I feel lonely and left out / myLot

July 27, 2008 6:21am CST

I recently had an operation and this means that I am unable to go out much but I have some visitors. The problem is this: I told my friend a few weeks ago that I really liked my brother's friend, James, and she agreed he was very nice. Three days ago I found out from my brother that my friend and James are now going out together. I feel really lonely now.

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4 responses

jaghead1179

@jaghead1179 (199)

• Philippines

28 Jul 08

dont worry someone will come your way at the right time maybe your brothers friend is really not for you and better for both of you to just be friends...so cheer up

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right place

right time

deb8er

@deb8er (49)

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28 Jul 08

That is the way my mum and dad told me to look at the situation and to be honest, it has helped. Thank you.

Patsie Hatley

@Hatley (163781)

• Garden Grove, California

28 Jul 08

hi deb8er That was really rather a mean trick of your friend after yu told her you liked your brother's friend. I thought good friends were not supposed to do things'like that to each other. i can see you would feel really lonely and left out, more that that your friend did you wrong. I think under the circumstances I would talk to your friend and let her know you felt that was not the thing that friends do to each other.

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deb8er

@deb8er (49)

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28 Jul 08

Yes, I thought it was at first, but to be honest, I value her freindship and he did ask her, not me and that means he fancied her, not me. So I will try to get over it and stay freinds with both of them. I will, of course tell her how I felt/feel.

jiangxj

@jiangxj (45)

• China

27 Jul 08

that means you had been stand up?reading from the lines,you depressed just as you find yourself have a different feeling from James.right?why not tell him directly,baby?

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feeling depress directly

deb8er

@deb8er (49)

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27 Jul 08

Thanks for your reply. I realise now that I should have told hime before, but it is too late now because I don't want to upset him or my friend. After all, he asked her out, but you are right, I am depressed about it.

shlooper

@shlooper (309)

• United States

27 Jul 08

I am sorry that you can't go out much, and I know that you cannot change the past, but it would have been better to have talked to him yourself. In the meantime, it is possible that your friend feels a little awkward as well. She knows you like him, and she probably did too. Maybe you should try to find someone else, or talk to her about it to try to feel not as lonely.

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deb8er

@deb8er (49)

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27 Jul 08

Thank you for your advice which is really appreciated. I do realise that I should have told him how I felt, but my friend came to see me today and you are right she did feel a bit awkward. She said she wasn't sure whether to accept or not when he asked her out but in the end decided to. She had a great time and I really think they are a lovely couple together. I hope I can meet someone new soon. Thank you again for taking the trouble to reply.