why is my child silent?

Thailand
July 2, 2008 6:38pm CST
we decided before that our son will go to school at age 4 but my husband changed his mind and in a week's time, our 2 yrs 8 mo. son was already enrolled in pre school. i thought he may not socialize well, he likes to play and play. my fear came, his teacher commented that he does not talk in school. what seems to be the problem? he is used to watching tv, and follows the songs he hears. he answers and tell stories when we talk at home. why is he silent in school?
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@Muelitz (1592)
• Canada
2 Jul 08
My eldest son was also like that. When he started to go to school, he was very quiet and the teacher almost does not hear him when he talks. But when he comes home, he is very noisy lol. That is normally the case because it is a new environment. As time goes by he will have friends and will become talkative. You will see the difference in a week or two.:)
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@teison2 (5924)
• Norway
2 Jul 08
Maybe he is shy or overwhelmed. I would not worry much about it for a while. If he becomes self conscious about it it may take longer before he starts talking. As long as you know he can and does when he is safe I'd leave it for a while. Hope it gets better for him. He is just a tiny boy. Maybe it is too soon for him?
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@rsa101 (16235)
• Quezon City, Philippines
6 Sep 08
Well let's just say that he is adjusting to his new world. My son was also like that we enrolled him to a toddler school and he would just cling to us and so afaid about his new surroundings. but, eventually he was able to make his way around school and right now he is a five year old prep boy and enjoys a lot school. Let him adjust and in time he would enjoy it eventually. Right now you should not worry yet it has just begun. Though you should start worrying if that silence would be prolonged like maybe a couple of years from now maybe there is some deeper problems in there but if it has just started there is nothing to worry about still.
@amigula (120)
• Philippines
7 Jul 08
their could be various reasons try to spent time with the child , try to know his likes and dislikes , try to talk to his teachers amd frds and try to find out reasons for that , sure u will come up to get a root cause for that
@vijigopi (991)
• United States
3 Jul 08
A 2 year 8 month old in preschool? I thought you can only put a child in preschool when they are atleast 4.. Regarding his silence at school, how long has he been there? Maybe he is shy initially and will begin to talk when he finds out that talking will get him what he wants... friends or maybe cheers from his teacher and pals?
• Philippines
3 Jul 08
You did not give much info on whether or not your son has siblings. Usually kids with brothers and sisters speak up and socialize sooner, but in cases of first child, socializing comes later on. In my opinion though, it is too early for him to go to school, emotional quotient must be given more priority than chronologic age and this is specially true of boys. It would help if you talk to your pediatrician so that any concerns you might have can be adressed. Right now, the best that you can do would be to consider his time in school as preparation for socials and not really serious brainwork. If he has no siblings then his exposure now, will be his training for dealing with others of his age. Making friends will come in time. Give him time to adjust. Just make sure he is happy, healthy and getting much needed rest and playtime and in a few months time, he should warm up to his peers and have great time and actually look forward to school.
@cjgrooms (4456)
• United States
3 Jul 08
I wouldn't worry just yet. My Grandson was that way, the first several months of school the teacher said he never spoke then one day he started participating in story time and then he was as jabbery as the rest of the kids!
@chrysz (1603)
• Philippines
2 Jul 08
My child is also like that though she started schooling when she was 3 years and 8 months old. She was silent on the first few months of her class but eventually gathered new friends and became sociable. She is always like that but now that she's five, it only took her 2 weeks to become adjusted in her class.