How dare she! The nerve of some people!

@foxyfire33 (10009)
United States
July 15, 2008 12:49pm CST
I thought I was going to enjoy another break from the in laws this week but instead I endd up dealing with the other type of "in law" taking over...stepson's girlfriend. I have in the past few days come to understand why MIL's can seem so miserable. 'Girlfriend' and I normally get along but she has been really...well she's been trying to take charge and run everything. Last night after I cleaned the kitchen I found a big package of frozen ground beef on the counter. I had no idea why it was there but figured it belonged in the freezer not the hot kitchen so I put it back. An hour later she wanted to know where it went, I told her and she acted all annoyed, stomped to the freezer and took it out again....that was around midnight last night, 13 1/2 hours later it's still sitting there. Normally, they stay up all night long and their room is across the hall from mine and the walls are thin so I hear every movie or video game (or them them arguing) all night until they finally go to bed, usually after 4-5am. Then they sleep until 3-4pm. They took off early yesterday morning without telling any one (I remembered later she had a dr. appointment), but were gone until after 5pm. When they did get here the went straight to bed until 10pm and then were up until nearly daybreak. Now, I'm a mom so I sleep light and my 5 year old has a hard time falling asleep if there is any noise. So between him not being able to sleep until 2am because of the tv, the little one waking up at 3am, s/o's alarm clock going off at 5am, and then all the little outside critters waking up at dawn...we slept in late today...all the way until noon which gave me about 6 hours of sleep....interrupted several times by stepson and girlfriend coming and going, slamming doors and his obnoxiously loud car. I'm a person that needs sleep, so I was not and am not in the happiest mood right now. But what really got me riled up and prompted this discussion was 'girlfriend's' comment when she walked by my bedroom the last time...I was awake but laying in bed with the sleeping baby..."I can't believe they are still sleeping this late!" all in a snotty, disgusted voice. Argh! How dare she criticize me when it's their fault no one can sleep around here unless they are gone or sleeping...telling them to quiet down does no good, I can't count the number of times they've been yelled at already. I think their behavior right now is in retaliation for the "talking to" stepson got yesterday about a lot of things. He doesn't think he needs to follow rules or do anything as asked and it's all gotten way out of control...which I knew it would but I didn't get to have a say in how he was raised... I think I'll be handing this problem over to his mother to deal with...maybe the two of them can go stay with girlfriend's parents...then I could move into step son's bedroom which is twce as big as the shoe box I share with two other people now lol
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8 responses
@sweetdesign (5151)
• United States
15 Jul 08
Wow! you have a lot on your plate. How do the inlaws feel about stepson and girlfriend basically living together in thier house? Sounds like it would be a lot less crowded if they got thier own place. I moved out of my mom's house when I was 17 and it was 3 months before my 18th birthday. Since she isn't living at home either I don't see how her parents can really complain. Your stepson needs to get a real job though. If he wants to play house he needs to pay for his play. I hope you get some sleep soon especially with two little ones to care for. The stepson and hisgirlfreind are very rude and nconsiderate which unfortunatly comes with t age a lot of times. Good luck to you.
@foxyfire33 (10009)
• United States
15 Jul 08
Well FIL is miserable about everything anyway but he just takes it out on MIL. It is way too crowded here and a lot of us need to get our own places but that's a whole other issue I have lol. Actually I'm "lucky" to only have the two little ones to take care of today...our 3 year old is on a trip to Michigan this week!
• United States
15 Jul 08
You are a remarkable women to put up with so much. Our thoughts are with you. stay strong.
@guss2000 (2234)
• United States
15 Jul 08
It surely sounds like you and everyone in the house are being taken advantage of, and not respected. Seems the house is just a crash pad, and they don't care if other's live there. Maybe you should make him move out and get his own place, then he can stay awake all night, sleep all day and discover how much fun the real world really is.
@foxyfire33 (10009)
• United States
15 Jul 08
Yep that's pretty much it! I was just about to talk to his mother but he picked up the phone...I said enough for her to know something is up though so I'll try again later.
@guss2000 (2234)
• United States
16 Jul 08
Good for you! I hope it helps you out.
@Debs_place (10525)
• United States
15 Jul 08
What, if the stepson and gf are old enough to be living together they are old enough to be living on their own and paying their own way. What is the deal with that? You are putting up with way to much from what sounds like some spoiled brats. You should not have to be dealing with. Ok Joke - what is the difference between in-laws and outlaws? Outlaws are wanted.
@foxyfire33 (10009)
• United States
15 Jul 08
Yeah well that's just it...the girlfriend won't be 18 until next month. Her parents have little contrl over her plus they have a lot going on too so they don't much care what she does. She is supposed to have one more year of high school, stepson would have too except he got kicked out this past year for failure to attend....so no diplomas, no jobs, no money. LOL...love the joke!
@Hatley (164654)
• Garden Grove, California
15 Jul 08
hi foxyfire33 sounds to me like its time your stepson and his girlfriend find their own digs. You have enough on your plate with your own children. being kept up and deprived of sleep just does not cut it. since his girlfriend has such a big mouth and makes nasty comments to you, it is'past time for the two of them to stand on their own two feet' and care for themselves. kick them to the curb and regain 'some lost sleep. goodluck and God Bless.
@foxyfire33 (10009)
• United States
15 Jul 08
Thanks Hatley! Here's where the whole thing gets tricky...she won't be 18 til next month but her parents have no control over her. Neither of them have jobs so they have no money....except for the odd jobs stepson does to pay rentway for the playstation 3 he had to have ! I really think it's time for me to get the support of all the other parents...I can't deal with all the nonsense anymore.
@cjgrooms (4456)
• United States
15 Jul 08
All I can say is your a better women than I am. I would surly be in jail for whipping her butt!
@foxyfire33 (10009)
• United States
15 Jul 08
She's lucky I had a sleeping baby on me when she said it, that's for sure! I am not a happy momma when I don't get enough sleep!
@subha12 (18453)
• India
16 Jul 08
I think she is taking unnnecessary advantage of everything. make it a point to her not to didturb you like this, hope she understands now. if no result, better you talk with your step son. otherwise if possible try to find some way so taht you can for soem time stay at any relatives' or friends palce with your son.
@alindahaw (1219)
• Philippines
16 Jul 08
I never really like the idea of living with any of my in-laws. The whole thing is just so stressful for me. I don't know if it is me or them but they simply rub me in the wrong direction. I just got this feeling that they want to be treated as if they are really special and that bothers me a lot. No they are not really so obnoxious or something like that but they just rub be in the wrong direction that is why I don't want to have them in my house.
15 Jul 08
Hello foxyfire33, I think that is really a disgusting behaviour, why can't you just throw them out? I wouldn't put up with all that.One day I had my husband's friend staying for a few days, get this he pick up a girl and and she stayed overnight. I got really angry and shouted !"What this a nocking shop!? and I threw them both out, didn't care what my husbabd, it is my house, so I would just throw them. Tamarafireheart