Is it harder for you to forgive someone, or ask for forgiveness?

I think it is harder for me to forgive someone, speaking from my own personal experience that is. If I am in the wrong then I will admit to it, yeah it is hard to swallow that I might be actually wrong about something but if it happens then I will own up and apologise etc. But if I am wronged by someone it takes me a long time to forgive, if ever. Obviously the wrongs I have received that I am referring to are huge big whopping wrongs and not little wrongs and so they will not be forgiven. If it was something really little then yeah I guess I would forgive a lot quicker.

Hi AmbiePam, I think the hardest person to forgive is myself. I find i easy to forgive others and hard to ask for forgiveness although I am quick to apologise is I am in the wrong in some way. Ellie :D

To forgive is the hardest thing for me. But once I realized my mistake, I am quick to ask forgiveness and offer help to mend the damage to the best I can. I don't like hurting other people in any way but if I am hurt, I will surely hurt them back, after that I sometimes forget what happened although it depends how much I was hurt. I think most people are like you, maybe just pride or you have had bad experiences asking forgiveness before. Although I'm not quick to forgive I don't necessarily hold it over someone's head, I just walk away or ignore. Again it depends on how much I was hurt and how much I know or trust the person.

That totally depends on the situation. I was wronged by a best friend in high school and had a very hard time forgiving....in fact that whole situation caused me not to trust anyone too much.....If I do something wrong...I ask forgiveness right away because I have this big guilt thing going on....I guess you could say I am a people pleaser and want everyone to be happy! So I guess in some cases I have a harder time forgiving.....then I do being the one to ask for forgiveness.

I always ask for forgiveness if I know that I was wrong. Once my friend said that only strong person can realize your falt and ask for forgiveness. As for me it's harder to forgive. I'm not a person who can forgive easily. May be it's my problem.

I think it both are hard and I don't think I could any of them with ease. I mean, I know that nobody's perfect that is why I know that I can do wrong and people can do it too... It means I have to forgive people as much as I ask for forgiveness for the thing I've done... But both is so hard to do.. and i usually skip that and just try to act as normal as possible as the sign of "I'm sorry" and "that's okay"

I totally agree with you. I also have more problems asking forgiveness then forgiving. I also sometimes make it bigger then it really is. So I am always thinking the worse about everything which also puts alot of stress on me and the relationship with whom I am having to ask forgiveness from.

I think it may be harder for me to ask for it too. For the same reason. My mother comes to mind. If I apologize to her for something she just snaps at me and says "you're not sorry". Come to think of it I don't know if she has every apologized to me for anything. If she has it had to be many, many years ago. I apologize to my husband often and he accepts it well so I don't have any problem apologizing to him.

It is much harder to ask for forgiveness than to give it. I do find I can give it, but if it was bad enough, I'll resent the person even after giving forgiveness. Its a really hard thing to do.

Its harder for me to ask forgiveness, this is due to the effect of my false pride maybe ,but asking anything from anyone seems odd to me somehow. It creates the feeling that i am somehow helpless and there are things that i cannot do Forgiving someone on the otherhand is easy, i dont hold things against peoplefor anything theyve done , the relationship at times does not remain the same

I definitely find it harder to forgive someone because I'm the type of person who doesn't forget whatever wrongdoing is done to me. No matter how long it has been. I value relationships that is why when a person betrays me and hurts me, I find it difficult to forgive that person. On the other hand, it's very easy to ask for forgiveness because if I know that im at fault, il just say sorry sincerely.

For me,when i've done wrong, I see to it that i ask for forgiveness for the wrong things i've done. I don't think it's hard to ask for forgiveness coz as long as you ask for it from the bottom of your heart. But forgiving someone is not also that harder..(although it depends on the situation....) Bu when a person done wrong to me and ask for forgiveness i accept his/her forgiveness but the treatment to him/her is not like before...

As for me, if I know that I did something wrong I will ask for forgiveness right away. In my part, it's more difficult to give forgiveness than ask for forgiveness. This discussion just reminded me of a song entitled forgiveness..One part of the lyrics goes like his.. Forgiveness is more than saying sorry To forgive is divine

Yah it is always because it hurts.

I think that it is harder to forgive, than to ask for forgiveness. Asking for forgiveness seems pretty easy when you are truly sorry for what you have done, but when you are trying to forgive someone for hurting you, it is not easy. You can hold that hurt inside of you for such a long time.

It depends on the time and the the mistake someone has commited.Someone you love always gets an upper hand on forgiveness but, someone hates you will never go for forgiveness..

hi ambiepam for me its much easier to forgive someone else than to ask for forgiveness. I have asked but felt so uncomfortable doing it specially with family members. its easier with my friends however. but I can forgive with much ease.

I find that it is harder to forgive than it is to ask for forgiveness, because being the one giving the forgiveness makes you the "big person" and it is always harder to be the big person. I tend to think that if the forgiveness is not automatically given and it has to be asked for then it should not be forgiven, but forgotten instead.

Hi ambie, I think for me it is harder to forgive. I'm not to good at forgiving especially if you have really done something to hurt me or lie or make me mistrust you. I might eventually forgive but, I will not forget and I will not ever trust the same or feel the same again. I don't have a problem asking someone to forgive me if I feel that I have done something wrong. I am usually asking people to forgive me even when I didn't do something wrong. I guess it's my "guilt complex". I have to work on my trust issues. I really have a very hard time forgiving someone especially if I've done it before more than once and the person still continues to disappoint me.

I belive it is harder to ask for forgive ness. Usually because the only reason i'm even asking for forgiveness is cause i feel i do not deserve it. And for me I find it easy to forgive anyone. As long as you can tell they are truely sorry for whatever wrong, big or small, then there should be nothing holding you back from letting things go.