32 - 35, is it suitable age to get marriege ?

@yellows (245)
Malaysia
May 18, 2008 11:40pm CST
I wonder is it suitable for women to get married in her age of 32 - 35 years old? Im still young but I need to further my study at university for few years and then will work after. I guess I might be finished my study at the age of 25. Then I will work for 5 - 10 years and at the same time I will enjoy the social life. I planning to get marriege when my age at 32 - 35. I need your help to tell me or advice me, is it suitable or fine for me to marry at that age? Am I too old at that time? I dont want to be regret later but I really want to further my study, work and enjoy the social life before concentrating on marriege.
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@sisterjinx (1135)
• United States
19 May 08
I don't think you are ever too old too get married. I don't think that once you are an adult you are ever too young either. I think you will get married when you find the person of your dreams. When you find that love that you just don't ever want to be without. I got married very young, 20 yrs old. I have not regretted that decision. My husband is my best friend. We have grown together. We have lived our lives to their fullest together. We both went back to college even though we were already married and had kids. We helped each other study. Now we are living our dream together. I think that you cannot plan the age you will fall in love. When you do and the time is right you will marry. Whatever age that is.
@nice030481 (1109)
• Philippines
19 May 08
i think that is too old for a women, i think most suitable age for women to get married is 24 to 28, 32 to 35 is suitable for men to get married. i get married at the age of 24. Now im having a child, and another to come. it is happy , no, it is a joy to see that you will have have a child or children that makes your life complete.
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@Bebs08 (10681)
• United States
20 May 08
I think late twenties is better. If you are getting married at an old age, the tendency is you will be having a hard time when you get pregnant. The is just my opinion.
@yellows (245)
• Malaysia
15 May 12
Hi nice030481 and Bebs08, thanks for your comment. I am pass my 28 now, I will keep maintaining my health and body so I can see and play with my future kids or grands ..:)
• Philippines
20 May 08
yes i agree, and also if you get married at the late age, before your children grow up, how old are you? i think you cant play with your grand son or daughter, when it comes.
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• Malaysia
25 May 08
I am 27 years old now, my younger sister already got married last year on her 25 y/o and she is now pregnant. We are all excited for the baby arrival. A lot of my friends are getting married this year, and i believe there are even more next year. However, i really dun feel like getting marry yet. I grad at age 24, I have work for 3 years, by now, i have to pay for house loan, car loan and paying for family expenses. I made very little saving and it has always kept me worried. If i step into marriage with my current financial status, it could be more suffer and struggle as raising a kid really need a lot of money. The thought of this always worried me and i think i will only get marry after my financial status is stably well.
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@yellows (245)
• Malaysia
15 May 12
Yeah getting old with debt around is the most worried thing. House and car loan will take 5 - 20 years to settle up.. Serena your financial probably getting better after married.. :) because your husband will share to pay your expenses..:)
• Philippines
29 May 08
I heard when you get married at the age of 30 onwards theres a possibility that you will having a hard time having a baby or getting pregnant. That is according to the people who had been married that age.
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@yellows (245)
• Malaysia
7 May 11
I'll worry about that hard on getting own baby on that age. Wondering if its really will happend to me.
@doryvien (2284)
• United States
7 May 11
Hi Yellows, I married at the age of 30. I decided to finish school first, embarked on a career that I've envisioned myself to be, and after doing all those things, decided it's time to start a family. Never had any regrets, except when I see my friends who married in their early 20s, their kids almost look like their brother or sister, as compared to mine who are really young. Sometimes I feel like I might not be able to see my grandchildren or I may be too old to enjoy them. But other than that, I guess I made the right decision. The suitable age to marry is when you're ready emotionally and financially, and when you feel you've found the right guy to live with for the rest of your life.
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@yellows (245)
• Malaysia
8 May 11
Thanks doryvien. Im proud with what you have done, just in order. I wish you all the best and happy family.
• United States
9 May 11
U're never too old to get married at that age but u need to think of this,assuming if ur fiance propose marriage to u at the age of 27(probably u're true with ur education,and maybe u're working), and u realy love him, what will u do
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@yellows (245)
• Malaysia
15 May 12
Hi, Idmega2000, you are right. True love with education & career is a great combination that make girl ready to get married at that ages.
@kalav56 (11464)
• India
20 May 08
Well the decision would be based on your mental makeup, attitude to people ,confidence in facing life alone if things do not work out after 35 odd. Are you looking at a career that will absorb all of your time [say if it is that of a doctor or top management executive] then it is fine. You would shine in your career and that would give you not only satisfaction but also a suitable partner from the same field[perhaps]. On the other hand you are looking at an education that would help you earn money and give you financial independence, and you are not totally focused on the subject of interest[it all depends on your grades, capacity for specialisation and career orientation].[There is a subtle difference between going to a job to earn money and choosing a career that will give you fame and absorb all your time.]You seem to be genuinely asking for advice and that is why I am writing what I feel .Why don't you come to a via media and think of 28/ as an upperlimit? If you are totally career oriented then postponing this marriage is fine. But if you want to get eduacated and then choose whatever job life offers you [ bring some money to the family]then it would be advisable to get married before 28. When you postpone this your choice would also get restricted. Secondly, it also depends on your intention of getting children -I have heard people say that they are not interested in kids at all. In that case, marriage at any age is fine. On the other hand if you have intentions of raising a family it is not advisable to start this after 35.
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@yellows (245)
• Malaysia
7 May 11
Im not sure if Im really understand what your comment talking about but overall you might be right as I can see that many people around are as what you said. I wonder what people looking for if they married after 35?
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
25 May 08
I think, it would be a bit late to get married after crossing the age of 32 years, specially if you are planning to have a family too. If you do not want to have kids, then if you get married at the age of 35, it will do. But if you wish to start a family, once you are married to a suitable guy, it would be better you get married, at an earlier age. Because our energies and strength are better when we are young and these things get gradually reduced, as we grow older. Best of luck to you for your marriage.
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@yellows (245)
• Malaysia
7 May 11
Thank you dpk262006. My planning that if I cross the age of 32 and get married before 35 and have problem with my energies or body strenght..ehem..I'll adopt a baby,love them and raise them as my own baby. :). 2 or 3 kids is enough I guess.
@artemis432 (7474)
• Abernathy, Texas
20 May 08
My mom always told us to wait until we were at least thirty to get married. Otherwise we get married for the wrong reasons - because our parents want us to, because we think we're supposed - because we're afraid to wait. We get to really live and accomplish things we want to and really find out what we want and don't want because we have all that time to grow and change as a person. I waited until 36 - and even then I thought - wow now I won't be able to pick up and move spontaneously with little else besides a plane ticket and a job offer! But realized that I could adventure with my husband and six months after marraige, I conceived and started the best adventure of all nine months later, when I delivered my healthy, happy, smart little boy to the world! The best thing to do is wait for the right person and the right time - no one else can tell you who or when is right for you - your intuition will tell you.
@yellows (245)
• Malaysia
7 May 11
Thank you artemis432. That what I am doing now. Perhaps.
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
20 May 08
You are never to old to love. And 32-35 is not as old as it might seem to you right now. hey...im 52 and still dating. I got married at 18 and divorced at 23. I got married again at 29 and divorced at 39. I'd never marry again but age has absolutely nothing to do with that choice. you sound like a smart girl. follow your heart and don't worry about silly things like age.
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@yellows (245)
• Malaysia
7 May 11
Thank you for your clear comment sid556. Your comment help me alot. Im getting feel better about this marriege ages. By the way definately you can married again ya sid556, find someone that you think can live with you for at least till 40 years more later. Sure its better if for the rest of your life. But as many people say dont expect too much coz your married record judged it.
@lorelai (1558)
• Italy
20 May 08
I don't think that there's a certain age, line or limit when one can say that it is too late to get married now. I am 26 years old now and I am not planing to get married for at least 5 or 6 more years. I don't think that's too old to get merried. Pleople get merried when they are 40 or even older, my uncle married my aunt when she was 42.I don't think that when one is young you he/she can decide when to get married. Some things just happen in life and you can't do anything about it.If you meet the right person maybe you'd want to get marry and you won't care if you are 25 29 or 33.
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@yellows (245)
• Malaysia
7 May 11
Thats absolutely right lorelai. There is a miracle if I married a young guy..lol and my age should be exactly 35 on that time. Ahaha!
@Elixiress (3878)
25 May 08
I don't think there is a perfect time to get married, the later you leave the it the higher the chances are that it is going to last. The earlier you marry the less pressure you will have to find a partner before your biological clock is ticking.
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@yellows (245)
• Malaysia
15 May 12
Ooo ticking is scary..lol yeah im bit pressure now with age become older and still single.
• United States
20 May 08
Yellows, I don't think that would be too old to get married. I was thinking more about the fact on whether you are wanting children or not. I had children very young and my youngest child will be an adult (18) by the time that I am 38. I was even going as far at thinking about having children again and weigh the pros and cons of it...but I am only 27. The problem is that my boyfriend is 36 and doesn't want any more kids because together we have 5 and adding more would mean that he would be almost 60 by the time the youngest is out of the house and I would be almost 50. He wants to enjoy life by that time comes around. Anyway, I know that was completely off subject. I think there are many other factors that you need to take into consideration...Children only being one of them that I can think about right now, though LOL! But I don't think that 32-35 is too old to get married. I don't think 60 is too old to get married. Really there is no age limit on getting married as long as your in love and happy :D
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@yellows (245)
• Malaysia
7 May 11
I have fun reading your comment. Thats important..'as long your in love and happy', this is lovely. By the way I would like to wish you 'GOD BLESS YOU & YOUR FAMILY' mygirls9901.
@hotranger (446)
• India
25 May 08
Best age of marriage is between 25 to 30. Just fulfill your dream first and then you should marry. But don't get married at much later stage if you want kids of your own. Its risky to have child at later stage . So keeping all your future plans in your mind take the right decision. So 25 to 30 is the right age for get married and have babies.
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@yellows (245)
• Malaysia
15 May 12
Thanks for your comment hotranger. Anyway for me, if I pass this age and have problem to have my own baby then I will adopt a baby... :)
@Ravenladyj (22904)
• United States
20 May 08
You could be in your 70s and NOT too old to get married ..there is no age requirement or limit on it...Whenever you are ready you are ready be it now or 10, 20 or 30+ yrs from now I didnt get married until I was 32 actually
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@yellows (245)
• Malaysia
7 May 11
Wow seem you are pretty sure about your married age :) But not for 70s..?, OMG thats too old to get married Ravenladyj!
• Atlantic City, New Jersey
19 May 08
I am 32 right now and still don't feel I am ready for the big commitment of marriage. I honestly don't think there is any "certain" or "right" age to be married. I think you'll know when it's right when the time comes. You never know what life has in store for you- do what you like and enjoy it on the way- don't worry so much about these types of things as they will happen in their own time :)
@yellows (245)
• Malaysia
7 May 11
You have comment this discussion 3 years ago. Today I would like to ask if you are married now? Or still waiting for the right time to married? Well what ever your answere Im sure you have your own reason.
@mimm45 (168)
• Australia
20 May 08
Marriage is something you go into when you are ready. It does not depend on your age at all. I think it depends more on the maturity of the person. You have to know and understand what you are getting into and be prepared to put somebody else before you. When you are married, you have to work at it. There is now more than one person that you have to condsider. Not just yourself. In a way, you become less selfish when you are married. This usually means that you have already done what you want to do - studies, work, social life - and ready to commit to living your life with another person. I got married at 37. By then I knew that I was very much ready. Though at times I still feel a little bit selfish and want something for myself, I am able to control myself. Lucky for me my husband understands me and gives in to my whims now and then.
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@yellows (245)
• Malaysia
7 May 11
Thats lovely comment mimm45. I agree with you about less selfish after married beacause that was happened to my brother. Thanks GOD.
@meiteoh (416)
• Switzerland
19 May 08
There is generally no suitable age for marriage - biologically, a woman's best chances for starting a family is when she's in her 20s but it doesn't mean that there is no hope left for women who do marry later. Emotionally, and financially, the best years are actually in your late twenties and early thirties when you are more matured and financially stable in life. The thing with putting an age factor into marriage is this - it takes two people and the right timing to get married. You can be all ready for marriage but never find the right person OR you may have found the right person but never the right timing. What I always tell people is not to worry their head about when is the right age to get married because when it hits your turn, it won't matter. I know of people who got married when they were 21 and some who got married when they were 40. Also, you can choose not to regret the decisions you make - everything boils down to you and your perception.
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• Philippines
20 May 08
This is a good response. I really agree with this. The right time to get married is when both parties are psychologically and emotionally mature (age isn't a reliable gauge of maturity) and financially ready to start a family. My aunt got married at 32, had her first child at 37 and had normal twins at 39. I think a successful marriage boils down to the right choice of partner and being a good spouse.
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• United States
19 May 08
Well, I hope not because I am 31 and not married yet,however I am in a serious relationship and we've been discussing marriage. Do whatever feels right for you. I, personally do not think that there is right or wrong "time" to get married. The right ttime is when you are in love and BOTH ready for the commitment. You sound like you know what you want in life so don't worry about it and just go for your goals!
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@yellows (245)
• Malaysia
7 May 11
Some people are worry after they passed all their goals coz they dont know what to do next.
• United States
19 May 08
That age is fine to get married. You have pretty much figured out who you are and have matured enough to make good solid decisions. If you wait for the "perfect" time to make decisions like marriage or kids, you will never do it. Life is never perfect. There will always be issues, problems, unfulfilled goals, etc., that will be in your life and by using them as a reason not to make other life decisions, you'll always be spinning your wheels. If you have someone you love that wants to be your life partner and friend, seize the moment and don't let them get away!
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@yellows (245)
• Malaysia
7 May 11
Thanks for your great advice. Unfortunately I mostly found that someone want to be my life partner but I realised that Im not really love them..sigh..