Your children are not yours! ok!

India
July 12, 2008 10:32am CST
Yes. Your children are not your children. They are only coming from you by birth. But they are individual human beings and having their own whole personolity. They are having the rights to live in freedom. So you have to give them freedom in all their ways. The only thing we have to do is to guide or parent or shape them without hurting their individuality. Is it right? What is your opinion?
2 responses
@kezabelle (2985)
12 Jul 08
Well they are mine in the sense they are MY children I gave birth to them no one else so they are mine in that sense but they arent a possesion no! I feel very strongly in how I bring up my girls and mostly its a lead from example method and always making sure we are connected in some way letting them know without a doubt im there for them anytime they need me even if its a just a ruffle of the hair as I walk by or a smile or cuddle just so that they know im still there thinking of them even when im busy I think thats very important. They are their own people I can make force or expect them to do anything but hopefully if I show them the correct way in how to behave and be good people they will grow up to be good respectable people without me needing to enforce strict rules or punishments. Theres only a couple of things I will not allow from my children and that is biting, spitting or lack of manners but again its all about showing them how to behave and not do these things and realising that they will see these things elsewhere and be ready to explain to them why its not acceptable. I have good manners infront of them they pick up on it, its easy to show your child the correct way in which to behave but its all about balance and no one is perfect and I expect at times they will mis behave thats only natural. I want my girls to be happy and loved so far im doing a pretty good job with that!
@trish32 (1471)
• United States
12 Jul 08
I believe that our children are not possessions. I agree that we must give them the freedom to become what they want to become. However, having said that we must, as parents, be sure to not give them so much freedom early on that they run wild. It is a very delicate balance that parents must maintain. Too much freedom and the child can become wild and unruly. Too little freedom and they feel suffocated and controlled and may rebel or never develop a sense of themselves. I believe we should encourage our children to explore their interests and help them to develop a healthy sense of self. We should allow them enough freedom to be able to do this, but not so much that they feel no sense of responsibility or duty.