If you told a friend something very personal and now it's no longer private

United States
July 29, 2008 4:53pm CST
If you told a trusted friend something very personal and private and now it's no longer private. Whose at fault? you for confiding( because had you not told them ,this wouldn't have happened ) or them for telling?
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@fwidman (11519)
• United States
29 Jul 08
I'd have to say both. You should not have told them something you never wanted repeated and, once having done so, they should have kept your secret. Guess it goes to show how much you can trust this trusted friend
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@mommyboo (13207)
• United States
30 Jul 08
Well... since it said TRUSTED friend and also 'something very personal and private', the friend is MORE at fault for sharing it with anybody else than you are for telling. If they are a trusted friend and you tell them it is personal and private and should only remain between the two of you and they agree, then they had no business sharing it. I understand that you cannot really control another person's actions, yet the framework of a good friendship should withstand something like a personal secret and they should not be sharing without your consent.
@n30wing (4771)
• Philippines
30 Jul 08
Basically a friend is a confidante someone you could be trusted with everything. Partly not everything you can tell a friend. I think it's both side. You just trusted that friend too much. Now what that friends fault is not everything he could be telling other people what you've talk about. Well you learn from mistakes. Now you know who are your real friends are. Lesser talk lesser problems! have a nice day!
@gemini_rose (16194)
29 Jul 08
LOL recently I found what I thought was a good friend and it took me a long time to trust her with anything confidential but she proved herself by being there for me at a time when things were a bit rough in my life. So she earned my trust, the very first thing I confided in her with, she went and blabbed and caused riots within my family! Lets just say that now, I keep things to myself and try to cope with them on my own!
@guybrush (4662)
• Australia
29 Jul 08
Well, I would blame myself for telling - but my friend would certainly go down in my estimation! I'm not a very trusting person, so if I'd trusted someone with a very personal and private piece of information I would be devastated if they broke my confidence. I think we all have to be very careful - sometimes the temptation is too much for people.