Online Liars

@lisa0351 (303)
United States
August 11, 2008 3:57pm CST
Back when I was dating, I had agreed to meet a few guys online. I had them meet up with groups of friends on a night out, and in public situations. I met two guys, and had talked to them for months before we met up. Both had showed me pictures, and we had a lot in common. I was excited to meet them, but when we finally got out and met up, they were not what I expected. Turns out, I met both of them weeks apart and both of them were not what the said they were. They had sent pictures, that were old...they did not look at all like them. And when they started talking, basically I caught on that they agreed with whatever I said, just to meet up. The one guy even lied about having a job. Do you think more and more people online just to get the initial date? I gave up on online dating after that. I know people can find love online, I just didn't want to deal with liars again. Anyone have a similar situation?
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15 responses
• United States
12 Aug 08
When I was searching I had a couple dates after months and months of chatting and they ended up not being for me either but we still chat occassionally and ask one another how things are going etc... i've been fortunate not to meet liars and i'm SO GLAD my search is over.
• Philippines
12 Aug 08
Good day... For me lying online is just a waste of time and a lost cause. For one thing the pretension would last as long and eventually it will boiled down to the truth. By then the person you're lying to would already be pissed off. Just be yourself and be honest, if it will connect then it will and when it won't find another who knows one can get lucky.
@subha12 (18441)
• India
12 Aug 08
i think still some young people rely on online dating. i am not telling that there is no one, who is successful. but most of the times the things turn out to be very bad. most people lie there to lure the other party.also you do not have idea about other person on other side of computer.
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
12 Aug 08
I did not have any such experience, however, your experience is a learning lesson for all of us, who wish to go for on-line dating. One is not sure, how the person would be in reality. He may turn out to be entirely different one, as against your perceptions.
@luvjabb (56)
• United States
12 Aug 08
Be very careful when talking to people you dont know on the internet their are a lot of good people but their are some jerks too.
@insulin (2479)
• Philippines
12 Aug 08
Well I guess there are just people who are really liars but I can't say all of them are liars,,,If you want to be sure then go with chat with webcam,pictures and headphones..I met my husband in online and I guess I am just lucky because he is not liar..:-0 Good luck and have a nice day..
@Pigglies (9329)
• United States
12 Aug 08
I don't do online dating for that reason. One of my friends used to always run background checks on guys before meeting them, which costs her $80 per guy she got interested in. She would check their stories and one guy must have been running from something, he had lived in so many places. Yet he said he had only lived in three different locations. Some of my relatives have had bad experiences with dating and even marrying online guys, and then once they're together they find out the guy did not show his true colors (although, that is not something unique to online dating). I'm sticking with good old fashioned dating for now.
• United States
11 Aug 08
Actually, no. I've never been in that situation. I had several male interests online and I went to meet-ups with 5 of them. One stood me up, dunno why, he claimed miscommunication. Three of them were more into me than I really expected and were kinda creepy about it. The last one I married two months ago. Maybe I just had better luck, but I felt I could usually tell the difference between liars and real people.
@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
12 Aug 08
Hi lisa, I know a lot out there are desperate to find date or women in their lives and for whatever reasons, they will be bragging just to get the attention of the girls..I have not tried talking much to men online since I always end up realizing that they are not true to what they have said...I know a lot of my friends though who met their partners online and they have a very successful relationship so, it's really a risk and at the same time, a luck too!
• United States
11 Aug 08
I met my husband onli ne we really didn't talk on the internet that much... we pretty much texted each other.. And my husband never lied about anything when when we were texting.. I think online dating works for some people and than some it doesn't... For me it just happened to work for me.. I met my husband on myspace and i got to see what he looked like and everything else what he did for a living... I was happy with what i saw so i wrote hi a message and he he wrote back and than he gave me his phone number so i text him that very same night... everyday i would get a text message every morning telling me good morning from him and a picture every now and than... Some people it works and some people it doesn't
@ngaspero (851)
• Italy
11 Aug 08
I met online my actually wife 8 years ago, we leave toghether since 6 years and married since 5 years and we have 2 child..but what you say can happen, I know is stupid because if then you want to meet someone then the thrue came out, but stupidity is in some human bean..I can only rate that if you're interested to meet someone don't wait ti much, do it as soon is possible so you don't give the other the time to lie and if is not the right one you don't vaste so much time... Nun
@apples99 (6556)
• United States
11 Aug 08
Now see, i think its to risky to meet people on line cause like you said they lie, i have always been sceptical about online dating because iv heard a lot of horror story's about bad things happening to people meeting someone they never met online but, it was a good idea to bring some friends along to make sure your safe i have never tryed online dating i prefer to meet them in person in a safer setting and get to know them over time.
• United States
11 Aug 08
I am not one to say that online dating sites are filled with fake profiles, liars, and wife cheaters...there are stuff like that in online dating sites, but most profiles arent that. I have met a ton of people offline who were real and some that were not. Basically if you want to be sure you have someone real, make sure you find profiles that have more than one picture (real ones have at least 2 or more), they have pictures that show personal activities (relaxing at a bar, hiking, vacation picture, etc), and lastly if still arent sure, ask them to provide you with a photo of them holding the front page of a recent newspaper (like within the same week). To see if they are married or attached, and cheating behind their significant other, try to get ahold of them on the phone. If they ask that you call them only at certain hours, they never pick up the calls, or break dates and meetings more than once, more likely (not definite) that there is something worng with the picture. The other info like employment is all based on honesty, you cant verify that. Hope this helps on how to spot them.
• United States
11 Aug 08
Everyone lies online. It's not just to get dates, it's to be their ideal person. They get on and talk to people and pretty much tell them everything about what they want their life like, what they want to look like, so on and so on. But it's usually their real personality. I met my boyfriend through myspace, of course our moms were best friends throughout middle school and high school, so me and him go to talking. And here we are, been dating for a year, living with each other, planning on getting married. I couldn't be happier.
@spalladino (17891)
• United States
11 Aug 08
I don't think it's a good idea to meet someone online for the very reasons you've stated. People aggerate and lie online so you waste time and effort getting to know someone who basically doesn't exist. Also, this person is a stranger. Even if you do meet in a group setting you could eventually find yourself alone with someone you know nothing about.