When you say LAST CHANCE... do you really mean it?

Philippines
July 29, 2008 12:26pm CST
What are the instances when you say, Last Chance? Do you often hear yourself saying Last Chance? When you tell this other people, do you really mean it? Or are you that kind of person who would say Last Chance several times? Do you justify why you would give someone a Last Chance several times? Most of the time, when I say Last Chance, I really mean it. Almost nothing nor no one can really influence me to change my mind about it. However, there are times when I would give someone one last chance but when they fail me but I know that they can really do something about it, I would give another chance and justify why I had to.
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@roniroxas (10577)
• Philippines
29 Jul 08
its hard to mean when you say that, specially i am saying that to my children. but so far if i tell one of them that this is their last chance they really make an effort to improve it. so i can see the improvement.... so i experience saying it but never experience to prove it if i will stand on my ground and say that it is the last chance. i never tried it to anyboby else except to my children.
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@Hatley (118120)
• Garden Grove, California
29 Jul 08
Dolce vita hi I have seldom said last chance but I have often sid to my kids when they were little you do that again, and... And at the time I meant it too. And if they did do it again to'test me they got to stand in the corner for awhile and think about what they did.I was not a spanker ever as I do not think spanking does anything but make more spankers out of kids when they grow up.time outs, talking to, standing in the corner, these worked, and taking away priveleges also worked. I never did use last chance.
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• Philippines
30 Jul 08
I found out that I always mean what I say to other people but not to myself. Yes, when I say "this is your last chance" to someone, I'm not giving him another chance at all. I walked out of relationships and never taken a single one back to my life again. Maybe because I've been a very patient person all throughout the relationship and I really hold on while I still can. My relationships would reach a year or two even if it had a rocky beginning since I normally give people chances in my mind. But when I finally say "I cannot take this anymore and I'm giving you your last chance", a guy better take it seriously because I always mean what I say. I never look back. The downside however is that I can't seem to discipline myself in the same way. I always tell myself, "ok May, this is the last time I'm gonna let you do this" and then I see myself committing the same mistakes over and over again as I see myself giving myself those never-ending last chances. Shucks! I never learn, do i?
• Philippines
30 Jul 08
Well, I guess it is indeed more difficult to teach ourselves...
@ellie333 (21030)
29 Jul 08
Hi dolce_vita, If I am pushed to the stage where I will have to say 'this is your last chance' I mean it. It is a phrase I don't often use. I use 1, 2, 3 with my son and if I get to three he knows he is on the step so I very rarely get to three! LOL. I don't make promises lightly either as I keep mine so I have to really think about whether I want to carry something out before I promise to do it also. Ellie :D
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@ellie333 (21030)
20 Aug 08
Oh thank you so much for the best responses. I really appreciate it. Ellie :D
@gemini_rose (16208)
29 Jul 08
The only instances that I have to use the last chance cards are with my children! And last chance never means last chance unless I am really really cross with them for something, then it they know that last chance really means last chance!
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• Philippines
30 Jul 08
[i]Well, parents like you just love your children so much that you really can't mean "Last Chance"... I mean, it would really be hard to really mean it. [/i]
@checapricorn (16076)
• United States
29 Jul 08
Hi dolce, This expression is not common in my life, I can tell that in my journey in this world, I have just encounter 2 or 3 situations where I am saying last chance, and I am very firm about it! It was to a close friends before and gladly, we both ended up patching things up because they know that when I say it is, I mean it!
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• Philippines
30 Jul 08
lucky you!
29 Jul 08
Very often we as parents will say Last chance to our children,and we know that deep in our hearts we dont really mean it,its just a way of trying to make them toe the line.Discipline is an all important thing in this day and age,and at some point they have to learn right from wrong.So the Last chance lol comes into play many times.
• Philippines
29 Jul 08
Yes, a LOT of Last Chances...
@msedge (4020)
• United States
4 Aug 08
I would say this is your last chance but still i easily forgive provided its not a harmful mistake to me.I always give it a try and give chances to other people.But if it hurts me alot that involve my pride and dignity i guess i will never give a chance anymore and i already did that.I had forgiven him several times but he made a biggest mistake that i can't give him a chance anymore.Now, he is trying to ask forgiveness but what he did always come up to my mind so it still hard for me to give him a chance again or maybe not anymore.
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@hezoid (2150)
3 Aug 08
Oh, yes, i really do. I don't give people many chances becuase there are a lot of people who will take the p i s s and who time waste. If i say last chance and you bow it, that's it you've blown it.
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@faith210 (11233)
• Philippines
1 Aug 08
Hi dolce_vita! I feel the same way like you do my dear friend. Most of the time, when I say this is the last chance I would give that person, I really mean it. However, there are times that you just have to give them another chance because you will see and feel their sincerity and honesty and the effort that they did just to make it work out. I guess, it always depend on the circumstances presented and how genuine the person is. Take care always..God Bless!
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@coolmailraj (2462)
• India
30 Jul 08
Hi. I guess most of the people say it out of anger or to threaten the people before them. I have seen some of my friends using these words when someone makes them wait for long times. I am not that rude in most of the cases and if there a situation asking to give someone one more chance then I'll probably listen to him.
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@anex08 (868)
• Philippines
30 Jul 08
When I say last chance and they fail but I believe they can do more and change it I still give one more chance. But most of the time When I say " its your last chance " I mean it.
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@bagumbayan (2707)
• Philippines
30 Jul 08
I am quite strict in my job. There are lots of people working, and as we grow older we really have to say this and mean the other way around. Saw someone saying something bad to someone call on them, give memos, or just verbally reprimand him, this will be the last chance, next time, written memo and again last chance. But I do have my limitations, do it the wrong way, you will get what you want.
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@ishralene09 (2260)
• Philippines
29 Jul 08
Sadly, when I say to my girlfriend that I'm going to shed some pounds finally, I always say give me a last chance. But then I don't actually shed some. So I feel bad about it.
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@julievy (595)
• United States
29 Jul 08
I try not to say it unless I mean it! That's especially important with kids. You have to back up what you say or they won't learn the right lessons. There are always circumstances where you may have to give another chance, but they should be rare!
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@tatiana07 (498)
• Philippines
2 Sep 08
i seldom say LAST CHANCE coz i know there's ANOTHER CHANCE soon when you're not angry anymore..(",)
@MsTickle (24624)
• Australia
11 Aug 08
Hi Dolce...I stopped using those sort of threats when my kids were little. And it was said ONCE and I expected a result or there were consequences. It is a teaching method for children. It becomes a bit silly to continually threaten but fail to use the consequences. I cannot imagine a situation where you would use this sort of empty threat to an adult.
@maddysmommy (16243)
• United States
30 Jul 08
I seldom use the words 'last chance' and when I do I usually mean it. When it comes to my son, I count 5,4,3,2,1 and if I reach 1 he knows he's in trouble. I very rarely get to 1 as he usualy stops when I reach 3 or sometimes 2. I am not sure why counting seems to make him stop as opposed to me telling him to stop over and over again though, because it works for us.
• Philippines
30 Jul 08
i guess im in between, i sometimes danggle the 'last chance' line on some of the people i deal with. then sometimes there are times that i just have to lay it down. last chance is last chance. an example would be an employee. if an employee comes to work drunk you scold him and he says he wont do it again so you give him a 1st warning. and he did it again but you would still give him a 2nd chance. but the 3rd time your out of here. i feel that life in general is all about 2nd chances. probably korny or something but its true. but there are times where you just have to draw the line. but in what part of life do we have to draw it, i dont know. i guess a person can just feel it. that it would be the last chance, its just a matter of being a keen observer and what not.
@pkraj111 (2460)
• India
30 Jul 08
Sometimes Yes Sometimes No I never really mean when I say to my subordinates. But with myself and with family I mean it