Why do Women Stay??

United States
May 29, 2008 3:39pm CST
Why do women stay in abusive relationships? Are they scared? Have no one to help them? Because they have kids? They love him? Does anyone have experience with violence against women? Thankfully I don't, but its hard for me to understand why they would stay. Its very sad. What could society do to help the situation?
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@sunkissed (4332)
• United States
29 May 08
Yes, I stayed in a very abusive relationship for over 8 years. Oh it started out great.Then the physical abuse started. then the mental abuse, because he knew he would get locked up if he left marks on me. with the mental abuse, there is no physical evivence..As to why women stay in these relationships, there are several reasons. He threatened me, my children, my family. Yes I was scared, he aslo had my self-estemm at a all time low.I thought nobody else would want me.He really had my head a mess, I could not think right, I did not know what to do. I had to think for a long time, how to get out of the relationship.I did love him, I think at the time, I loved him more than I loved myself!!But when my granddaughter was born, I knew i did not want her brought up in that house with him, I had to get out.Every woman has a breaking point, then they will want out. until then they will stay.There are woman's shelters out there. When I left I got a protective order on him.It was very hard for me to do. But I knew I could no longer endure his abuse. This was 10 years ago.
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• United States
31 May 08
Your story is both sad and scary, I'm so glad you found the courage to get out.
@spalladino (17925)
• United States
29 May 08
I knew a woman a long time ago who had an abusive husband. She stayed because he had convinced her that it was her fault that he beat her up, he earned good money and they had a nice home, she had children to support and no skills and, finally, he got her hooked on the vicodin he took for a back condition. He was probably hooked too. It was very sad because she had family and friend who would have helped her but she chose to stay with him.
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@Hatley (164654)
• Garden Grove, California
1 Jun 08
I have met women in this situation and they stay for a number of reasons, usually fear and fear of being broke. society can help by providing them with shelters, and finnacial aid and child care. I have never been in this situation myself thank goodness for that. but have 'directed those who have to go to certain shelters where they will find help and lodgings.