I just don't know what to do. Too many friends.

@raydene (9875)
United States
July 29, 2008 9:11am CST
Everyday I come to mylot and find more friends. I'm sure this happens to everyone here also. I always accept them. Then the problem arrises..I kinda loose them.. I mean I now have so many that a few stand out but the rest are just there. It makes me feel bad that I can not respond to many discussions and am not very consistant about being here.. How do you all handle all the activity here and still take care of other things and get it all done?
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@Vladilyich1 (1453)
• Canada
29 Jul 08
When I came back on, you were one of the first I invited again.
@kenzie45230 (3560)
• United States
29 Jul 08
Real friends don't get upset if you miss a discussion or two that they have started. I think some people here worry too much about that. You do what you can do. That's all any of us can expect from ourselves or from others.
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@Winter08 (441)
• Canada
29 Jul 08
Why do you have to "get it all done"? I would think most people on your friends list understand how cumbersome it would be to respond to every friend's discussion. They are likely in the same position ... lots of friends, not enough time. I've been myLotting since January. Not a lot. And not with a big friends list. But I find myself turning on myLot first thing in the morning just to see what discussions catch my interest. They are not always from friends discussions. And they are not always from my interests. What I appreciate about the friends list (even though I don't have the huge list that your do) ... the list gives me a way of being able to easily find the people who's discussions appeal to me. I don't always respond to their discussions but I do read and rate the ones that catch my interest. With the huge myLot population, it would be really hard to find these people otherwise.
@skbh12 (2950)
• Philippines
29 Jul 08
[b]me too i always accept people who adds me to their list but finds time very seldom in answering their discussions... i want to be as consistent as i should be but there are times that i get drained easily with answering discussions that they make. i have this one friend in my friends list and i admire her for consistantly posting comments to my discussions.. special mention to.. CHECAPRICORN!!! thanks alot there mylot buddy.. teehee.. well, i guess i just have to strive harder to answer my friend's list discussions and give them back the favor for doing the same thing to me.. ill give them back the credit and help them in my own little ways.. [/b]
@weemam (13377)
29 Jul 08
I used to get myself so upset sis because I couldn't answer everyone , Now I just doo what I can and hope that my REAL friends understand :) xx
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@GardenGerty (99228)
• United States
29 Jul 08
Speaking of being glad to see a friend, I am glad to see you Wee Mam.Hope all is going beter for you and yours.
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@weemam (13377)
29 Jul 08
Just making memories every day now pal , but doing fine thanks , I hope you are too xx
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@Ldyjarhead (10157)
• United States
30 Jul 08
I don't see that friends here at myLot are like friends on most of the other social networking sites. When I'm responding here, I don't seek out just my friends, but rather work from the main page here at the site and read/respond to what I find interesting, regardless of who posted it. Those on my friend's list will of course get more visibility because there is a category for that on the main page, but I don't get emails when every friend starts a new discussion (way too many for that). There is no way I would be able to keep up, and I'm not going to respond to something that I have no interest in or have nothing to say about, just because a friend started it. A lot of other networking sites have people ticked off at each other because "I gave you a page hit, and you don't hit mine for a page view - no fair!". I don't see that working here.
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@lingli_78 (12845)
• Australia
29 Jul 08
i think i have the same problem like you... i have so many friends that it is so hard for me to keep track of them anymore... i just try my best to reply to their posts and discussions and sometimes i can't do that because i am simply too busy... take care and have a nice day...
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@ellie333 (21029)
29 Jul 08
Hi Raydene, I have the same battle myself somedays with so many email notifications of new discussions and do my best to get through. The last couple of weeks though I have really fallen behind as I am not here as often as my back hurts to sit at the computer for any length of time right now. If I cannot respond to all I will try to respond to at least a couple of discussions each one of my friends has posted. I also try my best to stay of top of responding to my own also but again am a bit behind. My email only holds 1000 and sometimes I will have to just go through and delete all myLot notificationms and work from discussions my friends have started but I really do miss so many this way and don't like doing. I feel rotten when I can answer all but there are only so many hours in a day eh! Ellie :D
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@schulzie (4064)
• United States
29 Jul 08
I try to respond to as many as I can. Also, when I am responding to discussions if I notice some of my friends avatars I will go see what they are up to also. I think I identify with people's avatars more than anything. I know it is difficult to remember everyone but I try. If I have to I go back months of discussions and respond or give ratings. [i] Have a great day and happy myLotting![/i]
@ESKARENA1 (18299)
29 Jul 08
i do what i can do, nothing more and even then i have now started clearing inactive people off my list. Only by doing so do i keep a managable list blessed be
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@GardenGerty (99228)
• United States
29 Jul 08
I just do what I can, when I can, and my friends do the same I think. I am glad to see them when they are here, and I do care about them when they are gone. I have real friends not online, and it is the same way. Some you are just closer to, and see more often.
@weemam (13377)
29 Jul 08
Me and you both Gerty pal xx
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@arkaf61 (10882)
• Canada
30 Jul 08
I know what you mean. SOmetimes it is a bit complicated to answer all, and I am sure everyone understands this. I only have a few friends with the notifications on. Those ones I receive their discussions in my email. However I could have them all set up this way, I wouldn't ever be able to clean up my mail box. What I do is I answer the emails I get, and then I go into mylot and check the "my friends page" . I start either on a different page each time and check what discussions were posted from the friends on that page. I answer any new ones. THen the next time I choose another page and do the same. I cannot promise that I will answer all the friends, but at least I do answer may more this way.
@Rosekitty (19441)
• San Marcos, Texas
30 Jul 08
Morning Raydene.... I only have a short time eachday to come on and post so i try to post to all the emails and then i go to work..after i get home i then see who responded or wanted to be new friends....If after a short time they are inactive i delete them so i can be better at responding to just the active ones..this way my friend count isn't so much.
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@aprilten (1977)
• Philippines
30 Jul 08
i think your friends understand that because they themselves can't participate in all the activities of all their friends. i used to feel that way when i was starting here at mylot so i tried so hard to participate in all the discussions of all my friends. but then i noticed that not all my friends participate in all my discussions and i understand them so i'm sure my friends understand me, too. i've been away from mylot for a long time and now i'm back. i always look at the discussions my friends started and if i know i can contribute something to it i do participate. i don't respond to their discussion just for the sake of responding because they are my friends or for the cents that i'll be earning. i do respond because i'm interested in the topic and i believe that i can be a worthwhile part of the discussion.
• Philippines
30 Jul 08
hello.............well, enjoying and having fun....
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@ladym33 (11008)
• United States
30 Jul 08
I just do the best that I can. When I first come on I always go to discussions my friends have started, then I answer as much of their discussions as I am able to do. If I can't get them all I don't sweat it. I do the best I can, that is all I can do.
• Finland
30 Jul 08
I have pretty much friends too so I don't have time to respond their discussions so I respond to every interesting discussion I find here. The best part of it is that many of the discussions I respond to are created by some of my friends :)
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@mayka123 (10598)
• India
30 Jul 08
I too have a lot of friends here and keep sending requests for more. I just look at the notifications in my inbox and reply to all those that interest me. There may be a few that I will skip replying at that moment and may reply a couple of days later. The rest are just deleted from my inbox.
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• Philippines
30 Jul 08
I also have the same problem. I am not sure If i can still keep up to response of my friends discussion. i hope they understand it somehow. I still have the mylot logged in problem until now, and I have to rent a computer from computer shop before i could visit mylot. Maybe I will just make a discussion regarding difficulty. You can get over that Raydene, you are not the only one having that problem most of us, we all need to understand each other.
@academic2 (7010)
• Uganda
30 Jul 08
I got three just this morning and added 2 of my own! Trust me to add you right awre-I enjoy approving friends and adding them to my list, there ome good friends that communicate, but like you say, it is all too easy to lose firends here!
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