Hey, where did you go? Was it something I said?
By cyntrow
@cyntrow (8523)
United States
July 30, 2008 8:20pm CST
OK, here is the scenario(sp). You and I are in a heated debate. We are going back and forth about something. THen I make a statement...1 day, nothing. Day 2 and still no reply. A week later and still no response from you. Why?
Same scenario. You make a statement that I cannot possibly refute. Me: Hmmm. Good point. I'll have to chew on that for a while....I chew and research. then, Me: You are right. Thanks for enlightening me... Or Great point, but what about....???
So why do you not come back? Did I hit a nerve? Can you not counter? Can you not admit when you are wrong???
Disclaimer: "You" refers to you collectively, not anyone specifically, although there are those I could name.
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10 responses
@shooie (4984)
• United States
31 Jul 08
Did they or have they respond in another topic somewhere else? Plus you have to remember not everyone is the same. I am like you I would of said good point and ummm let me think on that awhile but not everyone is the same. If we were how boring life would be no? Also they may not be online or on vacation. So many things can be the reason. But then again there are those that will debate on something and when you do hit a nerve they will stop because yes you hit a nerve and they don't want to be wrong. There have been times I have gotten into a debate in other forums and it didn't matter what you said or proof you had the other person was not going to bend and here your side so I just stopped and left the discussion. I wouldn't give it a second thought
@inutme (372)
• Philippines
31 Jul 08
I sometimes like to argue for arguments sake. But there are times when I just don't have the energy to answer back, so I just say ok. And then there are times when I talk to people who really have no intention of hearing my view and keep on insisting theirs, so I just stay mum and pretend to listen.. Or in this type of discussion, I just fade away..
@Angelwhispers (8978)
• United States
31 Jul 08
Cyn, I much prefer that when in a debate and your Opponent runs out of steam to just drop it. What happens so often to me, is that my opponent runs out of intelligence, and facts so a personal attack must ensure. Its at that point I am finished with it. So many times I run into people who try and give debate only based in biased personal opinion and are to lazy to actually do some leg work and back up thier words... Why would they come back?
I know I am not exactly answering your question here only giving you my thoughts according to my experience.... I always come back,.... and back and back LMAO
@cyntrow (8523)
• United States
31 Jul 08
I'm a big fan of agreeing to disagree, if common ground cannot be found. But if I have trumped your ace, it is more respectable to admit defeat and battle again another day.
I know you come back again and again, lol, but when the wall is hit the debate must end. All I ask is that they end it. If they tell me they have nothing or that we must agree to disagree, I respect that. cut and run? No honor in that.
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
31 Jul 08
Let me get this straight. We are engaged in a heated debate and you make a statement and you wait for my reply. Well, for me either I lost my connection and I didn't get to log in or I agreed with you and had nothing else to say.Those are the only two reasons I didn't respond.
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
31 Jul 08
It all depends.If it is a statement where we obviously should agree to disagree , I wouldn't write back.Or if it is so well written and I can't add to it I may leave it like that.
@craftcatcher (3699)
• United States
31 Jul 08
I love a good debate! So yes I agree that either they have a counter, submit or stalemate. I have ended a lot of discussion with "ok, let's just agree to disagree" because frankly it's sometimes difficult to justify or quantify a feeling, belief or opinion. I've had one ongoing since yesterday and so far no answer. Probably because I ended up writing a mini-novel for a counter! It's really long. Maybe I'll hear something back tomorrow.
Yes I hate it when someone doesn't answer me, especially when I'm on a roll! ROFL
@cyntrow (8523)
• United States
31 Jul 08
OMG, I can't count the number of times I've agreed to disagree. Oftentimes, I'll take up the argument with the same person in another discussion. LOL. But, if I can't counter, I will admit defeat; or let the person know I need to do further research. And it may take some time, but I will come back, even if it is just to let them know that I got nothing.
It's only polite and honorable
@juliefaye (1214)
• Philippines
31 Jul 08
"I did not come back because I said all that I have to and seems you don't understand." LOL.
I have experienced debating and its not healthy because she's getting too personal on me. Hitting me with demeaning words just to get even. So, that gives me a lesson to stay away from topics that are debatable since people here in mylot have different culture and attitude. Some cannot accept the fact that they are wrong, instead they will throw filthy words and I don't want to throw back so I step out.
@cyntrow (8523)
• United States
31 Jul 08
name calling and mud slinging are not debating. I am a big fan of agreeing to disagree and perhaps continuing the battle another day. But if you have been debating me for days on end and were are countering one another with great intelligence and that wall has not been hit, why run? I don't get it.
@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
31 Jul 08
well, it happens to me with my friends as well... all i can say that those people are really very narrow-minded and can't accept other people's input or criticism... those people can't grow or improve themselves because they close themselves to other people constructive input... i will just ignore them... take care and have a nice day...
@sunshinecup (7871)
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31 Jul 08
Well I didn't come back because you hurt my wittle feelings by not letting me "win".
LOL, just kidding. I know what you mean, and I the only thing I could ever figure when this happened to me is they simple didn't want to hear my view, they value their own and nothing more. They say forget about considering what I said, they just want me to consider what they said.
It's sad really because I do like thinking over what others say to me, I like opening my brain to new views, you know?
LOL, just kidding. I know what you mean, and I the only thing I could ever figure when this happened to me is they simple didn't want to hear my view, they value their own and nothing more. They say forget about considering what I said, they just want me to consider what they said.
It's sad really because I do like thinking over what others say to me, I like opening my brain to new views, you know? @cyntrow (8523)
• United States
31 Jul 08
I agree, but I'd go a bit further. I challenged their held thoughts and it scared them; took them out of their comfort zone. I am one who loves to be challenged. I think you are too. It's really defense mechanism, but I'd love to hear from them. Bet you I won't
@markrobb (76)
• United States
31 Jul 08
I happen to love debate, literally thrive on it.... But as a hard-core debater I have come to find that not everyone is up for the fight and may either lose interest or not have the spirit to continue....Or worse become offended.... Next time you need some good old fashion debate... call me
