rich man or poor man?

@dawnald (84146)
Shingle Springs, California
August 23, 2008 8:44pm CST
I was reading an article about Joan Collins. She said that most rich men were not good life partners. That they were egotistical and tended to view women as commodities. And when they got tired of one, they just traded her in for the next one. So what is it girls? If you had to choose between love or money, you couldn't have both, which would it be? Be honest. :-)
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@LadyMarissa (12161)
• United States
24 Aug 08
I WOULD CHOOSE LOVE!!! Money cannot buy you happiness NO matter how much you have!!! Love can give you more happiness than money can ever possibly ever buy. I'd rather be happy than rich!!!
@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
24 Aug 08
So would I. To a point... I guess I'd rather be rich and unhappy than poor and starving...
@Cocoa33 (921)
• United States
24 Aug 08
i think that i would rather have someone who is poor, and doesn't forget where he has come from. someone who is humble. i think sometimes when people get money they get cocky and arrogant. they let money change their attitude.
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@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
24 Aug 08
Money, fame, power...
@joyadalia (1409)
• Philippines
24 Aug 08
There are a lot of rich guys who are good and not egotistical. However, there are also a lot in society who are like that and do not care about the girls that they have a relationship with. As for me, I wouldn't care if he guys is rich or poor as long as I see and feel that he does love me and not just pretending to be. If not, well, the poor guy is alright too as long as he loves me, too. A poor guy might have been poor because of circumstances not because of choice. But if he is hardworking enough - just like my husband - he would be out of poverty in to time.
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@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
24 Aug 08
maybe not in some countries...
@relundad (2311)
• United States
24 Aug 08
Personally I would not marry a poor man. I, first of all would not find that much in common with the person, as money has a tendency to put you in common places, you will like or have experienced similiar things. Just like any other similiarities that I would look for in a mate, his financial status would be one of them. I would not marry someone that was not at least at the same level that I am.
@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
24 Aug 08
I might but it would depend on the poor man! :-)
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@bigtom1 (1573)
24 Aug 08
I'm not a lady but let me comment. I think there are two sections. There are men that get rich whilst being with their wives and obviously going through a lot as they get to a top. Then there is the second group of men who get rich and maybe do not have wives at the time or they are just aren't supportive. The second group will definately view women as commodities but the first one will be appreciative of their wives contribitions regardless of the extent. The second group is not helped by the tendency of women going for someone just for their reaches and that even makes them to view women as commodities. So if there is any of you who followed your men because of the money know that you will be taken as a commodity.
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@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
24 Aug 08
works both ways, I guess!
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@kiiizu (1901)
• Estonia
24 Aug 08
Are you talking about marriage? Well, I'm an extremely ring-shy one... but if I really HAD to, I would choose love. Why? Because in that case we could work and become rich together, and so I could have both, love AND money. In fact, I've been about five years in relatively happy relationship with a guy who's broke and who is struggling all the time to make the ends meet! Yet, though, there are some signs, the things MAY improve in the next future... OK, let's wait and see. But when I would choose the rich guy for money only and then he would loose everything he has? Where I would be then? No love, no money.
@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
24 Aug 08
Good point, just because he starts off rich does not mean that he will end up that way!
@kiiizu (1901)
• Estonia
23 Sep 08
Thank you very much for BR!
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@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
23 Sep 08
You're welcome!
@irishidid (8730)
• United States
24 Aug 08
I've done the love thing. It is over-rated. I'm going after the money.
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@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
24 Aug 08
I think perhaps you just haven't found the right person.
@irishidid (8730)
• United States
24 Aug 08
That would be the right rich person.
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@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
24 Aug 08
sounds good to me! :-)
@James72 (26829)
• Australia
24 Aug 08
You've asked the "girls" for an answer but what the hey! lol. Maybe a man that is not focussed entirely on money and materialistic pleasures is able to put more effort into the things that really matter in a relationship? Money is great to have but it is also a massive distraction and can quickly become an obsession that overrides many other important areas in life. Having lots of money can also mean taking simple things for granted and I can agree that someone with lots of money can get bored pretty easily and quickly seek new experiences just to keep things interesting for themselves. Of course this is not all of them! But the more money you have the more choices open up to you so whether it is a good thing or not it does make sense.
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@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
24 Aug 08
Then again a guy who isn't rich but is trying to become rich may be totally focused on making money and neglecting his relationship too!
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
24 Aug 08
Yes of course! Let's take money completely out of the equation then..... Rich or trying to get rich; a man NOT motivated by money is probably more focussed on the non-material things in life that do actually mean something. On the down side though, he could also be a lazy a@@! lol.
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• China
25 Aug 08
If let me choose money or love ,I think I would like to choose money,if I havenot money,love will not belong to me ,it is truth.
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@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
25 Aug 08
maybe...
• China
25 Aug 08
I think love is more importanter between love and money.Money is external things besides the body.
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@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
25 Aug 08
I would agree.
• India
25 Aug 08
he he he ..i am not a lady to comment on this topic...on my view there only are few girls who chose love ..all others will chose money alone....
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@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
25 Aug 08
I think we have more here who could choose love. But maybe the ones who would choose money are not on MyLot! :-)
@Ithink (10500)
• United States
24 Aug 08
I guess I would have to go with the poor man, ohhh that is right I did.. LOL! WE have money problems but then so do alot of people but at the end of the day when we see each other and he folds me into his arms and kisses my forehead ther eis nothing else like it. Money cant buy that kind of feeling!!!
@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
24 Aug 08
No, it definitely can't. :-)
@SHAMRACK (8525)
• India
24 Aug 08
Dear friend, As a man I do hope all rich people are not the same. There are rich people whom I had seen with better behaviour to women. May be those some rich person who behave bad to women are more focused. Hence I feel lots of rich people live happy with marriage and more often the other side is also to know unless we blame one side. May they became rich because of their that behaviour they possess.
@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
24 Aug 08
I'm betting that Joan's experience with rich men has a lot to do with the fact that these were rich men in Hollywood.
• Singapore
24 Aug 08
It is not really true. You are stereotyping all men - and that's hurting. How about rich women? Do they view men as commodities as well? Probably not, thus, it is not fair to give men this judgment.
@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
24 Aug 08
I'm not stereotyping anybody, I'm asking your opinion about something that somebody else said! I'm sure many rich women do view men as commodities. And many do not. Most rich women are probably more worried about whether they are loved for themselves rather than their money!
@palonghorn (5486)
• United States
24 Aug 08
I would have to agree with Joan, after having 'been there done that' and got traded in for the latest 'model'. He was egotistical and he loved his money, and I was nothing more than a trophy wife, I was 14 years younger than he was, and I will be the first to admit, young and stupid. After all he 'traded' in one for me. lol There is no doubt about it, I would choose love over money any day.
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@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
24 Aug 08
well I hope you at least got some money out of the deal!
@sdas86 (6076)
• Malaysia
24 Aug 08
Hi, I am not woman, so I am not sure how woman think. If I am a woman, I will choose love. I will put love as the first priority. Money can be earned in the future but love is hard to find when you miss the chance.
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@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
24 Aug 08
true, hopefully true...
• India
24 Aug 08
Though I am man but I would be thankful to u to raise this discussion. There is too much to express on this discussion. I think that human being at all is not commodity on the earth but some mindless people feel this evil. Perhaps you are not aware there are men as soon as they marry they got open the gate to richness. I have come across so many men like this. I would like to mention myself. Before my marriage my financial position was not bad but good for survival and to feed a modern family. After my marriage suddenly things change and I got to purchase a plot and start constructing house. My lone daughter born after a year and u will be surprise that I got first car and my daughter is so lucky that her first foot out was in New Car. Since then I have not seen back and things go on to improve like any thing. Today I feel I am the most contended man from all angles. To me women are not commodity but enough enough respectable and for me lucky also. Would u please discuss more on this.
@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
24 Aug 08
If you have the right partner, that can help you build a much better life. Glad to hear that your life is like that!
@sweetyethot (1738)
• China
24 Aug 08
will the poor man always be poor in all his life?if so, i wil not choose to be with him.and if the rich man regards money much more important than his family,or rather, as your said, views women as commodities,i wouldnt be with him too.so basically i think i choose love instead of money.back to real life,if concerning life partners,i will take the man's characters into consideration.
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@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
24 Aug 08
Of course if we're talking real life, there are a LOT more things to be taken into consideration...
• United States
24 Aug 08
Money
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@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
24 Aug 08
any reason why?q
@gabs8513 (48715)
• United Kingdom
24 Aug 08
No thinking about it I would go for Love I have always said Money is not as important as being Loved and Happy
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