I'm Sooooooooo Proud of my Boy!!!!!!!

Canada
June 5, 2008 6:46pm CST
YEAH!!!!!!! *Doing a happy dance* I just have to share with you all my great excitement!!! This morning while my son's therapist was here I had to run out and do some banking and run some other errands...I came back to find them both in the washroom and my son doing a HUGE pee on the toilet!!!! For the first time ever on his initiation!! He had asked to go and so she took him expecting nothing to happened and he went huge!! We threw a party and he did it a second time while she was here and has done it twice for me this evening since we got back from a bunch of appointments...Only one wet pull up today and that was while we were out at the appointments! He will be five at the end of the month and for those who don't know is Autistic and so for him to initiate this is huge and he is so proud of himself for doing this! Again, this is his first time ever peeing on the toilet!!! So, to make this a discussion what are your potty training experiences? Did it take a lot of work from you or did they pretty much do it on their own? Did you wait for them and not push the issue? Any stories, comical or otherwise concerning this? What did you use for reinforcements? How old was/were the child(ren)? ~Heavens~
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@weemam (13377)
6 Jun 08
AS someone who has a disabled child ( now a Man ) I know how much of a step this was for him , and just how proud and excited you must feel pal , I have a friend with 2 autistic kids , so again I realize what a big step this is for him , Give him a big hug from his auntie Margaret in Scotland and tell him how proud I am of him , xxxx
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• Canada
8 Jun 08
Sorry weemam! I thought I had responded to yours...I had it rated! Not sure what happened there unless my boy distracted me or something...Ah well, better late than never I guess! Thanks so much my dear friend for your kind words and I want to update that he has been doing so well week-end with keeping dry! Pretty much all of his pee is going into the toilet in the day time! Love and Hugs ~Heavens~
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@weemam (13377)
8 Jun 08
you don't have to worry about responding to mine pal , I am so pleased he is almost dry , he must be feeling so proud of himself too xx
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• Canada
8 Jun 08
Thanks! XXX ~Heavens~
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• United States
22 Jun 08
Can I please ask a question.I have a seven year old Grandson,that i have always suspected,had some form(mild) of Autism.My daughter seems to be in denial.He did'nt talk til he was five,and has always been a little different.He loves to take apart electrical things,was obsessed with vacuum cleaners when he was younger.She took him to a couple of Drs.but apparently not the right one.They just brushed it off.And she doe'snt want to think anything is wrong.He has improved alot the last couple of years.He was about 5 when he was going to pee in the toilet.The problem I have a question on is,he wont pooh in the toilet.We have talked,scholded,reasoned,he still does it on himself.He is at our house every day,while the parents work,and I'm at my wits end.He doe'snt go to public school,he goes to a private Christian school,because it has smaller classrooms,and at the time he started,large groups would cause him to withdraw.He will go all day this next fall and the poohing on himself is going to be a big problem.He was lucky this last year as it was only half day.Do you have any suggestions?I have looked on the internet,but hav'nt found alot on the potty issue.
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• Canada
22 Jun 08
You could be right about your Grandson...It is definitely not normal to not talk until age five and fascinations with objects etc. is one of the characteristics as well as withdrawal from crowds and wanting to play alone! My question is how did you get him peeing on the toilet? does he always pee on the toilet...does he stay dry all night...is he in straight underware all the time? With what you have told me, I can only go by my experience with my son and what I have read but I know poo comes later and so am not concerned about that for me yet! In fact my boy is back to peeing in his pull up and not asking for toilet anymore...it is very frustrating I do agree there! The way I got my boy to pee on the toilet was by having two very exciting toys in the bathroom and he knew he had to pee to get them and could only have them in the bathroom along with a big sticker board up ion the wall where he gets a sticker for sitting on the toilet but the toys only if he pees a big pee not just a dribble either! If he ever pooed he would get a huge treat of ice cream or something but we aren't there yet! He may need visuals and also tangible reinforcers in order to accomplish this....Things he really likes that he can only have when he poos on the toilet and no other time...You have to be strict on that...I say to my son "Want toy pee on toilet" and it seems to work but we are also going on his agenda right now...If he does not ask to go we do not force him but when he shows interest we make a huge deal over it!!! You need to not make it a negative but a positive for him or he will continue to soil himself! do not punish...Offer rewards and be very encouraging and positive and let him lead the way! Start by getting your reinforcers in place and then show them to him and tell him he can have them if he poos in the toilet like a big boy and every time he does throw a party!!! Make him feel like a King! :) Good Luck and let me know if there is anything else I can help you with! ~Heavens~
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@gabs8513 (48715)
• United Kingdom
13 Jun 08
Sweetie I am sorry I am late on this but I am very behind I am so happy for you and for the little Fellow that is just wonderful and I really hope that he keeps it up I bet he is so pleased with himself to and he has every right to be Love and Hugs to you
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• Canada
14 Jun 08
Thanks so much Gabs! He is at a stand still again this last couple of days for some reason and is not sitting on the toilet as much now! :( ~Heavens~
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@ZephyrSun (7385)
• United States
9 Jun 08
Well that's great news! I am really glad you told us in your post that your son has autism because until I hit that spot I was so confused. I am so glad that you were able to have the wonderful experience of potty training. My children just sorta started using it at two and half. I do remember lots of falling in which I always thought was funny but the children didn't.
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• Canada
14 Jun 08
Yes, I would never say that my five year old went pee on the potty for the first time and stop there...It would make people wonder wouldn't it! ~Heavens~
@ZephyrSun (7385)
• United States
14 Jun 08
LOL yes it would but I have heard of some "normal" children still not being potty trained at 5. At a matter of fact my oldest was in kindergarden and there was a boy that other children made fun of because he still wore Pull-Ups. Anyway, I hope it is still going great!
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• Canada
22 Jun 08
That was my fear for my boy this year but to my knowledge this did not happen to him...I always put under ware on over the pull up and his aid was a s discrete as possible with his supplies! ~Heavens~
@mummymo (23707)
6 Jun 08
FANTASTIC No wonder you are so happy - if I could I would do the happy dance with you! I always had a potty around my kids when they were tiny and when they were big enough they would play with it and wear it as a hat if they wanted - they were never scared of or nervous of a potty and when it came time to start using it they kind of initiated it as they hated wearing nappies! Well done to your gorgeous boy and i am sure he is very proud of himself - just as he should be! xxx
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• Canada
6 Jun 08
Thanks Mummymo...We are certainly heading in the right direction with him now! ~Heavens~
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@mummymo (23707)
7 Jun 08
How could you not be when you are both so fantastic! Hugs xxx
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• Canada
7 Jun 08
Shame on you Mo!!!! You made me blush! Love ya bunches! ~Heavens~
• United States
13 Aug 08
YAY!!!!! Im so sorry Im just reading this now....months after he did it buts AWESOME!!! I cant wait for this moment with Gavin!
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• Canada
14 Aug 08
Yes it was amazing and he did so for about four or five days or maybe it was a week and then he just stopped asking and would not sit on the toilet!:( Still he is not although he did do a little pee yesterday on his own initiation...I think I still have a long way to go yet!:( So thrilled to see you here!!!!~Heavens~
• United States
9 Jun 08
That is great that he went and did this and is now wanting to do it more often. I know with my son it wasn't hard to teach him for I bought him a potty chair but he really wanted the big one so his father and I got him a step up stool and he went that way instead. He got rewarded for the times he went and got praised for it as well for this was a big deal for all of us. He was 2 by the time he was potty trained and I was glad. I wish you the best of luck w/ your son that he may continue to do a good job at potty training.
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• Canada
14 Jun 08
Thanks so much Remembering1996! My son also has a step stool and the toilet ring and uses the big toilet as he will not use a potty! He has actually stopped wanting to use the toilet these last couple of days...Not sure why.....I guess the battle is not over! ~Heavens~
@Hatley (164507)
• Garden Grove, California
9 Jun 08
my son when he was three practically trained himself as I had put the potty chair out and explained he should use when he needed to go pee and poo. I had no trouble at all with him. no more wet or dirty diapers. now my little girl was brain damaged at birth and never did learn to use the potty although we tried and tried. we lost her at age eight.
• Canada
14 Jun 08
So sorry for your loss Hatley..... Thanks for sharing your experiences with me! ~Heavens~
@lisado (1230)
• United States
8 Jun 08
That's great! Congrats to both of you!! Both of my sons are also Autistic and both in diapers. My 9 year old will SIT on the potty but won't GO in the potty, which has been frustrating to me, as well as his teachers and therapists. He will actually hold it and wait until you put the diaper back on to go, so it's really been frustrating. We've tried different things (scheduling and so on) but so far nothing has worked. We're still working on it. My youngest is only two (barely), so I'm not overly worried there, yet.
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• Canada
8 Jun 08
Hello lisado! Thanks so much for sharing here with me and I am so sorry to hear of the difficulties with your son.... With my boy the approach has been not to push any thing...We have been going on his lead and if he asked to go we would take him but he would not pee until this past Thursday and now we are still waiting for him to ask and he has fairly dry all week-end..only a couple wet diapers and of course the poopy ones but I'm not worried about that! Most times he goes to the toilet and we can re-use the pull up! ~Heavens~
8 Jun 08
I'm so happy for you both! My neice is Autistic , so I've heard the stories. Keep up the Good work ! ~Another Mother~
• Canada
8 Jun 08
Thanks so much shakleelady and welcome to My Lot! ~Heavens~
@mikeysmom (2092)
• United States
6 Jun 08
congrats on this bigtime!!! my nephew who will be 4 later this month is also autistic and still not potty trained. my sister just had another baby so changing a 4 year old and a new born all day long sometimes leaves little time for much else. he is not even remotely interested in learning so if you could share some tips and advice i would be so grateful to you. again good for your little guy!
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• Canada
7 Jun 08
I can see how much of a challenge that would be! My son will be five at the end of this month.... We haven't pushed him....If he sat on the toilet he got a sticker and that is all he would do, had he peed he would have gotten a treat but no....and there would be long periods of time where he would not want to sit on the toilet and so we did not push him. Yesterday out of the blue he started asking to go to the toilet and has had only one wet diaper and two poopy diapers since yesterday....I'm so proud of him as he is doing this all on his own. I'm still not asking him if he has to go, I am letting him do it all on his own...He comes to me and tells me or goes into the bathroom and then I just follow hiom and his lead...Seems to be working and for Autism many don't train until later (8-12 years of age) so we are very happy! ~Heavens~
@freedomg (1684)
• United States
6 Jun 08
Congratulations I know that potty training is really hard for autistic kids ( from a friends experience). As for your question about our potty training stories. The toughest kids I had wee my younger two , the boy didn't was potty trained like 95% then they had to stay with my mom in law for a few weeks and she stuck him back in diapers. That took us back to square one till I caught his older brother and him in the back yard playing sprinkler. After that peeing was fun. Thank God for good big brothers. The girl would not go poop at all. She would hold it because she said it hurt even with mineral oil then after a few days she would go in her sleep. EEWWW but we have added a 1/4 cup of raisins to her daily diet and all is good. The older two pretty much trained themselves they hated being "icky".
• Canada
6 Jun 08
Thanks so much for sharing your story here! I think with any child it is a matter of allowing them to set the pace and waiting until they are ready....Making it a positive experience is also important I feel! ~Heavens~
• Canada
6 Jun 08
Wow!!! Good for him, and I don't blame you one bit for dancing. That's absolutely wonderful, for all of you. I'm glad he knows how proud you are of him, and I'm glad he responds to that.
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• Canada
6 Jun 08
Thanks so much my friend! It is great to see you here also I must add! ~Heavens~