Do people choose who to fall in love with?

Romania
July 12, 2008 1:42pm CST
Do you think people naturally fall in love, or do they make themselves love someone? I think people can naturally fall in love, but most of them do tend to force it. They find someone that they think they want to be with and they tell themselves that they are supposed to be with this person. They rather fall in love with the idea of being in love...
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@fiona08 (454)
• United States
16 Jul 08
I think there are those who force love. They decide they are going to be in love with someone, and that is it for them. But I think love happens for most people without any effort on their part. I know if it were as simple as deciding who to love, I would certainly have picked an easier route for myself. I thought I was going to really enjoy being single, and playing the field. I wanted to date all kinds of people, and see what I'd been missing out on for all these years. But someone got in my way. I am so sunk by him. I want nothing more than to be with him, no matter how difficult it will be. He lives in another state, and moving closer, very soon is not an option for either of us right now. So we just keep saving our pennies for the next time we can be together for a few days. He is the first thing I think of in the morning, and the last thing I think of at night. I am so in love with him, that playing the field is not an option. I am never more happy than when we are together. Hopefully, we will be together in the same place sometime. We are working on making that happen. It would have been much easier to "pick someone to love" , but it could not have been as wonderful as loving this person, that my heart picked without asking me first.
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@II2aTee (2560)
• United States
16 Jul 08
For me, personally I wanted to be single. I liked living alone and I liked being in control of my own life and not being responsible for anyone else. Then I met a guy and I fell in love with him at first sight. I knew I would spend the rest of my life with him the moment we looked into each other eyes. I didnt WANT to be in love, but love found me. I had no choice but to surrender. After 6 years and counting, I will always beleive in love at first sight.
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@kezabelle (2985)
12 Jul 08
I dont think you can make yourself love someone no, I would imagine the more you try and force it the worse you would feel. That said though I truely belive love happens over time and theres all different types and levels of love for example when I met my partner it was lust i fell in love with him as I got to know who he was and what he was about now years down the line with two children our love has changed a lot as weve changed and grown i think thats normal so i think you always grow to love someone but I dont think you can force that to happen.
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@checapricorn (16066)
• United States
12 Jul 08
I know it's happening now..Since they've said that it is easy to learn to love someone when he/she has a good heart...I have not experienced such and I would rather choose to fall in love..LOL! I have tried before that I fall in love but I have to give up since I know it will not be for the best of us especially me for some reason.. I am glad that I fought for it no matter how hard it was at the start..I found the real man whom I want to spend the rest of my life with!
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@carlysle (271)
• Philippines
16 Jul 08
for me its kind of hard to force myself to love someone... people fall in love naturally.. but if you have to force yourself to love someone that is not love in its truest sense.. i guess.. its true.. that if you force yourself to believe that you are in love with the person just because you think he or she is "the ideal" girl or guy for you.. then its more of falling in love with the idea of being in love....
13 Jul 08
im also wonderin about this issue.for ex why not me
• Egypt
13 Jul 08
i think to choose people to love is big mistake cuz after that we will find that is this love not really enough but if the love come by the destiny or luck that will be very real so all you have to do that you wait for the real love and i wish to you happy days
@jesbellaine (4157)
• Philippines
13 Jul 08
I never experienced of telling myself that I should supposed to fall in love with that person. I guess, I fall in love in a natural way. I am in a relationship right now and I am happy to say that I fell in love with him naturally... you know... started as friends then lovers... hehehe Happy Mylotting! Cheers!
• Malaysia
13 Jul 08
I think most of the people will choose the partner who they fall in love each other. It's not easy to get such relationship. There are people who are fall in love, there asre some are being in love. For me, both in love will have a very great future. It's fair.
• India
13 Jul 08
I think it is to do with hormones. It depends on the condition of hormones when a guy happens to show interest on a person. Sorry, I don't have any romantic explanation about it. But this thing happens in nature all the time. The only purpose is reproduction, and the production of certain hormones in the body makes people "fall in love" with each other. No wonder, ninety percent of them wonder how they could have been such idiots when things cool off. Cheers and happy mylotting
@hellcowboy (7383)
• United States
12 Jul 08
I think that people can force themselves to fall in love with the person they want to be fall in love with,but they can only find true love naturally,which I think means you only really fall in love once in your life,and that is the person you are supposed to be with,and I believe you have no control over that,and that when it is supposed to happen it will happen.