giving birth, was your labour ok?

@ESKARENA1 (18304)
May 3, 2008 1:54am CST
well, the labour period for my two kids varied enourmously, one was 12 and a half hour long the other 30 minits. Does the birth experience effect the way you subsequently bond with your kids?
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@Ravenladyj (22992)
• United States
3 May 08
Does the birth experience effect the way you subsequently bond with your kids? Now thats an interesting question! I know with my two older kids the bonding was the same (I didnt want anything to do with them when they were first born actually) though the birth experience was slightly different..Both my boths were long labours, my daughter however didnt want to come out LOL (and she's still stubborn to this day)....now with my youngest boy obviously the entire birthing experience was hellish from the fact that he was way early to the major pain (he literally ripped from my womb) BUT I couldnt really say if I'd have bonded with him differently becuase of that since there were numeorus other factors that came into play ya know.. 30 MINS?!?! MAN YOU SO SUCK!!
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@ESKARENA1 (18304)
3 May 08
lol well, thankyou. The first time i was half a day mind lol so i guess i made up for it blessed be
@ellie333 (21029)
5 May 08
I had general anesethic ceasarians with all three of my children as they could get in but not out because of a pelvic injury I suffered when I was younger so I have never experienced a labour, but I was very ill for nearly a year after my third child and found life a bit of a struggle for that time. I bonded with all my children, but my best recovery time was from my second daughter and I was definately able to give more time and attention but I have immediately bonded with all three so I don't really know whether the trauma of the birth makes much difference. It certainly didn't with me. Interesting subject topic though. Ellie :D
@rb200406 (1825)
• India
4 May 08
I have not yest become a mother yet.So no experience but i really have a fear of that as i really have heard that it is lots of pain.
@arkaf61 (10891)
• Canada
3 May 08
In my case the first was about 8 hours - but never really bad - and like you the second was around the 30 minute mark, probably even less, since it was basically the time for my husband to go back down to park the car and when he came out my son was already born. I'm not sure that the fact that in my case it was quite easy and in a way painless - in the sense that it wasn't unbearable - affects the bond I had with my kids. But it affected how I felt about having children specially the first one. I hear some people that had different - more complicated - experiences saying that after that, they don't want to have another child - although often they change their mind :) - but in my case it was so uncomplicated I knew from the same minute they were being born that I wanted to have more. And I would have, if life hadn't come in and disrupt our nice stable financial life :)
@Bizziebod (3526)
3 May 08
My labour was awful and put my off having any more children, it didn't stop me bonding with mine though! My labour was 18 hours long, I did have an epidural to help through the pain and they did say that was why she was so slow in coming. She had a vontouse birth (suction), I felt like I were cut from ear to ear and then lost that much blood I became anaemic and had to have a blood transfusion! I've loved her and bonded with her from the moment she was born though and we're still best of friends now!
@Ohara_1983 (4122)
• Kuwait
3 May 08
i remember when i deliver my daughter i cannot even say i feel that i labor because they made me induce in that day. but i wait for how many hours till my baby go down in how many inch.
@sharay (2778)
• India
3 May 08
I have one girl baby, i had 2 hours of labor only, but after the birth of my daughter, just after i saw my baby, i became unconcious and i was taken to the ICU, and only after 12 hours, i became normal and saw my baby again...i took some scans said by the doctors, but they could not diagnose the reason for it, since i was very normal until my child came out...it was quite confusing to them as to what might haev let to that fits and that state of mine....but this does not affect the bond with my kid in any way, in fact due to this, i have been loving my baby so much more that i am alive today to take care of her.
@stephcjh (32385)
• United States
3 May 08
I have only one child so I can only relate to that one birth. I was in pain and labor for about 15 hours. It was totally miserable and I will never go through that again. I had my tubes tied the neext day after having her. I then had a hysterectomy three years later.