I miss my wife so much

@alkurishy (2069)
Iraq
July 15, 2008 6:25pm CST
As my friends know, that my wife had to go back to our country (Iraq) to see her family because of urgent reason leaving me with my kids, I am doing my best for them to make them happy and dont miss their mother. But (me) who make me dont miss her, I miss her so much, I call her every day but that can't make me don't miss her, we married in 1992 and from that day we are together we did not separate from each other more than a week or 2 weeks, it is a whole month for now I have been not seen her, we both missing each other, and I miss her so so so much. Do ever be in this situation? for both husband and wife? and how you manage this yearning for your partner?
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19 responses
@sudalunts (5526)
• United States
15 Jul 08
As they say absence makes the heart grow fonder. You sound like your heart has really grown fonder for your wife. How much longer will she be gone? My husband has only been away from me for maybe the most 4 days. It was rather lonely without him. Just like you , we would talk every day, of course it is not the same as being there with each other. Plan something really special for her when she gets back. Maybe you and the kids, can cook her a special meal. Hopefully she will back with you soon.
@alkurishy (2069)
• Iraq
16 Jul 08
I hope that too my dear. Thanks for your response and have a nice day.
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• Canada
15 Jul 08
I know the feeling. As you know my husband is in Arizona, and I'm in Canada. We talk to eachother on the phone many times a day, but we miss eachother so muh. We've only been married about 10 months, and quite a bit of our relatioship has been long distance, but when we are apart, we miss eachother so much!!!! We talk on the phone twice a day (in the morning and at night) and we are in constant communication on our computers. I wrote about this on MyLot the other day. http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/1598263.aspx
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• Canada
16 Jul 08
Thank you for your respose to my discussion about missing my husband. Don't worry about tarting a "similar discussion." Our families are different families, so our situations are different. It's not the same as three different people discussiong the exact same story, or asking the same question. You discussed your lie and I discussed mine. I drew you to my discussion, so you would know that you are not alone.
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@alkurishy (2069)
• Iraq
16 Jul 08
I know what you mean my dear, and I am so happy for that. Thanks for your response and have a nice day.
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• India
16 Jul 08
I feel so sorry for you. not only are you missing your wife, you must be very worried about her safety too, because of the situation in your country. I miss my husband everytime he has to go to another city on office work. Usually every month he is not at home for 10 to 15 days and those days are absolute misery for me. Like you, I try to make up to our son (he is very attached to his Dad). Do let us know when she returns.
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@alkurishy (2069)
• Iraq
16 Jul 08
Yes my dear I will tell you when she will back, and thanks for your concern, thank you for your response and have a good day.
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@alori61 (344)
• United States
16 Jul 08
Not to make light of your situation but maybe if you look at it from a different angle it will help. Miss my husband as well, but unlike you I do not get to talk to him every dy, or look forward to his return, as he passed away coming up on 7 years ago. Not that it makes your seperation easier but maybe if you look at it from a posative piint of view it will make it more tolerable. Your wife is going to come home soon, and you will be together again. May your seperation be a short one
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@alkurishy (2069)
• Iraq
16 Jul 08
I am so sorry to know that, I hope me and my wife will be together soon, thank you for your response and have a nice day.
@underdogtoo (9599)
• Philippines
16 Jul 08
I have been in that situation when my wife had to leave for two months leaving me with my two sons one of which was just 2 years old. We managed fine and it was she who missed us sorely and she cried when we talked on the phone. I told her it was her choice and she had to do a good job so she can go back home as soon as her training was over.
@alkurishy (2069)
• Iraq
16 Jul 08
The same that I had. thank you for your response and have a good day.
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@ivylrc (57)
• United States
16 Jul 08
my husband and i ususally texted each other, chat with her with webcam, it will ease your longingnes, i'm sure when she comes home you will have to lock the house and tell the kids to play all day because mom and dad will stay at your room for days
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@alkurishy (2069)
• Iraq
16 Jul 08
Lol, that is what should happen dear. thank you for your response and have a good day.
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@Debs_place (10525)
• United States
16 Jul 08
May I suggest that you start writing each other daily letters telling your feelings. They are tangible and you can always save them. And when things get rough, as you know they will, you can re-read them and remember why you loved each other. A letter is nicer then a phone call. In the meantime start planning a special activity that you will do when she comes home, by then you will be an expert cook, cook something special and have a wonderful evening with her.
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@alkurishy (2069)
• Iraq
16 Jul 08
And that what I will do, I will cook for her and will have a good time, and I think husbands and wifes should have to separate for some of time to know how they need each other. thank you for your response and have a good day.
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@Vladilyich1 (1454)
• Canada
16 Jul 08
I wish I had a good answer for you, but I don't. I am an American, my wife is Canadian. 11 days after we were we married, my wife had to return to her country because of our immigration laws. She came back several months later, but could only stay 6 months. She's bee gone almost two months now. It doesn't get easier, it gets more painful. I don't have the additional worries that you do, I only have the loneliness that I know you are experiencing right now. You, your children, and your wife are now constantly in my thoughts and prayers because I am going through exactly what you are.
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@alkurishy (2069)
• Iraq
16 Jul 08
Do you know that you have made my tears falling down, I hope you will regroup with here she is a good wife, and you both deserve to live good life together. thank you for your response and have a good day.
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@zhuxia (344)
• China
16 Jul 08
Hi,alkurishy,i understand your feeling. Pls patient , your wife may come back soon. Take care of yourself and your kids.
@alkurishy (2069)
• Iraq
16 Jul 08
thank you for your response and have a good day.
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15 Jul 08
Hi alkurishy, Is is nice to hear how a man love his wife so much ansd miss, not many men in our country will voice their feelings but you so loving to your and the same with your who loves very much. Don't worry too much she maybe back very soon. My husband and myself only been away from each other for 3 days that all. Tamara.
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@alkurishy (2069)
• Iraq
16 Jul 08
I hope that no one be separate from his love, and we have planed to her coming back in the end of this month and I hope she will be back safly. thank you for your response and have a good day.
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@cjgrooms (4456)
• United States
15 Jul 08
I have been married for fourteen years and we have never been away from each other more than a night or two at one time. If we ever were i don't know how i would handle it.
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@alkurishy (2069)
• Iraq
16 Jul 08
I hope nothing will separate you from him. thank you for your response and have a good day.
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• United States
16 Jul 08
I agree with sudalunts, being away is definitely tough, but when you see your wife again your love for her will even be stronger than it was before (hard to believe, I'm sure)! Stick in there, do your best to respect her while she is away, and everything will work out fine. Congratulations on being so in love alkurishy. ;)
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@Amanda81587 (3046)
• United States
16 Jul 08
Awwww I am very sorry to hear this. I know how it feels to be a million miles away from the person you love. It's not easy. I just keep thinking to myself that one day we will be together and its going to have to take everything to seperate us!
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@subha12 (18453)
• India
16 Jul 08
its very nice to know taht you love her so much. when she will be coming back? hope at that time you can really get good time. there are hgardshiops in life at times. we have to live with it.
@alkurishy (2069)
• Iraq
16 Jul 08
Yes and I like these times to be short and not long so we will go upset. thank you for your response and have a good day.
@misty99 (736)
16 Jul 08
So this is the first time you got separated and it's a month now?That must be very awful for you and your wife.This kind of separation happened to us one year after the marriage.He has to work abroad and left me and our baby.I would suggest what i did during the separation with my husband.Take care of your kids,be the mother and father for the meantime.Until when she'll be in Iraq?Count each passing days backwards,hope you get my point .......sometimes it works.As you said she has to attend to some urgent/family reason.For me it might be helpful if you try not to get touchy when you call her-as this may make her worry and loose concentration on why she's in Iraq for.I mean she has to concentrate and finish what she's there for ASAP so she can join you and your kids the soonest possible.Keep yourself busy,it's been a month let's pray things work out right there.Good luck!
@metschica25 (5407)
• United States
16 Jul 08
Hello Aww, I am so sorry you are missing your wife , and talking on the phone sometimes does not ease the longing . When you see one another again it will be all that much sweeter , and will bring you even closer if you can picture that . You could always write to her and when she returns have her read the letters . Just try to stay in touch as much as possible . My partner and me have been together for 8 years and have only been away from one another for a few days , and that was hard enough . When we saw one another again it was pure bliss . I wrote him letters on how i missed him and that made it sweeter . Also , I left him letters to read while i was gone . He can be a big baby , but he is mine
@mikeysmom (2092)
• United States
16 Jul 08
first of all i think it is absolutely adorable and refreshing that you feel so loving towards your wife. it is so nice to hear. i am not in a very happy marriage and we have grown apart over the years due to various reasons but we stay together for our son and for stability for all of us. hopefully your beloved wife will be home with you and your children soon and you will not have to yearn for her because she will be right there loving you back like you love her. have faith. she will be back before you know it. they say that absence makes the heart grow fonder. my best to you and your children.
• Indonesia
16 Jul 08
It's so sweet that you're missing your wife and speak publicly of it. I know many men that will be so happy if their wife is out for a while so they can do "something". I hope your wife come back soon with well beings. You could try to stay in touch with her with text messages or im and webcam, it's nice. Happy mylotting and have a nice day!
• Malaysia
16 Jul 08
That's normal, I'm sure you will feel the miss so much whe your partner is not around. And you feel more appreciate when the partner is back. I'm staying with my boy friend currently, when I went home, my boy friend will miss me a lot, same goes to me, when my boy friend home, I will miss him a lot. After few days missing, we will much more aprreciate ourselves. Sometimes a separation will make a couple relation closer.