When friends discussions dont apply to you..

@saundyl (9690)
Canada
August 4, 2008 10:50pm CST
When you see a discussion a friend has started that doesnt apply to you or doesnt interest you. Do you reply anyways or just leave it be? I'm always tempted to reply but then i dont have the input to give them I'd hate to just say "oh i dont know or sorry this doesnt apply" I also feel bad for not replying. I'd love for there to be a way to check off that you read a friend's discussion even if you didnt reply.
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@ferdzNK (3214)
• Philippines
5 Aug 08
We share the same sentiments, but that's just how things are. Its really impossible to reply to them all. It would really be nice to see a friend on our discussion but if the topic is really an off one, I'm sure you'll ask your self too, why is this friend of mine here? I would reply to a friend's discussion if I can say something about it else I'll just skip it.
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@saundyl (9690)
• Canada
5 Aug 08
Theres people i love reading their discussions but I dont have anything to say. OR theres the times that someone asks for advice on something...parenting quitting smoking etc..that i dont have experience in that Id love to help but i cant. Theres things i know someday i'll have input for but not now!
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@ferdzNK (3214)
• Philippines
5 Aug 08
Yes like I enjoy reading your camping experience but I can add any.
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• China
5 Aug 08
I would like to keep silent for a while and just listen to the discussion. After a while, I will make some comments to drag the topic to my side or just take control of the discussion just to meet my interest.
@saundyl (9690)
• Canada
5 Aug 08
Thank you for responding.
@richiem (3646)
• Philippines
5 Aug 08
I get your point. It's like your friend wouldn't know that you have read his discussion unless you respond to it. But then, you have nothing really additional info to share. I also experience that. I hope my friends would understand that. As a discussion starter, I think I should not think that a friend has not read my discussion. He may have read it but have nothing else to add. I usually just rate such discussions. Have a nice day!
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@saundyl (9690)
• Canada
5 Aug 08
I like to go through and rate them as well. Sometimes I dont when my dialup is being exceptionally pokey. I like to support my friends by reading and responding to their discussions.
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@neildc (17254)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
5 Aug 08
it is okay to me, to give the best that i can. if it ask for some advise and i can relate or had experienced the same situation, i do give my response. it is really tempting to response to all the discussions but as mylot guidelines say, don't response if you have nothing to say. (red star 91 @ 1461)
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@saundyl (9690)
• Canada
5 Aug 08
Makes a lot of sense. I gotta ask what is the red star 91 @ 1461 note about?
@neildc (17254)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
7 Aug 08
that note only serves as a reminder and tracking system for me, and nothing more important. (red star 88 @ 1469)
@hellcowboy (7383)
• United States
5 Aug 08
If I see a friends discussion that does not interest me or does not apply to me, I will usually read it and make sure there is nothing I can think of to add,and I am usually tempted to apply anyway,and I also feel bad if I do not apply,but I know I would feel worse if I just left a real short response,and I agree it would be awesome if there was a way to check off that you read a friends discussion even if you do not respond to it.
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@saundyl (9690)
• Canada
5 Aug 08
I feel bad not responding. I think i would feel bad as well leaving just a short little response however it is tempting to leave something for people saying i read it!
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• United States
6 Aug 08
Yeah I know sometimes I want to leave something so the person knows I read the discussion and that I appreciated their hard work,have a great day,good luck in your life,and Happy Posting my friend.
• Canada
20 Oct 09
if I come across a discussion on any of my websites on which I have absolutely nothing to say, I will move on. Aren't responses of quality better than responses of quality?
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@saundyl (9690)
• Canada
20 Oct 09
I agree that responses that have to do with the discussion and are good responses are better than just getting a bunch of responses that have nothing to do with the discussion. I just feel bad sometimes for not responding.
@lazeebee (5468)
• Malaysia
6 Aug 08
Yup, that's a great idea. I'd love to respond to a friend's discussion, especially if there are few responses; however if I have no knowledge of the subject and have nothing constructive to contribute, then it'd be senseless. Like you say, I can't type something like 'I would like to respond, but don't know what to say'. Most likely, my comment'd get deleted and doesn't help in anyway!
@saundyl (9690)
• Canada
7 Aug 08
I've always worried that just posting something along those lines might get the whole discussion deleted not just my own post.
@izathewzia (5142)
• Philippines
6 Aug 08
I only reply those posts that are worth answering. Those that interests me or. Or have sense. Or I have an answer. I am not really looking to who started it but to to the meaning or content of the post.
@saundyl (9690)
• Canada
7 Aug 08
i dont usually look to see who started a discussion when on mylot but i get lots of notifications in my email saying a friend started a discussion. I like that.
@momalisa65 (1981)
• United States
6 Aug 08
Oh yea, that would be great! I also have that same problem. I want to say something but I don't know what. Then sometimes I hear friends complaining that 'certain friends' don't respond to their discussions. Then I feel like they are referring to me!
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@saundyl (9690)
• Canada
7 Aug 08
I've seen a few in my friends list comment about that too and wondered if i was one.
@Hatley (164652)
• Garden Grove, California
6 Aug 08
saundyl sometimes if I can use my former life when my husband was alive I will respond saying yes I did so and so when my husband was alive and thus I can answer a lot of discussions that do not directly apply to me now but could have in my younger years. but if I am not interestered at all I will pass. but ususally I am interested as I am not as picky as most people. lol.
@saundyl (9690)
• Canada
6 Aug 08
Thats a good idea. Someday I hope i can use that i use things like my sister does this or we did this when i was a kid but..thats only like recent still!
@twallace (2675)
• United States
6 Aug 08
That has happened a few times when they have a discussion and I didn't have anything to speak on concerning the topic that they have choosen. So I just by pass it. Then there have been times I have by passed it. Came back to it read the discussion has had a little to say. I try to comment to my friends here when they have a discussion.
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@saundyl (9690)
• Canada
6 Aug 08
I've noticed on occasion if i read a discussion a second time I have something to say.
• United States
5 Aug 08
i agree, but i just dont respond. honestly i only to respond if i can input anyways and that is regardless if you are a friend or not. but it would be nice if we could atleast check off that we read it or even if we could post something like sorry but i dont have much to input without someone following up with a discussion about how they hate people who just respond enough to get credit for a response.
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@saundyl (9690)
• Canada
6 Aug 08
I never even thought of people just responding to get credit for responses. I guess its all in how people think of mylot.
@iskayz (5422)
• Philippines
5 Aug 08
Hi there! I respond to discussions mainly to those that interests me. Be it from my friends or not. I choose those that interests me because I can share more if I knew more about the discussion. But I first check my friends discussions to see interesting topics. What I do is that I have my notifications of all my frinds on so I won't miss a discussion they have started. I can immediately check them out in my email. Ciao!
@saundyl (9690)
• Canada
6 Aug 08
I have my notifications on as well. I was surprised to come back from a weekend away and find 89 new messages in my mylot folder! (I wonder what there will be after my trip next week!)
@GardenGerty (99481)
• United States
5 Aug 08
That would be nice, as some places even give points for page views. I know myLot is not like that. Sometimes I can really stretch it with my answers, and yet sometimes I do not even have the energy to try, even when I could contribute.
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@saundyl (9690)
• Canada
6 Aug 08
Somedays I just get tired of responding on mylot and need a break. Maybe its lack of energy too. Thank you for responding!
• Philippines
5 Aug 08
Hi there saundyl! When I see a discussion that a friend has started and does not apply to me but I do have an idea to share, I do respond to that discussion. If it does not interest me, I may or may not respond depending on what the topic is really all about. It may not be that interesting but I have something to share. But when I do not really have anything to share, I leave it as is. I believe that good discussions deserve good responses. That is why, even if the discussion is good but I really do not have any idea about it, I would just leave it as is.
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@saundyl (9690)
• Canada
6 Aug 08
Awesome. Thank you for responding. The way you work responding makes sense. I love finding out how others decide to do things here.
@skinnychick (6907)
• United States
5 Aug 08
I guess it depends on who the friend is. I usually always reply even if I don't know anything about the subject just to let them know that and show some love.
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@saundyl (9690)
• Canada
6 Aug 08
Thats awesome! I might adopt that practice.
@debjit (339)
• India
5 Aug 08
Hi friends, sometimes I also face similar situations, where I've nothing to talk about on a particular topic with my friends. I really feel dejected then. I have to face such situation not to often as I am updated with almost everything, but when they talk about television soap operas I have nothing to say then. I prefer to be quite and listen to them.
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@saundyl (9690)
• Canada
6 Aug 08
Thank you for responding. I too find theres times i prefer to be quiet and just read what they have to say.
@ebsharer (5518)
• United States
5 Aug 08
I always wonder the same thing. I feel kind of bad about it becuase there are a few friends that respond to all my discussion and I don't respond to any of theres. I guess they understand because they still respond to me.
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@saundyl (9690)
• Canada
5 Aug 08
I know i understand when people don't. But i do worry that some people think their friends need to answer everything they start. I just don't want to hurt peoples feelings!
@subha12 (18453)
• India
5 Aug 08
when it does not apply to me anyway, i just do not answer. actually i have here accepted all freind request taht i get. so amny time sit happens that in the page discussion started by my friends, many are just out of my scope,. so i just leave them
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@saundyl (9690)
• Canada
5 Aug 08
that makes sense. thank you for replying! I feel a bit less guilty about not replying to all of them.
@mlaxman (107)
• India
6 Aug 08
i used to reply or i m tempted to reply but unfortunately this doesnt suit me.... nobody repond to my discussion hehe
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