Skeletons In Cupboards - We All Have Them - What Secrets Have You Unveiled?
By ellie333
@ellie333 (21016)
July 11, 2008 10:20am CST
Whe I was vetted by the army many years ago they came back with a question 'Why was your surname your surname a year before it became your fathers surname? ??????? I don't know. It turned out that who I knew as my grandfather was in fact my step-grandfather who had bought my father up from a baby so my father used his surname but didn't get round to changing it by deed poll until after I was born. This is a great knowledge to have because when I started my job at the marine camp last year I had to be vetted again but knowing this in advance saved a lot of time. So have you ever uncovered any family secrets? How did it make you feel? Or do you know anyone who suddenly discovered a hidden family secret that was shocking? Ellie :D
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@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
11 Jul 08
I have not discover any secrets in the family..LOL! I have learned at my early age that my grandfather mother side has 3 sons with different girls before married to my grandma and they got 10 kids!LOL! Not much secrets I guess since they are open about it!
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@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
11 Jul 08
Maybe it was! LOL! All those sons were very close to our family now!
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@tamarafireheart (15384)
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11 Jul 08
Hi ellie,
Funny you should bring that sort of discussion, last week end I went my newphew's bar-b-que, we were all haveing agret time with my sister and also my neice and all the firends, now later in the evening we were talking about family trees, now I know that I was born in Burma, my father was English and my was Italian,my mother's mum my granmother I always thought was Burmies get this turns out to be French and my granfather is Italian,then let go to my father's side now my father's father is was English and my father's mum my granmother on my father side,are you keeping up? is alos French. French, Italian and English. So what will that make me? lord knows.
Love & Hugles.
Tamara.
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@tamarafireheart (15384)
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11 Jul 08
Hi ellie,
I agree with you, I'm like dolly mixture he-he.
Love & hugles
Tamara
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@littleowl (7157)
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11 Jul 08
Hi Ellie you are right about secrets in the family,though very few come to light in my family we all have them and keep them to ourselves apart from one of my sisters she is open and honest and never hides a thing..she speaks her mind and you always know where you stand with her...but I cant say that any of them have come out with anything they are too secret-huggles and blessings littleowl
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@littleowl (7157)
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12 Jul 08
Hi Ellie..yes at least you did know for the next vetting procedure..personally though I think its a tather silly one to ask,,blessings littleowl
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@p1kef1sh (45681)
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11 Jul 08
I don't think that I have discovered anything too shocking or that I didn't already know about Ellie. However, when researching our family history I discovered that my Great Grandfather inherited the modern day equivalent of £8 million! He spent it too worse luck!
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@ellie333 (21016)
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11 Jul 08
Wow £8 million is a lot of money to lose eh! Oh well you still have your Kingdom to rule in and there is so much more to life than money but having it does sometimes make it easier eh! I'd love to find out about my real family but haven't enough information to go on really. Ellie :D
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@guybrush (4658)
• Australia
12 Jul 08
I haven't found anything - but one of my daughters had to have a top level Defence security clearance a couple of years ago and they supposedly looked right into her family then - including the family of her boyfriend (who is also in the Defence Force and who is living with her, but doesn't need a clerance himself). Seeing as they granted her the clearance and didn't tell her we were all a pack of murderers, terrorists and potheads, I'm assuming nobody has done anything too terrible! (Until now ...)
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@avidwhit (1492)
• Mexico
11 Jul 08
Wow things you never know, the truth always comes out. My family was pretty disfunction so I am sure there are many. But I cant think of any off the top of my head. Maybe its these things that made them disfunctional and because they were bsy dealing with them they never remained in the closet. Oh heres one my mother always had this picture of a baby in her room. I was told that it was Jason. Jason is the name of my cusin. I thought how weird to have a picture of only one of my cusins. About the same time I was beginning to wonder. My mother told me that it was my half brother and that she had given him up for adoption when he was a baby. I beleive she waited until I was old enough to understand the basics. :)
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@ellie333 (21016)
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11 Jul 08
My eldest daughter says that she comes from a disfunctional family which is why she is doing Pyscology but it is a family that works well as there is so much love so I don't mind. LOL. Wow so you have a half brother who you thought was your cousin. Truth that is another key really to trust, love and acceptance. Your mother did well to wait until you could understand. Ellie :D
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@Darkwing (21583)
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12 Jul 08
Hi Ellie, my friend. I don't know whether I have any skeletons in my cupboard. I tried to find my heritage but my grandfather's surname was so common that I could belong to anybody! 
I ground to a halt! I'm not even sure where he originated from or his exact age, but I'm going to give my mother's side a try. I give up with the name West! It's like finding a needle in a haystack. This li'l ol' island is infested with Wests!!! Now, you'd think with a name like that, my roots were in the West Country, and I do feel a draw there, but who knows. A lot of them came from Essex and London, so perhaps I have Viking roots! My hair's blonde and my eyes blue, so one never knows, eh? 
Brightest Blessings, my friend. xx
I ground to a halt! I'm not even sure where he originated from or his exact age, but I'm going to give my mother's side a try. I give up with the name West! It's like finding a needle in a haystack. This li'l ol' island is infested with Wests!!! Now, you'd think with a name like that, my roots were in the West Country, and I do feel a draw there, but who knows. A lot of them came from Essex and London, so perhaps I have Viking roots! My hair's blonde and my eyes blue, so one never knows, eh?
Brightest Blessings, my friend. xx@Darkwing (21583)
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18 Jul 08
How much more are you gonna spook me out, lady?
My first husband's name was Clark, and my two sons bear his name... naturally. Now these "coincidences" really have to stop!
Thank you for your wishes. I found a few of my old school chums the other day, as a result of seeking my family tree. Now, I know that isn't what I was initially trying to do, but this year is reunion year, and one of the girls whom I'd met at a wedding last year, had asked me to try and get a few together for it. Not much time this year, but maybe early next! 
My first husband's name was Clark, and my two sons bear his name... naturally. Now these "coincidences" really have to stop!
Thank you for your wishes. I found a few of my old school chums the other day, as a result of seeking my family tree. Now, I know that isn't what I was initially trying to do, but this year is reunion year, and one of the girls whom I'd met at a wedding last year, had asked me to try and get a few together for it. Not much time this year, but maybe early next! 1 person likes this
@ellie333 (21016)
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18 Jul 08
Very interesting, we even live in the same road but in different towns eh! Wouldn't it be bizarre if the father of your childrens father or even his father was my grandfather. Spooky, but we did say we had met for a reason but weren't sure why eh! I am intrigues now. Ellie :D1 person likes this
@ellie333 (21016)
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12 Jul 08
Hi Darkwing, I love my surname I have as it is so unusal but my real grandfathers was Clarke so I am really pleased my dad did use his step-fathers name eh! But Clarke is as hard to find as a West as there are so many and I'm not even sure whether it is with or without an e. Good luck in your search on your mothers side.
Huggles Ellie :D xxx
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@mummymo (23706)
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13 Jul 08
I haven't had any shocking discoveries Ellie but there are some skeletons in our family that i have grown up knowing - probably cos I always tried to find out everything i could when I was little and was very good at staying quiet when I really had to - like when there was some interesting gossip going on and I would hear it all if everyone could forget I was there! xxx
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@jillhill (37354)
• United States
13 Jul 08
Yes.....a couple of them on my dad's side. Seemed my grandpa and grandmother were first cousins and back then it was a big no no to marry first cousins because of the genetic thing. My grandmother was also older then my grandpa....so they ran away and got married in another state! They were shunned by the family for a couple of years then everyone forgave them. Not one person was affected by the genetic things....all healthy happy babies for the last three generations!
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@Elkeliini (264)
• Finland
12 Jul 08
nope... have thought I might be adopted, but I look so much like my parents that i can not be.
