Boy Wants the Wedding to be held in his place

For what I know the groom and the bride are the one who should decide on thier wedding and not the parents. Now if you had problems with the parents decision you may ask them so or even your partner and try to explain your reasons. Though we must really accept the fact that wedding in provinces are really way cheap than in city but it won't matter if you won't enjoy the day. What is good is try to be considerate to one another as much as possible.

Better try talk to him, discuss it..if practical to have wedding in his place and the money you have after weeding will be use in your future..then will be better but if the purpose is that only the whole barangay to knwo that He is getting married and for the sake that whoel relatives will be there..its not that so reasonable..how about your your relatives..so discuss with him..

Hi misshoney, [i]I guess it will not be a great start if your being together if there is a feeling like this...Present your opinion to your fiance and he has to listen to you! It will be unfair if he will decide if in favor of their convenience! ANyway, I have several friends who are having it in bride's place and then they will also give a party in the groom's place, anyway, it will still be next year, so you can still prepare for this and I am sure some close relatives are willing to donate for something![/i] Talk to him and be honest to what you want, I know he will listen!

..well, you have to give your self a break first.. then you talk heart to heart with your boyfriend.. explain to him the culture here in the Philippines.. give your reasons too.. you try to tell him that those things are your concerns and not anybody else.. that is really hard but if your boyfriend will realize that what is important during that day is your happiness, then it would be very fine.. tell him to consider also how your family will react if that thing will happen.. try to be calm and don't get easily upset.. that will not help you.. think thoroughly.. chose your words to convince your boyfriend.. because that thing alone can be a reason for you to have misunderstanding..

Well men are getting married too, so it isn't fair to assume it isn't important to the man and it is all the womans day. That is the way the story is in the movies, never seen it in real life. It is time to have a serious talk about the wedding, and what you should compromise on. If you can't agree or work together now, maybe you shouldn't get married yet.

I understand your problem. Here in india,we give preference to the bride party. Even here marriages happen at bride's home. Request them if they can agree. thats all i could say.

I agree that it must veer to what the girl wants. I'm from the Philippines too. In our case, my husband's parents insisted on inviting too many people that THEY knew.. but didn't give any extra money.. get my drift? You know, that is the start of coming to a "compromise" with your husband to be. One thing I remember from what my husband told me before we got married was, the wedding date is also an extra special day for the groom and not just the bride. It is NOT always what the bride wants that have to be followed because the feelings of the groom must be considered also. Talk to your husband. Explain to him that you have nothing against having it in their province per se but because most of YOUR family and friends are in Manila. Maybe you can suggest to have an "after wedding" party in their town to please them. What matters is that the TWO OF YOU agree on certain things. If you don't get to patch this one, what more if you are married already? Hugs to you and goodluck. I hope your husband to be keeps an open mind.

a wedding isn't the brides day. it's for both the bride and the groom, and the people they want to involve. usually the bride has the biggest input, as most men are happy just to turn up and have it all arranged for them, but in areas where they have a preference, it's only fair to consider their preferences, and find a comprimise if it conflicts with your preference. if you can't comprimise on this, then how will the future be. comprimise is an important part of a marriage. could you maybe find an area somewhere between the two, that both sides of the family could travel to easily.

Although people make out that it is the bride's day but it is also the groom's day and he should have his say. I think you should talk to your boyfriend and tell why you want it near you and not in his province. You both should talk about what you want and where you want it regardless of what both parents, relatives and friends say. if you cant decide where to have your marriage - its not a good start to married life is it?? Choosing his province because hes popular there isnt a good enough reason to have a wedding there in my view. You want to have it somewhere that you will remember in years to come, somewhere that just makes you smile from ear to ear when you think of that place!! Have you and your boyfriend have any special places that you share?? Maybe use them as a wedding venue! Hope you are able to overcome this difficulty!!

Who is paying for the wedding? If you and your family are paying for it, then you should have it right where you want to. It is tradition for the Bride's family to pay for it. If your boyfriends family is footing the bill. I think you must go with their wishes and marry where they are asking you to do it. Maybe this is not what you want to hear..However, it is proper.

No one can decide it except you and your boyfriend, It's you and your boyfriends day, its not them, you can held your wedding where ever you want. Talk to your boyfriends what are the advantages and disadvantages of it, for sure you can resolve it, it's just a small thing to ruin your most memorable event in your life.

it is very bad that you and your boyfriend are arguing like this now. What are you going to be like after you get married. You have to learn that live is a compromise especially marriage. Sit down and talk to your boyfriend and go through the pros and cons of each place you want the wedding. If your boyfriedn is only doing what his family say and not considering you then there is a problem and you might have to reconsider the whole thing. I hope that you can get this sorted out between you. Remember, it is his day as well as yours.

You are arguing on the wedding place? and you think your marriage will work? just kidding.. The question is, who would spend for your wedding? If your husband's family would be the one to shoulder it, I guess it's their call. But if you and your boyfriend will shoulder it, just compromise.. but tell him please that you can't be more beautiful than be married in a place you chose. He wouldn't want an ugly bride right?

I am from India. In my place both bride and groom has same importance for their wedding..Both of their houses decorate and in both houses party arranges and their only just a visit to and from both houses.So their no such complexes in my area..