Can You Forgive?

yeah my actually i learning to forgive..

Yes, i can forgive but could not forget. It takes time to heal. It maybe a long process, depends on how deep is your wound. You cannot forgive when you are still are hurting. But learning to forget is hard but its the only one way to help and forgive ones persons who have hurt you. I have hurt in the past. I thought i could never learn to forgive the person who have betrayed me. But after those years, i have learned to forget him. And i know in my heart that i have forgiven him. Despite everything, i know i could never trust this person again, but at least, there was no remorse, no feeling of hatred left in my heart, its just a feeling of pity for the person that has hurt me so much in the past. But with my mother's case, its different. My mother has been through a lot. She has been hurt so bad by her sister who also betrayed her. She told me always that she can never forgive her sister and will die in her graves with that sin. My uncles and aunt didnt like it and condemned her. I was hurt. But I couldn't blame my mum. Her wound was so deep. Her sister has asked for her forgiveness, but she sense it was not a sincere apology. It was an awful thing to see them fight. I was just 12yo when it happen. Now after 20 years, her hatred toward her sisters are still there. I always pray that someday, she will find and learn to forgive. But i dont blame her for what she has been through. Because my mother is the best sister anyone could have. She has been there for them, and very patience despite the setbacks. But i know someday in her heart, she will soon let it go, and accept the past that it was over and forgotten... Only time will tell.

yes. i have forgiven so many times to so many of my own people in so many differetn situations. yes i understand it is quite very very difficult to forgive but at the same time there is nothing big like forgiving and taking them in your stride. it gives you comfort and gives embarrassment. but what else would you do? doyou take revenge. but that would not lead you anywhere instead only cause more trouble to both the parties. and whatever worng had to be done is already done. so why probe more into it with no positive outcome. so beter forgive and be worthy of.

yes but sometime it takes me a week to forgive and it depends to the weight of their how they hurt me.but in a process wounds are always healed.

It's so glad to hear that your learning to forgive. Forgiving is a gradual process. You don't have to hasten it for the reason of achieving satisfaction. Hopefully, that will continue and then eventually, you will carry a light heart. In my case, I have not been used to taking grudges. As much as possible, I really forgive people because I believe that if God has done forgiveness, how much more myself? It also gives you a lighter and more delightful feeling considering that you don't hold grudges to anybody.

I find it easy to forgive but i'll never forget & i guess that other people are like that aswell.

Yup, i can forgive very easily and if possible i wun wanna hate anybody.. Maybe i'm too soft hearted that ple can easily climb over my head or take advantage of me but i dun mind as long as they dun go too far ^_^ Being open minded and more generous in one's thinking is actually good, we use our moral and values to teach ple and motivate them, accepting what they wanna do, giving them chance to show what they are capable of, regardless of succeed or failure, we dun hold it against them.. In a way, we will gain their trust too and that's y i'm a good fren to most of my frenz ^_^ hehe Plus, being more forgiving makes me happier too and alot more relieved ^_^

I do, with it, it involves time. I easily forgive but there are times that it is really hard. Time really helps, it helps me forgive and then forget.

Good day.. Learning to forgive is divine and therapeutic as well. It help us to move on, forget the pains and accept the past. Yes, I've learn to forgive a long time ago, it's part of myself.

Good my darling daughter! The ability to forgive is a virtue. A forgiving spirit is not only good for those who faulted you but good for your as well. It lightens your hearth when it is releases the burden of hatred and wrath against anyone. It is also an act of obedience to God.The Bible instructs us to forgive as the Lord forgave us and this is found in Colossians 3:13 which says " Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you." As for me, I have always tried to be a soft-hearted person. As much as possible anyone who did wrong against me will always find forgiveness whether they ask for it or not. I am doing this out of obedience to God.

i think this was one of the hardest thing i had to learned to do through my progress i worked on in the last few years. but once i learned and read about forgiving others it became so easiy. i learned to forgive my father for things he said and even others. last year was my big test ever on forgiving. when i was told by my sister in law she thought i was going to try to do something with her daughter. but here it's a year later, we are talking but i still keep my gaurds up. but i forgave her, yeah we have to forgive others for ourself and let things go and not hold onto them. makes us feel better. even though we have to put up our gaurds still with some, like the ones who steals from us.

well i can easily forgive coz i'm the kind of a person who tends to forget what you did, or maybe it depends upon the situation. like for example me & my friend fought in college coz of our burden in school like thesis, projects, school work etc.. we just ignore ourselves within a week or two, then after that it seems that nothing happened. coz it's just a little problem. but if you lie to me or you betrayed me, it would take time to forgive you or maybe don't forgive you.. i'm the person who gives all my trust to the person i love or i care about, but if you break it, you'll never ever, get it back! or should i say i'm a good friend/girlfriend, but i'm a bad enemy!

it is simple to control your anger.. Bring your beloved person(men or women) in to your mind . that will control the anger and simultaneously tends to forgiving habit... this was worked for me.. try it....

Forgiveness is life. I can't live with hate. It generates hate in the world. Whomsoever, what they do, Just i need is to forgive. Just simple as I say, It is not simple to forgive everything. It needs introversion. I am too trying.

I do forgive to the people who hurt me. One of the reason I am doing is that I have found that people have forgiven me and also forgotten about the hurt or things I have done to them. It is a great feeling to forgive and forget. Most times this gives us a euphoria feelings especially when we forgive completely to people who hurt is. It is common to get angry or to say bad words. It is extraordinary and also take a lots of effort to forgive. Most times forgivness helps both people happy.

You must forgive if they are willing and feeling sorry for what they did. People who forgive are always bigger in moral values. They must not feel bad that what people will think about them if they forgive. I also firgive alot only if the other person realizes his mistake and feels sorry. We all make mistakes but clever people are those who learn from their mistakes and never repeat them again.

I try myself to forgive anyone who hurt me after thinking.I try to learn forgiveness.Hehe.But,I don't forgive someone who hurt me deeply.

Hi Roshand8, first, thank you for this discussion. It's vey, very important to bring this idea to as many people as possible. Ability to forgive is what can make our world so much better! This is the key to peaceful world and to solve those problems which Wolfie rises in his discussions about weapons and war. Something unforgiven also creates a little war inside you. In my childhood, I remember, I thought I should never forgive, I should revenge! Stupid, right? Fortunatelly with age I started learning to forgive, as well as you did. I cannot say it's easy for me. But it does give you freedom if you succeed in that. It makes your relations to other people better and easier. And well, Holy Books teach us forgive and there is a big reason to take a lesson.

I believe that everyone deserves a second chance, so I am always happy to forgive someone who has wronged me once. If they wrong me again, it becomes a lot harder for me to forgive them, and I sometimes find that I just cannot do it. I do try my best though, and wherever I can, I do forgive.

actually forgiving someone grew harder and harder as one aged. do you still remember the time when you were young, you can quarrel with yours friends,siblings or even parents, but the next day after a good sleep, your relationship would be the same again. everyone forgive each other. but for us as we grow up, we learn to hold grudge. i can don't speak to my friends after some quarrels or fights. and it takes a much longer time to forgive. this also why only the OLDER people think that 'i want to forgive and i know i should but i don't know how.' actually to forgive someone is very simple. behave like when you were young. you can think of that person positive side. and also the happy times you had spent with him/her.