I Feel Guilty!!!

United States
May 28, 2008 6:18pm CST
Sometimes I feel bad because I read many discussions, that amuse me, interest me, educate me etc., etc. But! I do not respond. The guidelines tell you .... Under the Do's of Discussions "Please make sure you give your best effort to respond with quality responses. If you don’t know how to respond to a discussion, go on to the next one. Under the Dont's it says "Post "Me Too!" messages; add something of substance to the conversation." Well often I have nothing of substance to say. When I really feel guilty I say "thanks for sharing" or some such nicety. I know that is not really taking part in a discussion. Then to make matters worse I will go back a few time to see what other interesting responses (of substance) have been added by others! Have you ever felt like this? If so what do you, or would you, do?
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@gabs8513 (48715)
• United Kingdom
28 May 08
Yes Heather I have and do a lot of times so I will just rate them if I can not think of anything to response on them so don't feel bad I think there are a few of us here that do the same it is better not to respond if you don't know what to say then response with something that is not to good
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• United States
28 May 08
I also rate them and all the good responses as well. I think it is better not to just say anything if I can respond intelligently.
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@richiem (3646)
• Philippines
29 May 08
would rating a discussion or a response earn you money? i know it would sound like i am in here for money, but it is part of the game right?
• Singapore
29 May 08
Nah, why feel guilty? myLot was not created to make people feel guilty. If you feel you can and want to, just respond. Otherwise, skip! If it makes your day reading 200 myLot postings but responding ZERO, so be it! Have a great day!
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• Singapore
5 Jul 08
Thanks for BR!
@Madona1 (2097)
• Gibraltar
29 May 08
Hello there, I don’t feel guilty about it as everyday there are hundreds of new posts, which is impossible I can respond one by one. Particularly, some of the posts that are out of my interest and knowledge that I have to skip and respond the ones I know. For me, I always try me best to respond and share my view in my spare time, this is the best I can do.
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@taface412 (3176)
• United States
29 May 08
Most of the times when I read a discussion I find something to add my 2 cents worth on, or debate on, etc. And other times it is to get a discussion a little deeper. But then there are ones that I have really nothing to say and I do not post anything....and sometimes that's really stinks because I will find myself on here for five hours and not much to say....which is odd because I can talk to a wall... don't feel bad. it's like talking with people in real life...sometimes it works sometimes it don't. Do you feel bad when you only surround yourself with people of quality in your real life? Prob not so don't feel bad about it on here. Plus, look at it this way too. The topics themselves should be of quality and the ones I always skip are not very well thought out...as in small choppy sentences, ones that do not make sense at all, etc.
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@dragon54u (31636)
• United States
29 May 08
Sometimes I do, when it's one of my friends here. We're supposed to support our friends but if I have nothing to contribute I don't feel I should post anything. It's pretty obvious when someone is posting just to make the penny, and when people do that with my discussions I feel a little hurt because they're just using me. You certainly have a lot of activity here, though, so I hope you don't feel too badly!
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• Philippines
29 May 08
haha! this is funny. You got it right! well sometimes I came across a discussion with a topic something about relationship it was really a quality discussion but I just passed by and did not response or just say, Thanks! Thats good to hear. or sorry for that I know how you feel. Cheers! LOL!
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• Canada
29 May 08
I like to think of myLot like a block party. I wander around with my hot dog and my cocktail. If I hear an interesting discussion, I will take the time to listen. If I have a strong opinion, I will state it and explain myself. If I agree with the speakers, I may or may not voice my agreement, depending on the situation. If I am the leader of a discussion, I try to acknowledge all respondants, so they feel included in the conversation. If I have nothing to contribute, I will move on. And if I just want to validate someone's opinion with my agreement, then I do just that. I think the only difference is that we are anticipating getting paid (some of us more so than others), and that makes you second guess your own thoughts and ideas. That is why I think of it like a social event, no pressure, just mingle where you like to. The best part is, myLot is not in real time, so you don't have to miss one discussion because you were participating in another!!! I have a friend here at myLot who quite faithfully posts discussions (some exceptions). I get them to my email and enjoy reading them VERY much. I never have anything to say to them though. I started to feel guilty about this...I should be supporting my friend, by responding to his discussions. Instead, I wrote him a quick email to tell him how much I enjoyed his discussions even though I never responded. He was grateful for my fan-ship and did not care that I did not respond, and I'm sure my words will help to keep him posting (which was my selfish motivation...just because I don't reply, doesn't mean I want him to stop lol). I don't care that I could have earned by responding. I don't care that my personal email earned me nothing. I care that he keeps writing what I enjoy reading. So I took care of my guilt in what I think is an effective manner lol.
@plumwish07 (4060)
• Indonesia
29 May 08
i just try my best to submit response when i see the discussion is interested enough for me to response. as like your discussion in here, it makes me wanna drop something however, i don't think its necessary to force ourselves to drop response if we think that we have no words about that although the discussion interested us to response. well thats on my opinion
@lilybug (21148)
• United States
29 May 08
I do this sometimes as well. I think that there are some days when I find myself reading a lot more than I reply. I will read the discussion and even the replies, but then I do not have anything to add, so I don't. You are not alone.
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@mummymo (23707)
29 May 08
Don't feel guilty whiteheather - why should you! I guess we all have to take part in mylot in the way that is most comfortable for us and I wouldn't think there was anything wrong in reading posts and not responding - at least you are enjoying them! Sometimes I feel I can't add anything and skip the post , other times I keep it to the side in case I can get my brain into gear at a later time as sometimes that happens! Just keep doing what feels right for you! xxx
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@jer31558 (3683)
• United States
30 May 08
Though I may not give lengthy responses, I try to make them around 3 or 4 lines long. I try to respond to everything in my inbox though there are sometimes those that don't apply to me. I have responded to some of those type of discussions just because it came from someone on my friends list. There are some though that I just delete without responding to for that reason. I do feel guilty at times if I don't respond to everything from my friends.
• China
29 May 08
i also did these but i really have no time i'm so busy with my courses
@Lakota12 (42684)
• United States
29 May 08
IF others have added to someone elses responce I try to respond back to them the best I can all ya can do.
@vicki2876 (5640)
• Canada
29 May 08
HAHAHA I do that too! So many times I read a whole discussion even all the responses because I am so curious but then I get to the end and feel I have not more I could add to the discussion. I am glad to hear now that I am not alone.
@paid2write (5202)
29 May 08
If you enjoyed the discussion topic but had nothing much to add at least you acknowledged that you found it interesting and I think that is a way of taking part. It will be appreciated by the person who started the discussion, so there is no need to feel guilty. I do read discussions which I don't respond to. If I don't think I can write more than four lines in a response I don't usually bother. But I have been known to add a couple of lines thanking someone for posting an interesting or important topic and adding my agreement.