Are you a butter inner?

Butter - Butter sculpture
@Humbug25 (12552)
September 5, 2008 4:45pm CST
You know when you start a discussion and someone responds to your discussion and then someone else comes along and writes a comment to that person's response, well are they butting in on the discussion? Do you get annoyed when people do that or are you the person that does that? It used to bother me because I always answer people's responses to my discussions and would be annoyed if someone had got there first. I must admit that I have done it myself but I just couldn't help it. Do you write comments to responses on othere people's discussions? Do you think there is such a thing as myLot etiquette and would this come under it? Do you get annoyed when people butt in on your discussion?
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@palonghorn (5490)
• United States
6 Sep 08
I guess I never really thought about it before now. I have done it myself, if I had a question about someone's response or if I thought their response was a really good one to the discussion. I never really thought of it as butting in. I have also had people comment to a response on my discussions, it doesn't bother me if they do. I have noticed that they normally leave their own response also. And it just goes to show that they are reading through the responses already left.
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@Humbug25 (12552)
6 Sep 08
Hi palonghorn Yes it is good to see that people are reading the responses before they respond first themselves! Thank you for your response
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@kosstr12 (245)
• United States
6 Sep 08
I seldom do this, unless the person asks for help in their response. Usually when I see this happening the "Butter-inner" is offering helpful information, so I don't mind it. It makes me mad when a "Butter-inner" try's to convince a person that they're response is wrong. This hardly ever happens though, but when it does it really grinds my gears. Luke
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@Humbug25 (12552)
6 Sep 08
Hi there kosstr12 I have seen people but in like this but I keep well out of it, it wasn't my discussion so I just responded seperately and left it be! Thanks for your response
@kosstr12 (245)
• United States
6 Sep 08
That's how I am, trying to avoid conflict around here. The last thing we need is a war of the MyLotters.
@camomom (7537)
• United States
6 Sep 08
i have to admit i do it. i never thought i was being rude by it though. maybe i am and didn't know it. we are on a site to have discussions and i just look at it as if you didn't want comments or responses you wouldn't post anything at all. if i have the same response as someone else i'll comment and maybe add on to it. others have done it to me and i don't mind it. i'm the same way in person if i'm in a group of people, if i have a comment i'll add it. i guess i am a butter inner. i don't mean to be rude by though. sorry if i've offended anyone by doing it.
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@Humbug25 (12552)
6 Sep 08
Hi there camomom and welcome to myLot! I really don't think you have offended anyone by 'butting in' I don't think people mind at all, I dare say they would let you know if you had! Thanks for your response
@camomom (7537)
• United States
18 Sep 08
you're welcome
@amanda333 (739)
• France
6 Sep 08
no i'd never get annoyed, its nice that people just pop in
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@Humbug25 (12552)
6 Sep 08
Hi there amanda333 Well feel free to pop in on mine anytime!! Thanks for your response
• France
6 Sep 08
thanks humbug25, thats nice
• Slovenia
6 Sep 08
lol I thought this was a discussion about butter at first!! lol /& yeah, I do love butter!! - although I try to eat not so much! :) lol/ Then I thought it was about 'butting in' in real life... Some people really find that annoying in real life.. I guess it depends, with who & in what manner.. I do sometimes 'but in' in real life, but I try to let other people room to speak too... Sometimes shy people really hate it if other people keep 'butting in' & they feel they can't possibly 'but in' too.. but with some people butting in is the only way you get to speak at all!! lol Online, I don't see other people replying to other people's posts as 'butting in' at all... I find it wonderful that a 'real' discussion develops.. I read somewhere that somehow such discussions are 'worth' more on MyLot too.. So sometimes I 'butted in' from consideration too.. :)) I'm not sure at all if it's true, but it would make sense for MyLot to value 'real' discussions more... At least it does to me.. :) Also, sometimes it's wonderful to find people one agrees with.. especially if it's about topics that aren't so 'popular' in real life.. eg on environmentally healthy living etc. I wouldn't call that 'butting in' either, but expressing delight & 'networking'!! :) lol
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@Humbug25 (12552)
6 Sep 08
Hi there LadyStrawberry Long time no hear and making up for it I see !! I too like butter, did you like the picture of the butter sculpture? I didn't know what picture to put in so I found that one and thought it was quite good. Anyway, yes, it is nice to hear from everyone and anyone during discussions no matter where they make response or comments provided they are not stepping out of line of course!! Thank you for responding!!
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@mysdianait (63996)
• Italy
6 Sep 08
I never butt in ever - I BARGE in all over the place, hook, line and sinker! I don't think I have ever offended anyone yet (well they never said so if I did). I see my friends responding on other discussions and I join in. I see something interesting and I'm there too I'm like that offline too. If I have something to say I say it. Wasn't that we got a tongue for?
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@Humbug25 (12552)
6 Sep 08
Hi ya mysdianait I consider myself warned then!! Thank you for your response!!
@capirani (1841)
• United States
5 Sep 08
I see it on discussions all the time. It does not bother me because to me that is the whole point of a discussion. I would much rather someone say something in response to a response than to post it as a totally separate response because it could get pushed way to the end and by that time not be relevant to what was being responded to. Also, I respond to responses if I have something to say to what they said. I do not consider a discussion to be meant to be just between me and each individual responder. I enjoy having other people respond to the responses. It brings out all points of view and makes the discussion more lively and fun.
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@Humbug25 (12552)
6 Sep 08
Hi there capirani Your point is very true and certainly valid! Thank you for your response
@aidenw (633)
• United States
5 Sep 08
hi humbug25, the way i look at it is that this is an open and free forum so anyone can post whatever, wherever, whenever, within the guidelines. so i would not be offended if someone did that on my discussion (although i don't remember whether or not it has ever happened). however, i have read that someone found it rude. so if i want to comment on someone elses comment i ususlly wait for the starter of the discussion to respond first before adding mine. i guess i'm the type of person who doesn't like to offend anyone. you admitted that you have done it yourself. well, then you should have no problem with it . it's not that big a deal, unless like others have mentioned, they're being rude or try to spam, in which case you can report them to mylot.
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@Humbug25 (12552)
6 Sep 08
Hey there aidenw Yes I did say I have done it myself but that wasn't until I got over the fact that it is ok to do so!! . I too wait until someone has mmented to a response before I add a comment of my own. Thank you for your response!!
@p1kef1sh (45647)
5 Sep 08
Depends really. Generally I am just happy that people want to chat. I have butted in and I have certainly been butted into. This is a discussion forum and to that extent I think that where someone has something valid to say they should feel OK about sticking in their two pennyworth wherever they want. However, I am less happy when the butting in is offensive. I have seen that happen a few times. If there is an etiquette I've not seen it. But there is, for want of a better description, good manners. I try to have some.
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@Humbug25 (12552)
5 Sep 08
Hi ya p1kef1sh Yes good manners, I think, is very important both on and off of myLot!! If people are offensive then you just have to shop them I guess and I really would be annoyed if they had butted in and been offensive!!!! Thank you for your response! Cheers
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@Sheepie (3121)
• United States
5 Sep 08
Well, I guess I have not been here long enough for this to happen to me, but I don't really mind when people do that at any time if they have interesting input. If they're just going to be rude or something they can just stay away int he first place. But if it's an interesting discussion i think it's reasonable.
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@Humbug25 (12552)
5 Sep 08
Hi there Sheepie Absolutely, if what they say is constructive then you can't really have a problem with it. Thanks for your response and enjoy mylot! Cheers
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@iyah10 (4116)
• Kuwait
8 Sep 08
No, I do not want to that silly things and interferring the others response unto the discussion because it is so irritating otherwise if they would like to do and explained it very well unto others discussion because if they do are smart enough......
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@Humbug25 (12552)
8 Sep 08
Hi there iyah10 Thank you for your response!
@dawnald (84157)
• Shingle Springs, California
6 Sep 08
It's OK with me as long as they have something useful to say.
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@Humbug25 (12552)
6 Sep 08
Hi there dawnald Yes, useless comments are pointless really! Thank you for responding
@Hatley (159586)
• Garden Grove, California
8 Sep 08
humbug no they are not butting in, we all have aright to comment on responses, as maybe we might add something to what was said in response.I do not get annoyed no.
@Humbug25 (12552)
9 Sep 08
Hi there Hatley I am glad to hear it and thank you for your response
@Ldyjarhead (10161)
• United States
6 Sep 08
I don't mind if someone else responds, as long as it is their own opinion they are giving, or they know what they're talking about. I can't stand when someone jumps in and gives bad information. I tend to not read all the other responses, but if there is one above or below mine I can't help but skim it, and if I see that I can provide input, I do. There are loads of discussions started every day asking how to do things, and then others will post below that they have the same question. I definitely jump in on those if I can help.
@Humbug25 (12552)
6 Sep 08
Hi there Ldyjarhead It is always good to give helpful input and should be gratefully recieved!! Thank you for your response