How can I overcome my financial burdens living in America today?

United States
June 13, 2008 2:48pm CST
I posted earlier this week because I lost my job. Now, I have an appointment next week with welfare (which I just got off of because I had a job). I have two kids, one in diapers, the other in pull ups. I just can't see a light at the end of the tunnel. The pull ups and diapers alone cost ALOT of money, and I do not qualify for unemployment because I didn't work long enough. I just don't understand how I am supposed to overcome this. I was doing so well, I graduated from a vocational school and got the job, but now the depression is taking over my motivation. Today, I slept until 1:00 in the afternoon, I JUST CAN'T FACE LIFE RIGHT NOW. I am trying to be strong for my children, but I have no support whatsoever and it is very discouraging. Please give me some ideas, I am so down right now, ANY ADVICE OR ENCOURAGEMENT WOULD REALLY HELP. I just feel so alone.
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@sudalunts (5526)
• United States
14 Jun 08
I understand your situation. Question, you have a baby still in diapers, what about the father. He should be helping you out, since you have his child. If he isn't you should file for child support. At least that will help with diapers and milk and food for the kids. Does your community have a food bank. Since you have young children, maybe you could do baby sitting until your appointment. Wishing you well God bless
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• United States
14 Jun 08
I would ask their father for help, but he got deported back to his country. So I truly alone, I don't have my family to help me, they can't even help themselves. But that would be wonderful if he could help me.
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@WATARIKENJI (1534)
• Philippines
14 Jun 08
Hi, sorry to hear that. What do you think of selling some goods to your friends, neighbors, and relatives? It would help a lot.
@enbrown (282)
• United States
13 Jun 08
I understand what you are going through! Everything is soooo expensive anymore! I stay home all the time because it costs sooo much to buy gas! It seems like vocational schools are such a rip off too. I went to school for cosmetology (hairstylist) and all they wanna pay is min wage. WTF that doesn't seem right to me! I got a job as a teacher assistant which pays more but still not enough. Plus I don't have a job in the summer! It's annoying. I'm trying my hand now at a t-shirt business. I really hope it takes off because I have bills that need to be paid, lol. Just hang in there. You are going to be ok! If you have time check out my estore and be honest hahaha tell me if it sucks or not! http://www.cafepress.com/761712
@gwoman2 (711)
• United States
13 Jun 08
Hi Latoyahall, I have been where you are. First things first, your health is the most important because without that you cannot do for your children. Go to the welfare and you be the one to tell them what you want to do not the other way around...you tell them you would like some type of training or going back to school or help with finding a job...I am almost positive that they have a One Stop Career Center near you which should offer transportation and childcare, also you need immediate funds from the welfare, do not let them tell you that they can't do that, if they do, immediately tell them you want an appeal then they'll have to help you wether they want to or not, it is the law here in New Jersey and hopefully in your state too. Please feel free to e-mail me with questions, or just to talk. gwoman2007@comcast.net I am in Social Service and will do what I can to help you with useful information. Stay cool, stay well, and don't stress...take good care of your babies and remember, where there is a will there is a way...talk to you soon. ~G~
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• Philippines
14 Jun 08
It's sad to hear it. But the first thing you better do is,ask God to give you fate,enough courage and way to find out source of income.Next thing,think about that your not the only person suffer that much, many people are much worst than you but they survive because God is a living. If you will come to him and ask him what to do we will give it to you if you will put your trust in Him. I wish you overcome all of this things.
@Hatley (164471)
• Garden Grove, California
14 Jun 08
latoyahall please keep calm. first have you family who can'help you with diapers and pull ups and food, is there a food bank' you can go to, and where is your ex can he help you with expenses'you need some backup people on your side , go back to your vocational school and see if you can get help from job placement. also go to your local church as they have help people who can help you with food and baby supplies and maybe even a job offer. help is out there so go do some looking and get family members involved to help you. let us know how you are doing. we care.
@nelly5 (1425)
• United States
13 Jun 08
Latoyahall, keep your head up girl, trust me I can honestly say that I totally understand what you are going through. I was a single mom of 3 young kids (7, 6 and 3 years old), working part-time and going to college full-time. Financially it was very, very hard and I did have a time of depression but you know what, one day I "woke up" and thought, "what difference is this depression going to make in my life"....absolutely nothing good will come of it! You have to keep your head up, a smile on your face and think positive. I got to the point where I finally realized that I had to put God first, with Him first, all other things will fall into place. It was tough but I knew with God on my side..who could be against me! I did what I needed to do to make ends meet and to be sure that my babies didn't go without. Sometimes we have to swallow our pride and get welfare, work where we don't want to, or even ask a church or some other organization for help. Just know that you are not the only person who has been through a time like what you are dealing with right now. I know that doesn't take away the stress and pain that you are feeling but I hope to encourage you. Where there is a will, there is a way! I highly encourage you to become involved in a church and to find that spiritual person that you can call on for some emotional support. I will pray for you and I wish the best of luck to you and your babies!! Keep your head up!!