How do you teach obedience to your little kids?

@Bebs08 (10691)
United States
May 14, 2008 2:56pm CST
Some parents bribe their kids so that they will obey. They will offer to pay them when they are ask to do some household chores or send them an errand. Is this the right way to teach children to obey? Kids now a days are not easy to deal with when it comes to obedience. They always have reasons to do their own stuff before they will do your request. How did you manage your little kids to obey?
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@katsmeow1213 (28828)
• United States
14 May 08
I'm sorry to say this, but I can't help but to feel like you're compairing children to dogs. I don't teach my children to be obedient or to obey my every whim. They are children, they should be taught, not commanded. Yes, my children have chores to help around the house. If their chores are done they are rewarded by going outside, playing their video games or computer games, or watching TV. If the chores do not get done, they cannot do their fun things until they do the chores. It also helps if they have a routine and a set time to do chores. In this house, particular chores are done as soon as they are home from school, and then other chores are done after meal times.
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@Bebs08 (10691)
• United States
15 May 08
Comparing children to dogs? is that what you understand to my inquiry of how you teach children obedience? Sorry maybe you misunderstood. Thanks anyway for your reply...
• United States
15 May 08
Dogs are meant to be obedient, not children. Children are people with minds of their own. As I said, they should be taught, not commanded as you would a dog. If this isn't what you meant, perhaps you should have used a different word than obedient, because that sounds very wrong to me. Sounds like you expect children to be mindless zombies who obey your every command. Yes I want my children to listen to me, but I realize they have a mind and personality of their own, and I don't want to strip them of that.
@kezabelle (2985)
14 May 08
Thats tough I dont really want them to obey me a such more grow up learning what is right and wrong and hopefully making the right choice in what they do, leading by example definatley is the key to getting them to behave in a certain way, I found issuing an order would get us no where really, they are still only little though maybe when they are older I will change my mind especially if they put off doing something I have asked but even then id not order my children do anything I would ask them to and yeh sure reward them with pocket money or a treat, its not about getting them to obey but more about making the right choice in their life to realise that helping mum/dad is the right thing to do, rewarding them for that is not a bad thing but I wouldnt have the reward along with a request I would ask and if they did it happily for me then they would get a reward. Everyone has their own way of bringing their children up so im happy doing it my way im sure some wouldnt agree and thats ok with me
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@Bebs08 (10691)
• United States
15 May 08
You're right. Everyone has his own way of teaching obedience to his kids. Thanks for replying and for your ideas. I'm just soliciting ideas from those who have unique way of teaching obedience to their kids. But anyway, you are doing a good job in your ways of dealing your kids to obedience.
@eileenleyva (9365)
• Philippines
22 Jun 09
Bribery is never right. Little children are always impressionable. You just have to point out the importance of a task like "Honey, you have to put your lego back in the box else we step on them and get hurt." They obey instantly. Bigger children will try to assert their personality and see if they could have an edge over you. You just have to be firm and reiterate your request. Never promise something in exchange for a task or an errand. They must understand that you asked them to do that for the easement of your lives and not to burden him. The teaching begins in the early years. If you have not set the scenario by the time they are in their teens, bend your knees and pray.
@jonesy123 (3950)
• United States
15 Jun 09
My kids either do as they are told or they get a time-out or loss of privileges/toys. It depends on the age of course. I never can understand those parents who'll promise their kids money/toys/trips to wherever in order to get them to comply. My kids also know, if they don't clean up their room when told, there'll be a clean-up by me, alright, just that I come with the garbage bags and clean up anything that's out of place. Then the toys and whatever else are gone for a week or longer, some never make it back into the room (a good way to sort out the old toys and favorite but too worn out or too short clothes;) And one of the previous posters who compared your question to teaching obedience to a dog. It is called obedience in both cases. It's the ability to follow instructions. It doesn't make children a mindless zombie. It doesn't even make dogs mindless zombies. Both still have the choice to follow the instruction or suffer the known consequence. It's simply a matter of making the right choices. It's the parents' responsibility to teach the children right from wrong.