My 5 year old niece says she is in love with a 14 year old boy..

India
June 27, 2008 7:24am CST
Ha haa.. i can't control my laugh when she told me,straight away.. that she is in love with the 14 year old boy..who is her neighbor ..and says if at all she marries..lol.. she will marry him..lol: I was really puzzled and asked her.. what is meant by love.. She shot back.. " You Mama.. still you don't know.. what it is..despite becoming such a being fella".. She continued..have you not watched TV, the lover.. used to bring choclates.. give flowers.. talk with each other.. I said ..yes, but what connection it has with that of Balaji ( that boys name) She replied.. he used to give me chocolates,.. and give one or two roses.. that blossom daily in his house...and in the evening.. he plays with me.. My God.... what a misconception the Media, and the TV shows has sown in the minds of the young ones.. I can't believe this.. Then it took time for me ..to explain her.. in a way she would understand.. about love....really hard times ahead for the parents in bringing up the kids like my niece.
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17 responses
• United States
28 Jun 08
Hahaha kids are so freaking cute!.. they say the darndest things... i dont have cable so my daughter doesnt get to watch tv, if she does its dvd's and vh's wich i monitor before she gets to watch them so i feel pretty safe about all that right now... though i do worry about what kids learn from tv. somtimes its not just about "love" but other things, and violence and just outright bad behavior. But i think if you start putting it in their heads when their kids. this is tv not really real. this is wrong,this is just to entertain people, and DEFINATLY pay attention to what you watch when your kids are around. and show them whats right and wrong through your actions. you should be pretty safe. Because even when she goes to school and meets friends who "are in love" because of what they seen on tv. You litlte one is ganna have your voice in the back of her head. this isnt really real. its just to entertain I think i explained that right lmao...
@faith210 (11233)
• Philippines
20 Jul 08
Hi saivenkaat802003! haha..That is funny and shocking at the same time. Out of the mouth of a child. haha..Good thing you are there to explain to her what love really is. haha..Parenting is hard work! Good luck on all the parents out there! Take care and God Bless!
• India
20 Jul 08
And really a hard time for parents.. and just now.. she called me..and now she wants to decorate the PC in her house with lot of new wallpapers, and just chided me, why you have sent me mail. I said that i will do immediately to her. She is speaking of all terms like downloads, version,mailing..and these things i never ever thought of.. in fact, i was not even aware of these when i was young.
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@faith210 (11233)
• Philippines
21 Jul 08
Hi friend! Children nowadays are more exposed and are more informed than during our time. With all the modern information accessible worldwide even to the youngest of this generation. I think they are more keen and observant and are more vocal on their thoughts and emotions. I think, it is a good thing. Take care and God Bless!
@acevivx (1566)
• Philippines
27 Jun 08
I think it is too early to be be confronting her with reality. At her age it is normal for her to think she is in love but she will outgrow such puppy love as she grows older. maybe instead of rudely bringing her down to earth, you let her enjoy her feelings and fantasies. She's still very yopung and there's lots of time to talk to her about the birds and the bees and the thing called love.Didn't you ever had a crush on a boy when you were her age or around that age? And didn't you grow out of it and realize when you grew older what love really is all about? In the end, the upbringing will tell so no need to needlessly worry. Let her enjoy her feelings, innocent as they are.
• India
27 Jun 08
No.. i did not try to curtail her.. or rudely calm her...but only told her that it is not love.... love is something that we have for our parents.. brothers.. and with parents.. In fact, i really enjoyed her expressions.. actions..behavoir etc..
@acevivx (1566)
• Philippines
27 Jun 08
Maybe it would have been better not to have reacted so much and just let her enjoy going through such "phase". Anyway, guess you did what you thought is best.
@secretbear (19466)
• Philippines
16 Aug 08
hi saiven! are you sure she's five years old?? i can't believe a five-year old kid can say that. again, the media has proved how it can affect the outlook and attitude of a person. now its really up to parents and adults to guide their children and point to them which to believe and which not to believe in the television or any media. how the children will grow up will depend to this guidance. but that's really funny! ^__^;; i saw in the television, the Pinoy Dream Academy reality show where they don't only have adult participants but also kids in gradeschool. there was a little guy there, the age of 8 or 9, who would always hold the hands of this little girl and sometimes he would hug her! i don't know if someone is teaching him to do it but it seemed really funny no matter how it looks naughty.
• India
16 Aug 08
Yea.. she has just joined kinder garden..and the way she speaks we cannot reply to her questions.. You have rightly said that it is the wrong notion that is seeded in the minds of these children at these tender ages is the cause of these kind of things.. Take care friend and have a good week end.
@lingli_78 (12846)
• Australia
28 Jun 08
that is really funny... small children now are so exposed to the media especially TV and watch those kind of shows that make their minds fantasied about those romance things which is too young for their minds and inappropriate... i think you are right... parents nowadays have extra job to do to raise children in this modern times... take care and have a nice day...
@lingli_78 (12846)
• Australia
7 Jul 08
thanks for the best response... really appreciate it... take care and have a nice day...
• India
27 Jun 08
That's really interesting. But this is only a five-year-old child; so I guess we can sympathize with her. I know grown-ups who believe that media love is really love. Can you believe that? Anyway, I am happy that a five-year-old niece knows what "Mama" doesn't know about love...eh Mama? Isn't it time you learn? LOL Cheers and happy mylotting
• India
28 Jun 08
May be that i have to learn it from here.. ha ha.. Any way she is really a cute little one..
@fwangaa (3058)
• China
28 Jun 08
yes, the children quite clever now.
@navtech (1776)
• India
28 Jun 08
Dear saivenkaat, Most of the children when they are young without knowing anything they used to tell things like that. One of my relative's boy when he was only 4 years old would tell that he, when he grew up, would marry her aunt. We should not give important to this sort childish thinking. Thanks
@lovenluck (1068)
• India
28 Jun 08
that's really worth a smile atleast, well really the media and tv has stuffed our mind with all these things and we really don't understand the real thing. Every girl we see we fall in love,most of us are living in out own dream world were everything is divine. WE just fell that something divine will happen and chnge our luck instead of working hard for it. It's all those media effects and it's really hampering our intellectual development.
• Pakistan
28 Jun 08
well yes it is hard, these all plays and dramas on tv just say love and nothing else, atleast children must not be allowed to watch these dramas and movies.... and i hope she is a cute litte angel, your niece, i do also also give sweets and chocilates to the children in my street all kids i just LOVE them....
@Hatley (164759)
• Garden Grove, California
28 Jun 08
I would not worry too much about a five year olds crush on a fourteen year old. she is just a baby and he is a friend. She does not know what love for a guy is and wont for along' while yet. But she sounds kind of cute and who knows maybe someday when she is tweny she will find a boy like her neighbor and really fall in love.She sounds really normal to me.
• Indonesia
27 Jun 08
Hahaha, I would definitely freak out if I hear my daughter say things like that! I know what tv shows are like these days, young kids getting pregnant, married and so on, so scary. That's why I don't let my daughter watch other than playhouse disney channel and other kids shows, so I set the parental control each time I go out. My daughter is only 3 yrs old now, so it's easier.
• Philippines
27 Jun 08
That's cute :) I too remember having puppy loves at that age, I used to kiss a boy I had a crush on in kindergarten and find it funny now when a neigbor would ask me, "weren't you the little girl who used to kiss *forgot name*" She'll grow out of it, but it's nice that you explained to her about real love rather than snapping at her that what she's thinking is wrong.
• United States
27 Jun 08
Hmm thats very adroable I remember when I was young and had my first crush on the boy next door.My parents thought it the most cutest thing.but I hated it when they laughed at me.Now looking back I find it quite funny.
@williamjisir (22905)
• China
27 Jun 08
hehehe, that is kid. They can always say something funny that makes you laugh.
@arddi2007 (202)
• Albania
27 Jun 08
she's just a kid, she doesn't know what love is. i think that you have done something very good that you tried to explain her what the real love is. TV is very educative sometimes, but sometimes it may intend to teach kids something, and children may misunderstand this. so, i think that your case is only something funny!!! :D:D:D p.s. by the way that you described her and what she said, she sounds very sweet!! :D
@naseeha (1385)
• India
27 Jun 08
Yes youre right. My hubby too had a niece who used to say that when she grew up she would marry only him. She was about 5 year old when we got married. and she stopped saying so soon. They grow out of it. It is only mild misconception and i agree that it is the television and cinema in india is the reason for this.