Who would you choose TO LIVE? Just WHAT IF and NOT what I wish for...
By Jhordie
@Jhordie (5115)
Philippines
July 19, 2008 8:24am CST
For the guys... What if during the delivery of your 1st born child, your wife suddenly had a complication that would endanger the lives of the two and the doctor told you that you need to choose only ONE between them... WHO WOULD YOU CHOOSE? what kind of life do you prefer? with a wife but without your kid? or with your kid but lost your wife?
For the girls... If you, your husband and your your son was trapped inside a burning a car and the time before it explode would be just a matter of minutes... you were able to go out easily but will be able to save only one more, who would you save? what kind of life do you prefer? with the man you exchanged vows but without your beloved son? or with your son but lost your husband?
For the two... PLS EXPLAIN WHY...
I did post this discussion not to wish bad luck to any family out there...(pls do not take it against me. PLS...PLS...PLS...) I would just like to know if we were in this kind of scenario, where we are needed to choose between two LOVEONES which are both CLOSE TO OUR HEARTS... who would we VALUE MORE?
I hope I did not offend anybody here and looked too morbid to all of you guys. I am still looking forward in reading the responses of my friends here...which are YOU, and you and YOU! God bless us all and I pray to God that this will not happen to any of us!
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11 responses
@jonesy123 (3948)
• United States
19 Jul 08
Before I delivered my first child, my husband and I had that discussion. I told him that he should opt for the child. He wanted to save me the reason being that I couldn't be replaced but we could always have another child. I knew he wouldn't move from his opinion so I informed my doctor about my wishes... He just laughed and said that such situations are very rare and he himself has not encountered it in his career.
The burning car... I would save my son. My husband has lived his life, my son just started. I have strong maternal instincts. My kids have priority.
I think my husband now would make the same decision and save the child. It's not about who you value more, but your parental instinct. I would also be forever angry with my husband, if he would chose to save me over any of our children.
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@kezabelle (2974)
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19 Jul 08
Well if it was between my partner or our girls id save my children I dont know any mother who wouldnt to be honest. I love my partner we share a lot after 7 years and I certainly dont want anyone else but I gave birth to my girls and I want to see them live their lives my partner has (and he would agree) allready lived a good life I know he would rather his children lived
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@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
20 Jul 08
Hi Jhordie,
If I am in the situation(knock the wood)! I will be choosing to save my son for he is helpless and needs me more that my husband..I know and trust that my husband will be also doing his best to save my son and I and I know he can't just save himself without extending his help to us!
SO, I am very confident that we will be able to make it before the car will explode and that no one will be leaving us!
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@bieke81 (1067)
• Belgium
19 Jul 08
I would choose my sons. I would try to go back and save my husband too, but I promised my boys when they were still in my womb I would always protect them from any kind of harm, even if that means I pick them above my husband. They are the most important part of my life and they always will be.
Have a nice day 
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@djmarion (4898)
• Philippines
20 Jul 08
this is the situation i would hate to experience to choose between the two people i love. its like deciding who will live and who will die and we are not God to do that. i know there are very rare cases when we are trapped into a situation that we need to choose between the people we love but i hope to God that this will not happen to me. i love them both..my child and my husband and it will broke my heart to choose between them. the situation is difficult , its between the 2 people that's very dear to you.
if i experience that situation i will not be the one to choose between them, i will let God do it, i will do my best to save them both but if worse come to worst that i could only save one i will take whoever is the closest in my grasp. it will either be my husband or my child.. in that case i know i did not choose between them, i will run the closest person in my side and not the closest person in my heart because they share the equal part in me.
God will help us i know and the other one will also live, i will go back to him and try to rescue him too as much as i can even if it will mean endangering my own life.
@vaishalik (237)
• India
20 Jul 08
It depends on that situation & the time. Such type of siruations are very rare but I will help to the one who wants more help & pray for both.
@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
20 Jul 08
NO matter which answer being choose, it will be contradicting to ourselves..
If during the delivery of 1st child, my wife has got complications, i will choose to save my wife instead of the kid, but i know that my wife will be very disappointed and sad..
But when it comes to being trapped in a burning car, me as husband, would rather my wife to save my child instead..
In both the scenarios, either one party is bound to feel bad and some wish that they could have done more or prevent it.. Both of our most loved ones in the world and it's really a hard choice to make.. But most of the time, the decision we make at the point of time, is often done by the male, to make sure that the family will be able to survive strong ^_^
@nupats (3564)
• India
20 Jul 08
i just asked my husband what would he do and he said he would have chosen my life and maybe we could have planned again later...for me i would have preferred to die and let my child live..i cannot choose between the two of them bcoz they both are my lifeline...
@jefferychen (8)
• Singapore
20 Jul 08
i will choose my wife
anyway,if my wife is alive,we are able to make another one even if the child was in danger unfortunately
