Saying Thank You is hard for me

@sd_abot (177)
Philippines
August 15, 2008 10:21am CST
Do you always give thanks to anyone who do something for you. It is hard for me to say thank you if the person who i supposed to thank is one of my family member. But maybe because i am not used to it. What will i do to change this?
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@dreamssri (1796)
• India
15 Aug 08
yeah!! i too can't say a simple "thanks" when it comes to case of family member...Because,Thanks is not valued there...When it comes to the family,it their duty or our duty to do that particular thing...In such cases,the words "sorry","thanks" are totally meaningless! But when some third person helps me,i swear,i can't keep off from saying "thanks"..Its a must there....Because,he is not our friend or not our family,not even known to us,but heartily helps us! How great it is? There the word "thanks" is worth a Million dollar! But in family,as i already said,the word "thanks" is void and you shouldn't feel for that...you're right! Have a nice day, Sri
• United States
15 Aug 08
Perhaps your values are different than mine, and I certainly mean no disrespect, but I think you are wrong about phrases like "thanks" and "sorry" not being valued within families. I can't begin to say how much I appreciate my kids or my husband thanking me for my effort and hard work. Besides, kids first learn manners at home - if we aren't even saying thank you and sorry to people we care about, how would they learn to say those things to others?
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• India
15 Aug 08
Hi sd_abot Saying thank you is nothing but a habit. just like other habits, if you practice this habit to grow, it'll be easier. Make little effort to make it your favorite habit. One fine morning, you'll find you have no problem in saying thank you to any one you want.
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• United States
15 Aug 08
It is SO important to say thank you to people. It makes them feel that they and their work/actions are valued and appreciated. I say thank you to my husband for doing me a favor, or even for doing something he was supposed to do anyway. I say thank you to my kids when they've behaved well in an important situation, or when they clean their room, or even just when they do something I've asked them to do - because I think it's important that they know I value their effort and their time. Even though it's my "job" so to speak to feed my kids, clean up after them, etc - I can't tell you how much it means to me when my kids tell me thank you for dinner. Being a mom can be such a thankless job, and I do feel taken for granted quite a bit of the time. A little thank you can go a long way. As far as changing your mind set, think of how you feel when you've done something nice for someone and they don't thank you or acknowledge your act. It hurts, doesn't it? Keep that in mind when people, be they family, friends, or strangers, do something nice for you.
@ruperto (1552)
• Philippines
15 Aug 08
Perhaps a very very short story might help. There was a man who said: "I do not rely on anyone! I need help from no one." Then an earthquake occurred ; the ground split and a deep fall ended his life. The good news is that he woke up. He was only dreaming. He realized there is so much to be grateful for. Cheers :)
• Malaysia
15 Aug 08
I do always say thanks because it become a habit when you always practise it especially at school with my friend because my mom always said thanks the person will feel appreciated and could make them willing to help us again. So everytime I got some help or something that need me to say thanks I will say it. You can try it at home by saying THANKS to your mom or your youngest sister or brother because it can help you practise to not shy to appreciate what your family member have help you. Wish you luck!
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• United States
15 Aug 08
Get in the habit of saying thank you. Just because its a family member doesn't mean that you shouldn't show gratitude. Like they say, "Practice makes perfect!"
@bamakelly (5194)
• United States
15 Aug 08
I think that saying thank you is an act of human kindness as well as what the other person may have done for us. I believe in saying thank you to somebody for the things they do especially if they go out of their way for me. I have been going through some struggles with my family lately. My husband and I have a son together and we moved south to Alabama from Pennsylvania a few months ago. We do not have a car now. We have been getting help from some people and we are very thankful. There are those who do things and want nothing in return. They need our appreciation. In my experience I have always liked to be appreciated and when someone thanks me for some of the tasks I have done I feel good about myself. I feel like I might have made a difference in someone's day. I think that a family member holds the same weight as anyone else. We are all human and we deserve respect. If your family member has done something or given something to you then thanks should be in order. You would want the same thanks yourself, wouldn't you? I don't necessarily mean just to do things for people so they say thank you. There have been some times in my life where I have not been thanked and I just have to let it go, although it hurts sometimes if I feel unappreciated.