How are you going to deal with and angry child?

@Bebs08 (10689)
United States
May 13, 2008 9:52am CST
Most parents when their child is angry, they will scold them or spank them. I know of a parent who just called her child in a calm but firm voice and talk to him in private. He is not scolding or spanking his child in public. After they talked, everything is alright with the child. A very good technique. Maybe they made a real agreement with the child in which only both of them knew what it is. What about you? how will you deal with your angry kid?
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@ebsharer (5517)
• United States
13 May 08
My daughter has a bad temper and to deal with it at home she sits in time out. Out in public she isn't too bad yet lol. But if we are out I shhh her and tell her this is not an inside voice. If she continues we leave. I don't like crying kids through a store it makes me nuts. I wouldn't do it to others. I don't spank my daughter or scold her. I talk to her or put her in time out.
@Bebs08 (10689)
• United States
13 May 08
Good!! I appreciate your way of dealing your kids. Talking to the child is best. Spanking is the last remedy when talking doesn't work. Thanks for your response.
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@ebsharer (5517)
• United States
13 May 08
I have only had to spank my daughter 2 times. First was for running into the street. I think she needed that immediate reaction and talking wasn't going to do it. And I'll tell you what she hasn't done it again. The second time was running from me in a CROWED store. She doesn't do it often but thought it would be funny. Running away and laughing that is ... I didn't think it was funny. She got a spanking and put back in the stroller. Again she hasn't done it since. Now let me clarify what I call a spanking. I am not saying BEATING there is a differance. A firm pat on the DIAPER is what I mean by spanking. Not enough to hurt the child but enought to get there immediate attention.
@jonesy123 (3950)
• United States
13 May 08
Depends on the situation. Time out, firm talk, things like that will usually work. Full blown tantrums with screaming and crying, there is no way to quickly get through to a child. It really depends on the character of the child. All children can throw tantrums, but some can have severe fits. We have three kids, one is very prone to tantrums. As a baby she already had temper tantrums. She smashed her head on the floor in a fit, when she was barely able to lift it. Just because she was frustrated that she couldn't do more yet. At two she would scream, throw herself on the floor, and hammer it with arms and legs. At home we ignored it and let it run its course, just made sure she didn't hurt herself. In public we removed her from the situation and went to a more private area to wait it out. There is really nothing you can do at that point. Any attention just makes it worse. But a smack on the butt sometimes was necessary just to startle her enough to be able to grab her to get her away from a situation. Once she calmed down, she got the talking to. Anyhow, at three she figured out that tantrums don't work and quieted down. She is five now and has outgrown them. My other two, one older, one younger than her, never did that. There were tantrums, but they could be called away from the situation. Point is, what works for some kids doesn't usually work on all of them. Each child reacts differently. But it is true that you can achieve more, when you talk with them in a calm, reasonable, and firm manner. If you yell they just tend to shut you out. But even I have been guilty and have sometimes yelled and screamed. We are all only human and the frustration can get to us;)
@Bebs08 (10689)
• United States
13 May 08
You are right!! I mark your answer, the best.. Giving attention to a child who has tantrum just make the matter worse. I like your way of dealing your child... thanks for sharing!!!!
@jonesy123 (3950)
• United States
13 May 08
Thanks;)
@kezabelle (2985)
13 May 08
My youngest I dont do much she is 2 and doesnt understand but gets easily frustrated if she wants to scream out and vent her frustration I let her then comfort her when its done, her elder sister is 4 though she gets removed from the situation and told to sit quietly by herself for 4 minutes this is usually enough to calm her and then talk with her sensibly about what happened, smacking them when they are angry does nothingbut inflame the situation making it worse
@Bebs08 (10689)
• United States
13 May 08
Absolutely!!! you are right.. I thank you for your ideas on how to deal with your kids.
@katsmeow1213 (29047)
• United States
13 May 08
When my kids become angry I leave them alone for awhile to give them time to cool off. It's easier to talk when you aren't still mad.
@Bebs08 (10689)
• United States
13 May 08
yes I agree. It is better to talk to the child when you and he/she is not angry anymore. Let you both cool off first, is the best thing to do.
@ersmommy1 (12600)
• United States
13 May 08
With my daughter, in much the same manner. However if her behavior is such like a tantrum we remove her from the situation. And we take her to the car. There she can ride out her tantrum until able to listen. I think this is a good way to handle the issue.
@Bebs08 (10689)
• United States
13 May 08
you are exactly right. It would help the child to pour out her/his emotion without putting the parents into embarassment. Thhat is a good idea.. thanks!!!!