 pounds) and she was the healthy one, weighing 7.5 pounds - greedy guts I use to call her LOL. She had an accident when she was 8 or 9 years of age and was hit in the eye with a hockey stick (by accident and is now blind in that eye) and ever since then she changed, and became more reserved and kept to herself. Had a lot of anger stored up inside for a long time but has come a long way too. She became a much better sports player than I ever was (we both played national level) and it actually made her a lot stronger, in personality and she never let her disability get in the way of whatever she wanted to do with her life. I admire her very much for that. YOu can say she is outgoing still but is very particular about who she associates herself with and can be very stubborn at times. My poor mother is all I can say LOL
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• United States
2 May 08
Thats sad about your sister, but I'm glad that she didn't let it deter her. That says alot about the kind of person she is.
@cortney09 (1345)
• United States
5 May 08
I was a big reader myself when I was younger. I still am. I also never shut up. I was always in trouble for not staying quiet. I still am a big talker to a certain extent.
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• United States
5 May 08
I'm not nearly the reader I used to be. How could I be? I'm too busy with the internet. Smile.
@cortney09 (1345)
• United States
5 May 08
I know what you mean. I feel that way about myself as well.
• Philippines
3 May 08
I think I was born to be a performer. We are only 2, both girls and I'm the youngest. My sister was the quiet one and shy one. I am more outspoken and is the total opposite of the word shy. When I was in around 2 or 3, our family together with some friends ate out for lunch. There was this good dance music that time. My dad and a few of their friends, told me to dance since they know I love to dance and I know the dance step. With any hesitation I stood up. Got my dads glasses (they were very big for me at the time) then started to dance in the center of the restaurant. In the end of my performance I heard people clapping and congratulating my parents. I never outgrew my love for dance. I studied ballet and became a semi professional. But had to leave it to pursue my career in relation to my college degree. But even though I became a dancer, I am not as confident as I am in my younger days. I am a lot more hesitant to performs in front of a crowd. During ballet performances I usually feel so nervous I have to pee for a couple of times just to steady my nerves. I guess some do stay the same as when they were younger but majority usually outgrew their old habits and personality.
• United States
3 May 08
I've never met anyone from the ballet. Now I can say I have. I think all young girls dream of being a ballerina, at least I did. I can't dance though to save my life. Its too bad that you had to let it go.
• Philippines
3 May 08
It was not really a very hard decision on my part. I always considered it as a hobby and not a possible career. I am just thankfully I was able to fulfill my dreams of being a ballerina.
• Southend-On-Sea, England
2 May 08
I was different to most other children in that I much preferred the company of adults. I wasn't shy, but could be reserved at times and that's something which hasn't changed as I've aged. I was very timid and nervous when it came to playing with other children and when I was at school, and though I had a small circle of friends, I was an easy target for bullies due to not being very assertive. I'm not sure why I was like that, as both my parents were confident, extroverted people. I did toughen up a lot when I hit my teenage years, and now in life though still quiet, am a lot more confident.
• United States
2 May 08
I think those that prefer the company of adults often lose out on what its like to be a child. Do you feel that you have any regrets in that regard?
• Southend-On-Sea, England
2 May 08
I'm not sure really. I was persuaded and did play with other children, but I was very uncomfortable with the things children did, like play noisily, race with one another, play boisterous games, climb trees etc. Here and there if I could find a child to play with who was more like myself, I could enjoy the experience - which was probably more down the road of playing quiet games. I do look back to my childhood with a lot of fondness, but my best memories have more to do with how I felt when I was with adults rather than other children.
@taface412 (3175)
• United States
4 May 08
I have always said I had it made when I was three or four years old. That is my earliest memory of childhood and it is so vivid I hope I neve forget it. My family lived in Chicago then and I had two older brothers that I idolized dearly. I was the only girl so you can imagine I was spoiled rotten. My whole world existed on that street: my grandparents lived four doors down, my best friend and her brother (my first boyfriend) lived three doors down and the best recluse neighbor who took me and my BF out for ice cream at the local restaurant lived next door. Oh, and my brother and his friend "married" me and my boyfriend under the law of macaroni in our alley behidn our house. LOL And I was stubborn and outspoken (I forgot how old I was but I began reading b/4 everyone else) and I would stand up to the neighborhood bully, I even rammed him with my big wheel. LOL Oh and b/c I was homeschooled I never went to kindergarten and my boyfriend who was two years older said he wanted a girlfrien who went to school during the school yr and I could be his girlfriend during the summer....well my mom tells me I can in the house and slammed the door and she asked what was wrong she said I yelled out "Our marriage is anulled." (how did I know that word?" haha) Like I said I had the world and I can still smell the fresh cut grass and the cool shade of our yard in Chicago even though it is states away now. Good topic starter.
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• United States
4 May 08
That is a very cute story. You sounded like you were very precocious as a child. I love the "marriage is annulled." Very clever for a young child.
@taface412 (3175)
• United States
4 May 08
yeah I have no idea how I knew that word...at that age, but I remember everything about that period of my life. It was magical looking back...I even remember the day we moved....waving goobye to my BF like in the movies. Oh and this is so silly of me, but this I remember thinking about...my mom was rebate Queen and had sent off for some free ice cream cones (coupons) anywasy I didn't realize they were coupons and I kept picturing was melting ice cream cones in my mail box....LOL what a dork I am Do ever remember any silly stories form when you were a kid?
• United States
3 May 08
I read constantly, ice skating was my passion. I was the leader of the pack when it came to getting into trouble, was pretty fearless and never wanted to back down when I believed in something.
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• United States
3 May 08
Not anymore as I am first too old and second there is only a short period ot time around Christmas when they have ice skating here in Georgia. I did get a silver medal but my family would not let me skate professionally and I would have lost my amateur status. I was able to skate (dancing on ice) in exhibitions.
• United States
3 May 08
Do you still iceskate? Did you ever do it on a professional level at all?
@applefreak (3130)
• Singapore
3 May 08
when i was a little girl, before i went to school, i too was very quiet. my parents had initially thought there was something wrong with me mentally. they would put me on the table and i'd sit there the whole day. i won't ask to come down or even talk. i'd just stare into space all day. however, this changed the moment i was sent to school. it was like making up for lost time. i became the most talkative girl in the class. up till today, i love to talk to people.
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• Singapore
3 May 08
hahaha, guess mixing with people my age was what i needed. i have a sister but we don't really confide in each other. maybe the saying 'familiarity breeds contempt' is true to a certain extent. we basically know exactly what is happening in each other's life that we don't have much of a topic. differing interest is also another cause. we are still living together and on talking terms. but we are not each other's confidante.
• United States
3 May 08
Perhaps just being alone and not having anyone to play with made you that way. Obviously school is just what you needed. The ability to socialize.
@BYOLA2871 (4371)
• South Africa
3 May 08
HM!my growing up as akid was an interesting time of my life,i was the shy type but always full of mishief but never got caught except once,i enjoy movies and love books too,no particular title but read more of james hadley chase,romance books were out of it ,i dislike them as i think they arecunrealistic,but the most intersting part of it si the fact that i had so many friends who will always stand up to defend me even when am guilty of an offence they will always find a way to excuse me and what more i was more of a pet to my family even though am the second of seven kids,(i dont know why)but its an interesting part but funny i was still well disciplined,its a great time.
• United States
3 May 08
Sounds like you had alot of fun growing up and that you still have alot of wonderful memories.
@BYOLA2871 (4371)
• South Africa
3 May 08
you can say that again,i did have some rough times though cos i was not born with a silver spoon,ours was just an average family where everyone did their parts but it was a lot of fun growing up
@anawar (2404)
• United States
2 May 08
When I was growing up, I hid a secret that no child should have to carry. I never told my parents because my brother threatened me. My parents thought I was weird and told me I was over-imaginative. I had one sister and three brothers. I blocked my childhood from my mind until I was in my thirties when the memory fell into my consciousness, shattering my soul and fracturing my mind. I don't remember too much of my childhood because by blocking one memory, I blocked many other memories. I think I was always withdrawn and afraid of everything. I read all the time and excelled in school, trying to make up for some guilty feeling I never understood. I dated a few guys, but I was afraid of them and I didn't know why. I married a man who played psychological tricks on my mind and really messed me up. I met him in college and we were married for fifteen years. I have three awesome kids though, which makes up for a lot. We divorced, which was a relief, but between my brother's transgressions and my husband's unusual brain warfare, I didn't have much of a chance for success. Later in life, (after I remembered my childhood) I saw a psychologist for years. I get so frustrated though, because I still fall for the wrong kind of men. Gosh, You think I would be over it by now! I overcame most of my past, and it feels like I escaped from those terrors, but the mixed up thinking comes and goes. I guess I'll stay away from men, the way I used to. Now we have the internet and I have a new freedom to live, hidden safely behind my Dell computer.
• United States
2 May 08
Gosh, I'm so sorry. It really sounds like you have been through h@ll and back. I hope one day you will find the inner peace you seek.
@anawar (2404)
• United States
3 May 08
Oh, I'll be fine. I'll turn around the corner one day and find the me I've been looking for.
@kosykosy (160)
• Ghana
3 May 08
When i was a little girl I didn't say much at all. I was the second child, and my older sister did a good job of saying everything for me, so I didn't have to say anything. Of course, I grew up with a terribly low self-esteem, and it got to a point that outside of home, no matter how close I was to the people, I couldn't utter a word. It's just by the grace of God that I was set free. Now, my voice is a very important part of my life. I sing publicly, have a lovely narrative voice, I teach in Sunday School and I help out in my local radio station, sometimes. God is good, all the time!
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• United States
3 May 08
You finally arrived at your own individuality and didn't feel the need to hide behind your sister. Perhaps you were just saving your voice for all the beautiful things you do today.
@kosykosy (160)
• Ghana
3 May 08
awwww thanks!
@jesbellaine (4139)
• Philippines
2 May 08
My parents thought that I would be a Tomboy when I grow up because all my friends were boys. I do have "Barbies" since my uncle always buy them for me but then he would still buy me soldier toys, watergun, "Bioman" costume and bikes. So, I play with my other toys but not with my "barbies" lolz. The only girly girly stuff that I watch when I was a kid is "CARE BEARS" then I always watch robots and other "human" animes like bioman, maskman, maskrider black (japanese/chinese series traslated in "filipino" language for kids)... hahaha I was more of "tomboyish" and "playful" as a kid. That is the right word for me. Cheers!
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• United States
2 May 08
You actually sound like alot of fun. Your interests obviously were very diverse. Thats a really good thing.
• Philippines
2 May 08
Thank you for that.