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Laydee, some people are like that, they forget where they come from after they have obtained something. I am not pointing fingers at your country, I need to show you an example of what I mean, and give you a little bit of the mindset of someone who has left their country to go to another. My last boss, (she laid me off) was a filpino lady. She was so materialistic it was unreal. She did not like me, because I did not have the latest designer things, but there was another co-worker, who was just like her, everything had to be name brand, who she adored. I stayed at my desk working my butt off, and her and the other lady would be online, ordering Coach bags, or designer glasses, shoes, you name it. Every new cell phone that came out, they had to buy. It is too bad that people change, after they better themselves a little bit.

Ask your aunt what she most missed about the Philippines while she was gone and what good memories she will have about it when she leaves it again if she plans to do so... It often happens when someone leaves somewhere or something, a religion, a place, the people, etc. and misses them, but then forms attachments otherwise, there may be a bit of a fanaticism... a lacking of consideration for the others that have not had that change of view and a lack of appreciation for the old ways of others that one was once invested in herself... It sounds like this has happened to your aunt. If she stays long enough there again and if you try to show her the good non verbally without engaging in arguments with her you might be better off. The arguments just reinforce her position. The exposure to good times, happy people, peaceful natural surroundings, etc. might make her appreciate where she is more. The United States is a nice place. I live here. I assume it would be different than your Country. Yet I believe that your Country would be beautiful too. We are both people with love for our Nations... That is something we can share... I have no need to disrespect my own Country to respect another or to disrespect another to respect my own... I can see the good and the not so good in both and praise the good. If I were to see the not so good in my own country, perhaps I would try to assist yet I would not make a pest of myself in doing so.... Perhaps I would join other organizations that are trying to improve situations and leave family members alone as normally they will not want to hear it... I am wondering if there are organizations that have an interest in helping the people of the Philippines that perhaps she could join and funnel her energies into. That might get her off of your hands and use her energy for good... That way she would have the opportunity to do something positive rather than just complaining about the problems she sees.

It sounds like she has adjusted to the way of life in the U.S. to the extent that she chose to take out U.S. citizenship. That is her right to choose to do so too and if she is living permanently in the U.S. it is a good step for her to take. If she renounced her status as a Filipino when she became a U.S. citizen, then she is technically right in her claims that she is American. It might be that she is a perpetual complainer and does the same in the U.S. as she does when she is in the Philippines, However I suspect that her real problem is that she misses much about the Phiippines including her family, the sounds, smells, places and friends she knew before she moved to the U.S. Rather than admit that, she it very critical of everthing and everyone there so she upsets people. Sooner or later the people she is seeing while she is in the Philippines will not be as polite to her. She will then justify to herself that her decision to move to the U.S. and become an American citizen was the right one. Instead of letting her upset you, I think you should just ignore her rude comments and remember that if the Philippines was so bad, she would not be returning for a holiday. I cannot disagree with her comments that she is an American as my parents migrated to Australia from Europe when I was a year old .... just after the end of WWII. They became Australian citizens and that was how they saw themselves. They spoke English and lived as Australians, not European. It certainly helped my brothers and I adjust much better to the life here and we all consider ourselves to be Australians. It is the same with your aunt, she is an American albiet of Filipino birth.

No, I don't think the U.S. has done anything to affect your aunt, I would put all the blame on your aunt. I was just thinking the other day about starting a discussion on how friendly the people from the Philippines are. I mean I don't think there has been one Filipino on mylot who I've come across that wasn't pleasant. So I would just guess, but I'm thinking your aunt misses her home country, misses her relatives, but wants to make it seem like you guys are the ones who are missing out. I think she is covering for the insecurity she feels now that she no longer lives among her family and friends.

Hi laydee, [i]I admire you patience because if she was my aunt, I will always insult her every time she will open her mouth! We can't compare Country and she's lucky to have the chance to see outside her Country and learn from other culture but she should do something good rather than being a critique all the time! As I have said, she will be getting a lot of insults when she is my aunt! Sorry about that! There are really people who loves to pinpoint of the negatives things well if she can't contribute for the improvement of it, she better keep quiet![/i]

The situation is very pathetic.I also met this kind of people who boasts about a foreign country and never sees any good in one's homeland.wherever we go,whatever we learn,a true countrymen heart belong to his homeland

I have met many people who are not fit for anything but they just go keep on complaining they just never try to correct or help or give some ideas /suggestions to overcome it .When i see such persons even i feel like running away from them.. i dont know how your bearing with her, they just simply act as if they are perfect whenever they open their mouth they open it for complaints and only complaints you just cant go and shut their mouth at all.. Im sorry for being harsh but i couldn't control it.. As one of my friend who also speaks ill of our country , our country is still developing one, all citizens should work on it to taste the sucess without doing that she just simply speaks ill of everything and compares it with foreign countries.. she is not understanding that there is unity in foreign countries and all citizens are working hard to bring it up and none not even one complains like she does.. whenever i try to explain her she just says that im a stupid patriot of our country.. i can only say these people cannot be changed we have to ignore them and continue our own work instead of minding them.. Happy mylotting :)