What Can You Say About Staying at Your Relatives House?

Hi my friend, We had our 25 year old son living with us since he was 16 up until about a month ago so that is about the same as living with relatives, right? He had a job but still didn't have enough money move into an apartment. He finally figured out a way to manage his money and move in with a friend of his. I don't think you should try to rent somewhere else without a permanent job. What happens if you lose the job and where will you be then? If your uncle has no problem with you living with him and his son for awhile, I don't see why you don't just stay there until you get a permanent job. If he won't take money for rent, maybe you can help around the house or with his son. Happy MyLotting, Char

Hi Muelitz, I think you should stay with your uncle and your cousin in their big house and talk to them about your position,surley they will let you stay there after all your a family, I would do the same and when I find a good job i will rent somewhere elseGood luck. Tamara

My situation is that I have a disability, so I really can' find a good paying job. I still need a roof over my head, and because of my problems, I need to stay in the ity, where everything is convenient. For this reason, I receive a disaility allowance from the goverment, and I do what I can to make a little extra money, since the governmet benefit is not that much. Were I in your position, I would live wih relatives until I find a job that pays the appropriate amoun of money or me to find a nice home for my own family. I have been ollowing your posts on here about your situation, and as the North American slang expression goes "you have a good head on your shoulders" meaning, you'e thought this out well.

Hi Muelitz, If I am in your situation, I will still stay with them..I will just assist in food shopping so that I will feel more convenient! In my case, when everything is free, I am not comfortable sometimes, just a culture I guess..I do know with you! Anyway, try also to save every payday and look for another job..Don't force yourself to move when you are not ready, it is very hard and you might end up going back to them.. So, just relax and take your time in searching for a good paying job as well as budget also is necessary!

Muelitz, Well it sounds to me as though your Uncles house is plenty big enough for you to stay in. and if he does not mind you living with him, If I were you, I would stay there until you can buy the house you want. I would not rent some other place. Pay him a little to stay there,when you can.You have no job, stay put, where you are.

Well it is very hard to be in your situation but you does not have any options at all but to stayed with them and I guess that they were good on you but to keep the respect on you and to their part if you will have a little maybe it is good for you to share a little bit in their monthly budget at least for the meantime that you are still searching for a good paying job.

It is not agood idea to stay at a relatives home, it shatters your dignity and that of your children, and brings in a sense of lost manhood if you are a man!

that is very nice of your uncle. i'm not sure if my relatives is willing to put me up though. but it's better to live with them for the time being. if you really feel bad about it, maybe you can pay some rent to them. it doesn't really have to be real rent money. it can be you chipping in for the grocery or doing the household chores. it'd be tough to rent a place outside when you don't have a permanent job. afterall, they have five rooms, at least two is empty right? best of luck in finding the job. cheers ;p

My fiance and I are staying with his parents, we don't have a job right now as we live in the country and jobs are scarce here, we are doing what we can online for now, and not going out anywhere very often unless with his parents so conserve money. I would stay with relatives but try to conserve as much as possible.

As much as I hate bothering other people about letting me stay in for a while, I had to do it. It's tough being in a new place and not having a good paying job. Just take it easy for now. At least your uncle has let you stay. Hopefully sooner you will be earning more to get a place of your own. I had that kind of problem when I first arrived in Makati from the small town I was in. I had to stay in my aunt's home. I only stayed there for 6-9 months I think before I was able to find a place of my own.

Stay and explain to them why you cannot move out yet.i know you are worried about what they might say so in order for you to stop thinking about what they might say talk to them and for them to stop wondering when are you going to move out.Anyway their house is big.You just did to explain to them maybe they will understand because you are a family and its a big house

Relatives are still relatives, specially you are in a foreign land. If I were in your shoe I would still live with them until I find a permanent and good paying job. All must be taken into consideration practically...

in my opinion, better to live out side, because last few years i got to know some people who were living in their relatives houses. after few months always they had problems with each other .

I am also stayig in my relative house. I am searching for a job when i wil get a job i will rent but untill it's necessary for me to stay in my relative house only. There is no freedom in relative house as i was staying in my house.

I love staying at my grandmother's apartment because it always feels like home. Then again, just about everything in her apartment is what we had back at my old house.

I think your relative should understand your situation and giving you a shelter should be no problem as it is a temporary measure. I would welcome any relative who wishes to put up in my house.

Hi muelitz, staying in a relative house is kind a hard situation of course you cannot do anything you wanted. You will loose your privacy that is one point we need in our lives, privacy. Next you need to follow the rules of the house, even you don't like it you will follow it. For me the hard part is the way they treated you at first its like you're a VIP but if you stay long everyday is a hell. I hope i answer your question well. Have a nice day bro.

I would advice you to stay with your relatives and do the best you can. That is contributing to the household cleanliness so that they will not have the impressions that you are a tourist. It is slow worldwide were jobs are concern but continue to seek maybe your luck will shine very soon. There are alot of persons who does not like to live with their relatives but try and the good boy you and things will work out soon. Every families/relatives are different but for me there are some relatives that I would not stay with and there are some who I would definately run toward without even thinking twice. All the best. KERRY

Nearly 5 years ago ,I have lived with my aunt one year.Buet because I was a student that time and my aunt loved me very much, I have no woorying. but as you know,they 're not your father or mother afterall,you can't feel free in their family. But I think if you can't sure you can afford a room,temporarily liveing with them is a good idea.But you must get the mind that you are a tenant,someday you have money,you must return some money. Now,you must try your best to help them in all the part of life,and to be their goodfriend Good luck and be happy

Well, I am in your situation, and I can say that you should stay put until you get a permanent, reliable job. The only thing worse than living with your family in a codependent situation is to move out, then end up back there because you are not ready for the responsibilities of the real world. It sounds like you have plenty of space there, so hang in there until you are sure that you are ready to be independent.