He Wanted a Barbie Doll.......!!!

@nupats (3564)
India
July 28, 2008 6:27pm CST
today my 3 year old son held on to a barbie doll and kept pleading me to buy him a doll....i was so irritated and told him boys dont play with dolls but he kept crying for the barbie doll...i love Barbie dolls myself and had 20 of those in my childhood and my bother used to play with He-Man range and GI Joes, my brother never played with a doll, now he is taking that doll every where with him to my friends house to the park and it is so embarrassing....though i liked the doll that we bought after he slept i combed its hair and changed the dolls sandals it bought back the childhood memories..my mom used to sew dresses for my dolls...do you have dolls in your house?did your son ever ask for a doll? what were your favorite childhood toys? would you buy your son a doll if he asked for one?
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@cupid74 (11397)
• Pakistan
29 Jul 08
I have one son but as i lived in Joint family so i have 2 nieces as well and as they play with dolls so he also want doll, and he had it with other toys Not a big issue Take care
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@nupats (3564)
• India
7 Aug 08
my son is three years old he has loads of toys but i think only thing missing was a doll...so i did buy him the Barbie and he loves playing with it and sometimes puts her to bed and feeds her food..he has actually made a mess out of that Barbie..my husband calls it the ugly barbie..poor barbie has a very bratty owner (my son)..thank you for writing in i hope it passes off as a phase
@cupid74 (11397)
• Pakistan
7 Aug 08
Wekll, Thats Ok my son have lot of toys too, and i can see they are in theor oginal form or in working conditions Any wat his toys, its up to him how he play with them
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@dropofrain (1168)
• India
29 Jul 08
Boys playing with dolls is pretty undigestible to anyone. I have never seen guys playing with dolls but exceptions are always there. I think you should make him interact with guys and then I think he will be influenced and wont demand a doll from you.
@nupats (3564)
• India
7 Aug 08
my son is three years old he has loads of toys but i think only thing missing was a doll...we have more girls around so he keeps seeing them in the evening with their dolls and they dont let him touch their dolls..so i did buy him the Barbie and he loves playing with it and sometimes puts her to bed and feeds her food..he has actually made a mess out of that Barbie..my husband calls it the ugly barbie..poor barbie has a very bratty owner (my son)
29 Jul 08
What a dilemma...advice is welcome but at the end of the day you might just let time tell.he might be over the liking in a few days.does your son have brothers or sisters?when i was a child there was five of us fighting for every toy,if i had sweets and wanted to save some...never there when i went back.eat before eaten by others...was like that for 10 years or more.when i started dating this women some years back she had a daughter 7 or 8,it hit me straight away all the affection, chocolate and toys she got was kind of expected and not fully appreciated.sweets lying around...but she knew they would be still there days later.but what i also realised was how lonely she was at times...by herself.something i never had time to think about when i was young.so hopefully its just a phase for your son.
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@nupats (3564)
• India
7 Aug 08
my son is three years old he has loads of toys but i think only thing missing was a doll...so i did buy him the Barbie and he loves playing with it and sometimes puts her to bed and feeds her food..he has actually made a mess out of that Barbie..my husband calls it the ugly barbie..poor barbie has a very bratty owner (my son)..thank you for writing in i hope it passes off as a phase
@dragon54u (31298)
• United States
29 Jul 08
My sons never asked for dolls except to blow up! But they did cart around teddy bears, Raggedy Andy and the like--boy dolls, soft and cuddly ones when they were very young. Later, they just wanted monster dolls and GI Joe and stuff like that. I never liked dolls. I never knew what to do with them because I had no other girls to play with most of the time!
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@nupats (3564)
• India
7 Aug 08
my son is three years old he has loads of toys but i think only thing missing was a doll...we have more girls around so he keeps seeing them in the evening with their dolls and they dont let him touch their dolls..so i did buy him the Barbie and he loves playing with it and sometimes puts her to bed and feeds her food..he has actually made a mess out of that Barbie..my husband calls it the ugly barbie..poor barbie has a very bratty owner (my son)
@Wizzywig (7860)
28 Jul 08
I am surprised that you should find it embarrasing for your son to be playing with Barbie dolls. I have worked in a number of schools and nurseries with children aged 2 to 6 years old and Barbie dolls are very popular with both boys and girls. My son had a Tommy (Rugrats) soft toy which I made a few clothes for. I still have 2 dolls from my own childhood but they just sit on a chair. I never had Barbie dolls.
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@nupats (3564)
• India
7 Aug 08
my son is three years old he has loads of toys but i think only thing missing was a doll...so i did buy him the Barbie and he loves playing with it and sometimes puts her to bed and feeds her food..he has actually made a mess out of that Barbie..my husband calls it the ugly barbie..poor barbie has a very bratty owner (my son)
@shamzy18 (2320)
28 Jul 08
lol yeah i understand how embarassing it is but how old is he ? if hes only still really young then he probably doesnt understand really.. i wouldnt take it off him though why not get him a new toy like ones for boys then he will get over the doll.. well i dont have any kids but my favourite were teddy bears i had loads of them weather it was a bunny or teddy whatever
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@nupats (3564)
• India
7 Aug 08
my son is three years old he has loads of toys but i think only thing missing was a doll...so i did buy him the Barbie and he loves playing with it and sometimes puts her to bed and feeds her food..he has actually made a mess out of that Barbie..my husband calls it the ugly barbie..poor barbie has a very bratty owner (my son)
@Elixiress (3893)
29 Jul 08
I do not see the problem with a boy having a doll, if you had a girl would you stop her playing with a car? I doubt it. When he grows up into a teenager or a young man, he will be "playing with girls" (unless he is playing with boys) and you will have to accept that then why not accept that he wants to play with a female doll? I think it is really sexist how boys cannot play with conventional girl toys, while girls can play with conventional boy toys.
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@nupats (3564)
• India
7 Aug 08
my son is three years old he has loads of toys but i think only thing missing was a doll...we have more girls around so he keeps seeing them in the evening with their dolls and they dont let him touch their dolls..so i did buy him the Barbie and he loves playing with it and sometimes puts her to bed and feeds her food..he has actually made a mess out of that Barbie..my husband calls it the ugly barbie..poor barbie has a very bratty owner (my son)
@Elixiress (3893)
7 Aug 08
I am glad you bought him the doll in the end, even if he is a little rough with it.
@alindahaw (1219)
• Philippines
29 Jul 08
Hey there! Don't sweat it. He is just three years old and he probaby does not have any ideas yet that barbie dolls are supposed to be for girls. Those nice colorful babie dolls do look nice and attractive so there is a possibility that your kid was just attracted to the colors of the doll. Yes, the whole idea of having a little boy crying for a baby doll in public can be distressing but then again that's part of life. Way to go mom!
@nupats (3564)
• India
7 Aug 08
my son is three years old he has loads of toys but i think only thing missing was a doll...we have more girls around so he keeps seeing them in the evening with their dolls and they dont let him touch their dolls..so i did buy him the Barbie and he loves playing with it and sometimes puts her to bed and feeds her food and then he makes it fight with the spiderman..he has actually made a mess out of that Barbie..my husband calls it the ugly barbie..poor barbie has a very bratty owner (my son)..thank you for sharing your views..have a nice day
@luluwow (165)
• United States
29 Jul 08
While I personaly find Barbie Dolls to be offensive in the ridiculous way they present the female form, I would certainly purchase a doll for my son if that is what he wanted. I wouldn't give it a second thought.
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@nupats (3564)
• India
7 Aug 08
my son is three years old he has loads of toys but i think only thing missing was a doll...we have more girls around so he keeps seeing them in the evening with their dolls and they dont let him touch their dolls..so i did buy him the Barbie and he loves playing with it and sometimes puts her to bed and feeds her food and then he makes it fight with the spiderman..he has actually made a mess out of that Barbie..my husband calls it the ugly barbie..poor barbie has a very bratty owner (my son)..thank you for sharing your views..have a nice day
• United States
29 Jul 08
Personally I dont find anything wrong with it I would buy my son a doll if he asked for one just give him time he will grow out of it eventually
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@nupats (3564)
• India
7 Aug 08
thank you dear i did buy him the barbie finally and he is sooo happy..have a nice day
@cher913 (25895)
• Canada
29 Jul 08
why not? you know, its probably a phase and if you gave him one, he would loose interest in it in a while. we have two daughters ages 11 & 15 and both my daughters loved trains when they were little, loved cars too. they love the sport of golf and my 11 year old loves baseball (we bought her a bat for her birthday this year) they like dresses and my 15 year old has a boy friend...so i really dont see the problem.
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@nupats (3564)
• India
7 Aug 08
my son is three years old he has loads of toys but i think only thing missing was a doll...we have more girls around so he keeps seeing them in the evening with their dolls and they dont let him touch their dolls..so i did buy him the Barbie and he loves playing with it and sometimes puts her to bed and feeds her food and then he makes it fight with the spiderman...he has actually made a mess out of that Barbie..my husband calls it the ugly barbie..poor barbie has a very bratty owner (my son)..thank you for sharing your views..have a nice day
• United States
29 Jul 08
Yes i would buy my son one, i see no harm in it, kids are kids and their imagination is going crazy espeically at 3. I had a nephew who was on a kick of dressing up in his sisters clothes from age 2-4, not daily but pretty much everyday..he grew out of it..but my sis let him do it. It shows individuality and personality. He even has a pic of him when he was dressed up sitting on his dresser now, and hes 12, trust me there is nothing feminine about this kid and he is sooo into girls, so it didnt "harm" him in any way or change that he is male. My favorite toy as a child was a pillow my grandma made me, with papa smurf on it, i had to have it even at sleepovers at the age of 12. Noone teased me for it, and i wasnt embarrassed by it...like i said..things like that are just kids being themselves, and nothing is ever wrong with being yourself.
@nupats (3564)
• India
7 Aug 08
hey that is really so sweet and cute.. my son is three years old he has loads of toys but i think only thing missing was a doll...we have more girls around so he keeps seeing them in the evening with their dolls and they dont let him touch their dolls..so i did buy him the Barbie and he loves playing with it and sometimes puts her to bed and feeds her food and then he makes it fight with the spiderman..he has actually made a mess out of that Barbie..my husband calls it the ugly barbie..poor barbie has a very bratty owner (my son)..thank you for sharing your views..have a nice day
@reckon21 (3487)
• Philippines
29 Jul 08
He still young. His interest soon will fade. just don't worry much kids can be like that sometimes. Maybe there's something about the doll that he likes so much.
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@nupats (3564)
• India
7 Aug 08
my son is three years old he has loads of toys but i think only thing missing was a doll...we have more girls around so he keeps seeing them in the evening with their dolls and they dont let him touch their dolls..so i did buy him the Barbie and he loves playing with it and sometimes puts her to bed and feeds her food and then he makes it fight with the spidermanlol..he has actually made a mess out of that Barbie..my husband calls it the ugly barbie..poor barbie has a very bratty owner (my son)..thank you for sharing your views..have a nice day
@Wyldrose (1217)
• United States
29 Jul 08
My nephew loved Barbie dolls. He liked playing with their long hair. (His mother is a hairdresser). When the Hiawatha (sp) Indian dolls came out, he wanted one of those...and got it.He wouldn't play with trucks or any toys for boys at his age. He even used to play with my daughter's long hair and brush it and braid it, etc. He is a normal 15 year old now with too many girlfriends to count!! My advice would be to just let him have the dolls if that's what he wants.I don't see a thing wrong with it. :) More than likely he will outgrow it. :)
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@nupats (3564)
• India
7 Aug 08
my son is three years old he has loads of toys but i think only thing missing was a doll...we have more girls around so he keeps seeing them in the evening with their dolls and they dont let him touch their dolls..so i did buy him the Barbie and he loves playing with it and sometimes puts her to bed and feeds her food and then he makes it fight with the spiderman..he has actually made a mess out of that Barbie..my husband calls it the ugly barbie..poor barbie has a very bratty owner (my son)..thank you for sharing your views..have a nice day
@tlb0822 (1414)
• United States
29 Jul 08
My first question is are their any other children? I think that kids will play with anything interesting. My younger sister loves tools, and army guys. While my parents try to buy her barbie dolls, and they just sit there. He is still young and doesn't get the concept of this is a "girls" toy. To him it is just a toy and he like playing with it. If i had a soon and he wanted a barbie doll, yes i would buy it for him. Toys come and go, but his happiness should always stay the same. If you really feel embarrassed try getting him a Ken doll, or some male doll. I think you shouldn't worry to much about it. Good luck with your soon.
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@nupats (3564)
• India
7 Aug 08
my son is three years old he has loads of toys but i think only thing missing was a doll...we have more girls around so he keeps seeing them in the evening with their dolls and they dont let him touch their dolls..so i did buy him the Barbie and he loves playing with it and sometimes puts her to bed and feeds her food and then he makes it fight with the spiderman..he has actually made a mess out of that Barbie..my husband calls it the ugly barbie..poor barbie has a very bratty owner (my son)..thank you for sharing your views..have a nice day
@ZephyrSun (7387)
• United States
29 Jul 08
We don't have any dolls in our house. My middle child did want a vacuum when he was young probably the same age as your child, I can remember my father's words as if it were yesterday, you don't need girls toys (had to clean it up for mylot), so my mother bought him one. He sweep the floor for days,(it actually picked up dirt even though it was child size) and loved it so! I started to love it as well lol. I'm sure that if any of my boys wanted a doll I would get them one, my brother carried a doll everywhere with him as a child and he is normal, and straight.
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@nupats (3564)
• India
7 Aug 08
my son is three years old he has loads of toys but i think only thing missing was a doll...we have more girls around so he keeps seeing them in the evening with their dolls and they dont let him touch their dolls..so i did buy him the Barbie and he loves playing with it and sometimes puts her to bed and feeds her food..he has actually made a mess out of that Barbie..my husband calls it the ugly barbie..poor barbie has a very bratty owner (my son)..thank you for sharing your views..have a nice day
• United States
29 Jul 08
I think it is ok to let your son play with the doll. I think it is best not to make him think the doll is any different than any of his other toys. If you make him think that the doll is "wrong" in some way he may cling to it even longer than he would if it was just another toy.
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@nupats (3564)
• India
7 Aug 08
my son is three years old he has loads of toys but i think only thing missing was a doll...we have more girls around so he keeps seeing them in the evening with their dolls and they dont let him touch their dolls..so i did buy him the Barbie and he loves playing with it and sometimes puts her to bed and feeds her food..he has actually made a mess out of that Barbie..my husband calls it the ugly barbie..poor barbie has a very bratty owner (my son)..thank you for sharing your views..have a nice day
@navonly (901)
• India
5 Aug 08
Hi nupats, I really dont remember if ever I have played with dolls, any such kind of toys. As far as I remember, I use to enjoy flying kites, playing cricket, Playing badminton, since I was 5 years old, or just play hide and seek. I do remember that I was not able to carry the wooden bat, so my parents bought me a plastic bat, that I use to play with my friends. A small badminton racket, that I hardly used ever, as the elders were busy always playing on the badminton court. I never succeed in flying my kite high enough, use to just run with threads in my hand, and the kite use to fall down again and again. Last but not the least, i was successfully able to play hide and seek with my friends there coz the place was full of trees, and a big lawn in front of our home, gave us enough of space for that.
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@nupats (3564)
• India
7 Aug 08
hi dear i also have done all this in my childhood..but he wants a doll so i did buy him a barbie doll because we have mostly girls in our locality and they all have dolls..but he is making the Barbie Doll fight with the spiderman it is so funny..have a nice day dear
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@navonly (901)
• India
9 Aug 08
well its just like young guys and gals fighting with each other. So what have you finally decided?
@nupats (3564)
• India
25 Aug 08
i did buy him the doll but now it does not have one leg and hand but itr is ok he has got over it ..i am glad it was just a fad..soorrryyy about being so late as i was away for almost a month my son had a ligment tear so i was advised to ensure he takes complete bed rest so i had to watch him all the while or he would try running..now he is back to normal and again as naughty as ever..
@kerriannc (4282)
• Jamaica
5 Aug 08
It just a fazed and your son will grow out of it. Well if I have a son and he want a doll to have I will buy it to him. Maybe he see the doll has a little sister. I did not grow up with a toy because my parents was not in the position to buy but to fill that spot I will go to the library and borrow books. Nupats my friend please don't be embarrass if your friends or stranger want to think negative it is because they does not have an open mind. Every child has a attraction until they overcome it. This is your son's for the time being he will soon overcome it. When he becomes big and you show him pictures of the doll he and you will be laughing over it.
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@nupats (3564)
• India
7 Aug 08
my son is three years old he has loads of toys but i think only thing missing was a doll...we have more girls around so he keeps seeing them in the evening with their dolls and they dont let him touch their dolls..so i did buy him the Barbie and he loves playing with it and sometimes puts her to bed and feeds her food and then he makes it fight with the spiderman..he has actually made a mess out of that Barbie..my husband calls it the ugly barbie..poor barbie has a very bratty owner (my son)..thank you for sharing your views..have a nice day
@gemini_rose (16194)
5 Aug 08
I would find it amusing but I would not make an issue about it, if he wanted it and I could afford then Yeah I would buy it. I have three boys and a daughter, all three of my boys love to play with my daughters dolls and pushchairs. There is no harm in it and he is only three so he is a baby still yet!
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@nupats (3564)
• India
7 Aug 08
my son is three years old he has loads of toys but i think only thing missing was a doll...we have more girls around so he keeps seeing them in the evening with their dolls and they dont let him touch their dolls..so i did buy him the Barbie and he loves playing with it and sometimes puts her to bed and feeds her food and then he makes it fight with the spidermanlol..he has actually made a mess out of that Barbie..my husband calls it the ugly barbie..poor barbie has a very bratty owner (my son)..thank you for sharing your views..have a nice day