What is the right age

@know21 (1250)
United States
August 19, 2008 11:22am CST
My daughter is 10 years old, and she wants a cell phone. I told her she had to wait until she is 13. Do you think I'm being to strict by making her wait? She is very responsible for her age. I just think 10 years old is to young to be spending a lot of time on the phone,because I know that is what she will do. When she's at home here I can put a restriction on how much she can use the phone. I won't be able to do that if I get a cell phone. What do you think?
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@wachit14 (3595)
• United States
20 Aug 08
The longer you can get her to wait for a cell phone the better. I just read that pediatricians are very concerned about the impact of cell phones on developing brains. There is some fear that excessive use of cell phones in younger kids may cause some problems later on in life including possibly tumors. Both my kids had cell phones when they were in middle school. They were probably closer to fourteen or so when we got them phones and they were only to be used to contact us and let us know of their whereabouts.
@ladym33 (10979)
• United States
20 Aug 08
Honestly, I think 10 is way to old. I don't think a 10 year old needs to be having long conversations on the phone. There are many other things they could and should be doing. My oldest is 12 and I still don't see a reason why she would need a cell phone. I know where she is at all times and when she does activities and such I am always there to pick her up promptly when they end. If she has an emergency at school the school will call, I really don't see a reason for her to have a cell phone. If she needs to talk to a friend she can use the family phone. She does not need a cell phone and I do not need an extra bill. When she starts driving I will get her a cell phone, or when she starts going to activities with out my picking her up.
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@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
19 Aug 08
What is a 10 year old need a cell phone for? They don't need to be in contact with anyone 24-7. I think you are being more than generous with 13. My son isn't getting one until he can drive.
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@know21 (1250)
• United States
20 Aug 08
I think your right. What does a 10 year old need with a cell phone.
@dloveli (4366)
• United States
21 Aug 08
I have a daughter who is 13 wanted a cell phone. I was alittle skeptical about it. I wasnt sure she would understand the fact that its a privelege. I decided to go with a Virgin Mobile phone. I found that it was best for what I needed it for. VM allowed monthly bill to be paid with the top up cards you can buy for the prepaid phones. It also had monthly plans that when the minutes are gone they will not start charging you. They simply shut the phone off until 7 p.m. when the night time minutes apply. I saves from them having my credit card information or from having outrageous bills. It worked out great. I couldnt believe how good it has been. I only hope it stays like this. Nevertheless, she got her phone, I am in control, and she understands that she has it because she deserves it. SHe earned it. As far as age goes, I think all children are different. If she is responsible and can handle it, then why not? Is she away from home alot? Like at her friends, at the mall, or sports practice? If she is close to home all the time, she doesnt really need a phone so I would wait alittle longer. If she has a busy schedule, it would be the best thing. This way you can talk to her at all times of her being out of your sight. I would think it over, weigh the pros and cons. Then go from there. Only you can say for sure whether or not she is capable of handling the responsibility of having one. My oldest daughter lost at least 100 of them when she was in high school. I stopped buying them. I felt that she didnt see it as a privelege. When she began to work and pay for it herself, it all changed. As parents we know what are children are capable of. I hope it helps. dl
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@know21 (1250)
• United States
27 Aug 08
I have a niece who is 16 and text so much the first month bill was over $600. Luckily the cell phone company didn't want to lose my sister business. So they dropped the bill,and gave her a different plan with more free text minutes.
@Chevee (5905)
• United States
19 Aug 08
Cell phones, and children, my twin's (grand boys) want cell phones to they are 12 yrs old. We have this discussion often, I try to explain to them that cell phones are a bill, they really don't understand. I think when a child gets a cell phone they should be old enough to be responsible for the bills. If you go over your limit you pay. I have seen some very, very ,very high cell phone bills. Yes I think 10 is to young.
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@know21 (1250)
• United States
20 Aug 08
My sister daughter who 16 has a cell phone, and my sister got her cell phone bill last month and it was $625. All because her daughter likes to text a lot.
@dong1970 (1572)
• Philippines
24 Aug 08
I gave my old cellphone to my 11 years old daughter,its up to you to give her what she wants.The reason why i gave it to my daugther for her school is far from our home and time to time we can easily communicate when there is an emergency that she needs our help.But tell her to be responsible in using her cellphone,and my daugther does it.GOOD DAY
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@know21 (1250)
• United States
27 Aug 08
Thank you for your advice.
@cortjo73 (6498)
• United States
19 Aug 08
I am 35 and I grew up without a cell phone. I didn't even get my first cell phone until I was maybe 26...maybe even a little older than that. So, no...I don't think you are being to strict by not getting your 10 year old a cell phone. In fact, I don't think kids need a cell phone at all. Not even at 13. I guess if you get a prepaid cell with limited airtime minutes...and I do mean limited, then maybe you can keep some control. I wouldn't get her anything with the ability to text. I would allow her maybe an hour or 2 of talk time a month to make sure she doesn't spend so much time each month on it. So, it is all up to you. You can allow her so much, not much at all or nothing until she is older.
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@mtsandeep (1586)
• India
20 Aug 08
Don't buy mobile for her in this age. I think 13 years is also less to own a mobile. It will divert the children from their studies. Our child's future should be our first priority, and don't destroy it with a mobile. I think you can give it after her school studies or after 16 years or18 years of age .
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• United States
20 Aug 08
I dont think there is a right age..i think its on the individual child. If they are responsible and mature and you are able to trust them, well then rather it be 10 or 15, it is up to you based on those things. Also i wouldnt do it unless its a plan where i can control the mins they get and can check when they are on it daily rather than when the bill comes...many companies have these features now a days and i think its an awesome idea.
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• Italy
21 Aug 08
I think that the restrictions should never be good! establish rules is important because it must be aware of the boy through information sources that abuse could be bad for your health because the electromagnetic waves could cause serious damage.
• Philippines
20 Aug 08
I even think 13 is still young. Well if she insists, then let her. But tell her that she will be the one to buy her own phone and pay her own bill. If you are giving her money for allowance, dont give her a raise or any extra money. Then tell her that she will be responsible for everything. If she wont be able to pay the bill and the telephone company sue her for this, tell her you wont pay the bail. That will scare her, I think. Well of course the company suing her and not bailing her out is just a joke. Just to scare her. Well I just hope it scares her.
• China
20 Aug 08
Really,10-years-old age is too young to own a cell phone.My be It is right when she get the right age.I think the key point is whether a cell phone is necessary to a 10-year-old child. Cell phone is just a tool.To a child,it is dispensable in her daily life. When she is little old,it will be a right time.
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• United States
20 Aug 08
Well, I think it is a really good idea to have a cell phone for emergencies I suppose. When I was in middle school, I had a cell phone, but it was a prepaid phone. So, I really wasn't able to use it that often. But I do remember I was always on the home phone from when I was 13 all the way to 18. It may not be such a bad idea to wait a few years for her to get one.
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• Philippines
20 Aug 08
I suggest that when she reach highschool that's the time she can have her own cellphone. Yah, that's too young for her age.
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@sunshine4 (8703)
• United States
19 Aug 08
I think that 10 is way to young. My kids all got cell phones of their own when they were able to pay for their bill. I think it is crazy how parents are going and buying their kids these cell phones at young ages. My 14 yr old got one when he was 13 and before that, I would lend him mine if he was somewhere that I thought he might need a phone. This way I could get in touch with him if needed, but he couldn't just have a phone for the fun of it.
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@newtondak (3946)
• United States
20 Aug 08
We did not allow our children to have cell phones until they were in junior high school and participating in extra curricular activities. At that time, there was a need for us to be able to keep in touch with them about where they were and any changes in their schedules. Even then, we did not provide phones with unlimited minutes to chat with friends - we purchased Tracfones that you can put a limited amount of minutes on at a time.
@know21 (1250)
• United States
20 Aug 08
I want to get her one when she starts staying after school for extra curricular activities also. When she starts leaving the house more often. Not just so she can sit on it all day and talk to her friends.
@newtondak (3946)
• United States
20 Aug 08
We purchased a certain amount of minutes for them to use - if they went over that by calling their friends, they were responsible for buying more minutes themselves, but they were always to have enough minutes that we were able to call them when necessary, so they couldn't use them all up talking to friends.
@saundyl (9783)
• Canada
27 Aug 08
My mom has said that my sisters and i could have cell phones IF we got a job and could pay the bills ourselves. She said that if we werent old enough or capable of paying the bills then we didnt need to be using a cell phone. We were given her cell phone on long distance trips to use FOR EMERGENCIES ONLY.
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@know21 (1250)
• United States
27 Aug 08
Sounds to me your mom is teaching you and sister some resposibilies.
@bombshell (11256)
• Germany
20 Aug 08
i think its too early for her.but for in a proper use like emergency yes she can have it but you need to limmit her not just she consentrate txting than schooling.thas my opinion.
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@know21 (1250)
• United States
20 Aug 08
You and so many others feel the same way. Thank you for your feed back
@bombshell (11256)
• Germany
21 Aug 08
welcome and have a nice day.
@TheCatLady (4691)
• Israel
19 Aug 08
It really depends on were you live and her access to phones. If she is always out and about, running allover town and there are no pay phones then she needs one. If she is mostly inside and in places with access to land lines, then she doesn't need it, but it would be nice. I would definitely not give a kid an open line until they prove they can control there calls. The plus on giving her a cell is that you have constant access to her.
@a3sachin (531)
• India
19 Aug 08
Its not about being strict. Ask yourself, is it good for her? Its very important for children to realize the value of things. Tell me, is it really important for a kid of that age to have a cell? It could be a source of diversion. Shez still young; she has a lot to learn. If you ask me I wouldn't suggest you get her phone. She can use your phone or the land line right? Well, This was just my suggestion. Ultimately we want our kids to be happy.