No Offense to anyone, but I'm going to start deleting friends.

United States
July 21, 2008 9:21am CST
There are many on my friends list who just don't start many discussions, or when they do, they aren't anything I can respond to. Many of the people on my friends list only discuss money making on the net, and I am no longer into that. So, it's not that I don't like the friends I'm deleting, we just have nothing in common any more, and I want to tidy up so to speak. How often do you go through and delete friends? Do you have a lot of friends who do not start discussions? Do you respond to all the discussions your friends start? Would you be offended if a friend deleted you?
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@gemini_rose (16194)
21 Jul 08
I have never gone through my list and deleted anyone, although I have looked at it a few times and figured that it needs cleaning up. I try to respond to all discussions that my friends start, if they are in my email inbox then they will get a response if I can say anything worthwhile to it. I would not be offended if a friend deleted me, to tell you the truth I probably would not even notice, because I am pretty sure some may have done so already but I would still just respond to their discussions if I came across them and could answer them. I would only delete people who had not been active for a while though as I love to have loads of discussions to answer.
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• United States
21 Jul 08
I'm with you, but I find that I just can't answer many of them. If I see they are about money making I won't even read it, because I don't have anything to say about that anymore.
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@gemini_rose (16194)
21 Jul 08
Oh I hate them, luckily I dont get them ones anymore, I have quite a good circle of good discussion starters now, you included of course LOL. I tell you what I do hate though the one liner ones, I am getting quite a few of them at the minute and I just cannot answer them.
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• United States
21 Jul 08
Hmm, the 1 liner ones? Such as just a simple question and nothing else?
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• United States
21 Jul 08
i don't look for discussions specifically from my friends. sometimes i may find a discussion they've started. but for that matter, they aren't knocking on my door much either. in fact most of them haven't at all. i don't take i personal. we are all free agents. i'm still new been here almost 2 weeks. but i sure hear what you're saying about the ones trying make money. i'm sick of seeing that myself. i was wondering if i'm on the open internet. it's a jungle of make money posts here.
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• United States
21 Jul 08
You can recieve your friends discussions in your e-mail inbox, which is what I do to make it easier on me. Which is part of why I want to delete some of them.
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• United States
21 Jul 08
thanks for the tip. since you brought it to my attention i checked out some of my friends and i too find that some of them have discussions that i can't respond to. oh well they seem to be doing fine without me. happy deleting. :D
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@clowdine (1402)
• Philippines
22 Jul 08
That's okay. Mylot friends do not personally know each other anyway, so it's going to be acceptable for me in the end. But to be honest, I may feel a little bad at first if I'll be one of those but at least, it's a good gesture to let the mylot public know why you are deleting them and not just deleting them without any clue why you did. They are saved from the possible conclusion by others that they are not likeable at all.
• United States
22 Jul 08
I don't think it should be offensive. It just means the 2 people don't have anything in common and can't comment on each other's discussions.
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@KrauseHome (33267)
• United States
21 Jul 08
Well, I go in from time to time cleaning up my Friends list as time permits. I usually end up deleting members who have not been active in here for over 60 days unless they were one of my Close friends on here who I am hoping somehow will reappear here and post again sometime. Unless a person really posts something negative here that I disagree with in a personal message, or a New discussion, or in response back to my discussion, I feel we are all allowed to have different views on many things in here. And speaking of New discussions, if someone starts a New discussion that does not interest me I just pass it over, even if it is from one of my close friends on here I really trust and like as well.
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• United States
22 Jul 08
Yes I agree that my friends may not always start discussions I am interested in, but I'd like my list to be made up mostly of those who do start at least SOME discussions I can participate in.
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• United States
21 Jul 08
I try to responded to my friends disscussions first! Then new discussions. I wouldn't like all the money making deal either! It is okay sometimes but not all the time!
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• United States
21 Jul 08
Yeah, some of my friends do post some money making things, but they also post other things, so I just ignore the money making and respond to their other posts. Then I have friends who post nothing but money making, and obviously that's just not working for me anymore.
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@mysdianait (63977)
• Italy
21 Jul 08
I think to call it a list of 'friends' is not quite right and I say this to help with my explanation. I have a very long list of friends on here but many of them are not 'friends' as I interpret the word. They are people who had asked to be on my list and as I very rarely refuse anyone's request they have stayed there because once they they will never get deleted by me. I have many who have not contibuted anything for months. Some are no longer here, be it by their own choice or not, but I will not delete them because, just as happened last week, one came back. I have sent her a PM some time previously as I had noticed her absence. She has had health problems which I would not have been aware of had I deleted her If after joining my list our frienship grows into what I really consider a frienship should be then those friends will know the reasons for which I cannot respond to as much as I would like too. Now for your question. I would not be offended if someone deleted me from their list as it is just that THEIR list to deal with as they consider correct. If I am on their list and they decide to delete me then that is fine as obviosly it would mean that during that time we had not become friends. I am one who starts more discussions about money-making topics than other things but my friends are aware of my reasons for doing so and I doubt they would delete me. Should this happen I would have no bad feelings whatsoever. As I have ALL my notifications turned ON, should I get deleted it would just mean that I would not be as up to date with what that person was discussing as I would have been before. That user would then lose any hope of seeing my contributions in their discussions solely because I would not be aware of them. Having said that, I hope you can put up with my money-making topics for just a little longer otherwise I won't be aware of ANYTHING you do My time is so limited that I very rarely visit the interests unless notifications of friend's discussions guide me. Happy posting!
• United States
21 Jul 08
I am like you, and have never refused a friend request, which is why my list is just full of people that I rarely ever see around Mylot. There are a few who were once quite active, and no longer are, and those I plan to keep because I do not want to miss their return, should they decide to. I've previously been going through and turning the notifications off, just because my inbox becomes full of discussions I have no interest in, such as the money making. I was interested in it once, but not anymore, which is why many of my friends are interested in that area, because I added them when I was interested in it. I have nothing against those who choose to make money online, it's just not something I can participate in any longer, so those discussions are lost on me. I feel like my friends list is a bit chaotic, and would prefer to keep it to those who's discussions I am frequently involved in, and who are frequently involved in mine. I have no hard feelings against people, I just wish to be slightly more organized.
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@stcajo1 (99)
• Canada
21 Jul 08
Well obviously I am not on your friends list as I have only been here 2 days. I do see what you are getting at however. I will be joining more interests today. Yes I do internet marketing but I am also smart enough to realize thats not for everyone. I do see the value of mylot for my business excursions but I also see the benefit for many other reasons as well. Of course there are obviously many great friendships born right here on mylot. Plus there is a wealth of knowledge being displayed. So I will take your post as advice. I will still be making my money online posts but I will ceartainly get active in other interests as well Thanks dale
@julyteen (13265)
• Davao, Philippines
21 Jul 08
it's everyone's choice either to do it or not (deleteing) i never delete friends from my list but i will observe all of them if they participate my discussions. i only boycott my friends discussions if i found him/her not participating to my post. i have friends on my list who post uninteresting topic about his daily activities but i found her not even responding one of my discussions so i boycott her post. if somebody delete me to their list, it's fine for me. maybe she/he doesn't want to received my respond because all of my friends, i turn on their email notification. i depend my respond to my notification. i am active to myLot everyday. so i assure to all my friends that i will participate their post.
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• United States
21 Jul 08
Perhaps the friend you have boycotted does not have their notifications turned on? I didn't for the longest time. Then I turned them all on, and the ones who posted ONLY money making discussions were turned off.
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@lilybug (21182)
• United States
22 Jul 08
I have gone through a few times and deleted a few friends that I know are not active anymore. If they have not logged in for a few months then I will delete them.
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@mandykaren (2040)
22 Jul 08
at moment since i am still building up my friendships i dont really have a problem although some make discussions more then will respond lool need ones that enjoy doing both hehe.. Mind you i do have quite a few good ones that becoming nice friends, and do make discussions i can respond to that are not just money making.. Can understand how you feel because that would be boring after a time, and that be people i feel wont be here long.. maybe only here to find something better.. I do respond to the discussions i am able to, in friends list.. And i expect or hope for the same in return.. As for being deleted well i think i would feel quite upset, if i notice someone did me.. Anyway if you looking for fresh new friend hehe.. can add me if you like
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