OMG what do i do???

@rane0328 (129)
United States
June 25, 2008 11:51am CST
Ok so heres the deal, every second of everyday my husband feels it is nessasary to be preverted, grabbing my had and placing it between his legs or just saying preverted things. its nice to know that he is that interested in me but at the same time its a little annoying. i've told him this and asked him not to do it as much but he isn't listening, how can i get through to him???? whats the best way to deal with it????
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9 responses
• Australia
26 Jun 08
If you feel what your husband is doing is preverted, if it is making you uncomfortable then he needs to stop right away. It's really disrespectful & has nothing to do with him finding you attractive, but is more about him making himself feel powerful when he can make you feel bad. Really, it's bullying.
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• United States
26 Jun 08
Im pretty sure hes not doing it to bully her, hes doing it to be playful.just she doesnt like to be so playful at times
@ynigz1 (472)
• China
26 Jun 08
Sometimes they are don't listen to us. I think sometimes man just like a like, they will do what you don't want to do. If you persist to tell him don't this and that, they will persist doing this and that. I have no idea of him, so sometimes I just keep silience and hope some day I can get used to this. And mayby some day, he will not do that, dure to no one told him not to do.
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@Ravenladyj (22940)
• United States
25 Jun 08
Well Kudos to you for maintaining your composure cause holy hell I would SNAP..I would go up one side of him and down the other telling him that I DO NOT appreciate being treated like a pc of meat 24/7 and that I would like a more respect than what one would give a streetwalker because I damn well deserve it...then I would probably clock him but I'm hot-headed like that
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@TessWhite (3147)
• United States
25 Jun 08
Wow, tough one. Hopefully I can answer without offending. My words to my partner if he did that can't be listed here. LOL I guess I'd just tell him he is being juvenile and to grow up. There is a time and a place for it and he needs to figure that out.
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@Latrivia (2889)
• United States
25 Jun 08
I know what you mean, my husband does similar things. Let him know immediately with both words and body language that you do not find his actions at all amusing. Roll your eyes, slump your shoulders - act like a teen that's being forced to hang out with parents they think are lame. Pull away from him if you have the chance. Always, tell him when he tries to pull those stunts that his actions are irritating you. Loving him doesn't mean you'll always happily tolerate his childish antics.
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• United States
26 Jun 08
HAHAHAHAHAHA i see a quick fix to this... next time he grabs ur hand puts it inbetween his legs pinch, squeeze what ever i bet he wont do that anymore.
@guybrush (4661)
• Australia
26 Jun 08
I have the perfect solution, rane. Put chilli powder on your hand before he grabs it and places it on his bits and pieces ... I guarantee he won't be so keen next time!
@schulzie (4066)
• United States
26 Jun 08
Maybe if you offer him something in return for not doing it in front of your kids or in public, like tell him you'll do something nice for him later in your bedroom that is only for him so he feels he is getting the "royal treatment". You should be flattered he finds you attractive. I bet he is a young guy and sometimes when they are really young that is all they have on their minds. I understand it could really old really fast, but try to sit down and discuss it with him where you guys have no distractions and can actually talk it out. Hope all goes well with this situation.
@cwilson26 (2737)
• United States
25 Jun 08
Oh I know what you mean. My hubby does the same thing and even though I like the attention it does get annoying. I have told him countless times that I don't like him doing it so much but he will not listen. My only suggestion to you is to keep telling him over and over until, hopefully one day, he will finally get it. Good luck. :)