What Should I Do?

United States
July 9, 2008 2:52pm CST
Lately this sort of guy friend of mine, who i've kind of been secretly crazy about for 9 years, has been ignoring me...I mean I'm fine with nothing happening between us, but there was this one night, let's say it was on a Sunday, and he works at this bar, and I go to this bar a lot, well it was dead, and he was watching a movie in the back and we start having friendly conversation about the movie and some of the other shows he was flipping between...but then the very next day, I try to smile at him, and he just looks right through me, I try again at another point thinking maybe he didn't notice, and again nothing, although he was wearing an IPOD, but still... And I know that probably the next time I see him I'm going to walk by him and not say anything and he'll playfully sock my arm, but part of me doesn't want to just smile and let it go, part of me wants to be like "Don't...you've ignored me for days and I'm supposed to just be cool with that and melt when you pay attention to me? I mean either we're kind of friends and you acknowledge me, or don't talk to me at all..." Does that sound like something I should say? Cuz I just can't let it go
4 responses
• United States
9 Jul 08
From a guy's point of view on this, I have a hunch that he really likes you, & is afraid. If he is single - un-attached, no girlfriend, etc, that might just be what his problem is. he might have built this imaginary wall, because he's afraid of getting hurt. I don't know anything about him, or the situation.
• United States
9 Jul 08
God I wish/hope that was the case...but I just don't know.
• United States
9 Jul 08
I'm actually thinking the best thing to do is you make the move, but make sure that he understands that his friendship means a lot to you, & you don't want to ruin it.
@katsmeow1213 (29029)
• United States
17 Jul 08
I think you need to forget about him. Stop going to his bar, find another one. Find a new guy to crush on. If you see this guy and he tries to say something to you, ignore him. Give him a taste of his own medicine. He's not worth your time... go find someone who is.
• United States
24 Jul 08
But that's the thing, it's not HIS bar, it's MINE, I've been addicted to it for five years, I have friends who go there all the time and are regulars there, he's the one who got a job like two years ago, I'd hate to give up my turf so to speak, but things are better between us I guess. At least he knows without a doubt that I like him.
@rsa101 (13336)
• Philippines
15 Jul 08
Well I think you just be nice with him. Maybe he is too sorting what to do with the relationship with you. Talk to him often, and try to know him much better. sometimes we just need to know if someone is interested in us and you just have to be yourself. Although just don't look to obvious that you really like him. Just be yourself enjoy his company when time allows you to be and let him feel comfortable when you are with him.
@Marcola (2776)
• United States
10 Jul 08
From a male point of view, I think us dudes like it when girls are aggressive. Don't ask for his attention, demand it! Be forward, talk a lot, make jokes, etc.